BAD NEWS!!!

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rae76
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Post by rae76 »

Nicky, I'm so, so sorry! Life is so unfair sometimes. My thoughts are with you sweetie.

Rest well now and hopefully the drip will quickly improve how you feel physically. Your health is the most important thing.

Hopefully your RE will have some answers for you tomorrow.
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Post by rae76 »

Nicky, I'm so, so sorry! Life is so unfair sometimes. My thoughts are with you sweetie.

Rest well now and hopefully the drip will quickly improve how you feel physically. Your health is the most important thing.

Hopefully your RE will have some answers for you tomorrow.
N77
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Post by N77 »

So sorry to hear your news i have been following your progress and learning a lot from you i thank you for that.
I hope your health gets better quickly and hope you keep us updated as i know alot of us are thinking of you and your DH during this awful time.
Also let your feelings out about this try not to let them overcome you (i know easier said then done).
Thinking of you guys.
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Post by Jovigal »

(((((HUGS)))) Take this time to heal and get yourself better.

So sorry, what a bummer! :x
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Anie2007
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Post by Anie2007 »

Nicky,
I am so sorry to hear the bad news..You and your DH are in our thought and prayer..Take good care of your self..God Bless you always..
Anie
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Kery
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Post by Kery »

Hi Nic
I've just been reading your post and yep it sucks. I have the oppersite problem (not responding) they told me this morning that my cycle will probably be cancelled if today's bloods don't show any improvement. I also fell like I am over the whole ivf thing. We both took time off work for the EC and biopsy and now it probably will be for nothing. I'm not sure if I can go through all of this again, I am so over it!

Hope ya feel better soon!!

Kery
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Post by daly »

I just logged in and read this devastating news. I'm so sorry. Please take good care of yourself and dh. I can't imagine how frustrating. You're in our prayers.
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Post by lara312 »

Nikki so sorry this is so s***t this ivf lark is so draining emotionally has well has physical hopefully with a bit of time you will come bouncing back hugs to you and dh
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Post by souris »

HI Nicki,

I am so very sorry to read you news, I know how frustrating it is (I also had 1 cycle cancelled). So you are not going to have you Egg collection or you will have EC but not the transfer this time??

Once again, so sorry, dont give up now,as you said, it was a "trial" cycle, very frustrating but next time they will know exactly what to give you.

Big hug
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04/ 05 ICSI -tive 02/06 ICSI. No fertilisation
09/ 06 ICSI. BFP!!! M/C at 12 weeks.04/07 ? ICSI -tive
04/08 ICSI BFP!!! M/C at 12 weeks
Feb 09 6th ICSI has started! neg
June 09 7th ICSI. Please make it happen!!
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Post by nicolamark »

Thx to eveyone, who posted here. i am over whelmed witht he support i have out in the web world. I wish i could invite ya al over for dinner, and really get to know ya all.
My friends have been next to useless, with all this.... but hey as long they dont get hurt and their family unit is fine, sod the rest....

I havent a slept a wink, all night. my eyes r so puffy. All i can think right now is 'right, i wanna quit this shit and live a fun life!!' but everytime i think that or say it, i cry. so theres a part of me day wants to continue....
this is so un fair. why us huh???
i know this is scary stuff, and i am afraid of getting ill again. thats why i darent do it, iv had my fingers burnt now by IVF..... how will i ever be positive about it again.....

All different things hav been going thr my head, quit with it all, be childless, dont do IVF, do do IVF! go bak to IUI, which is a walk in the park compared to this IVF. keep trying naturally, just in case DH's sperm production does start working, or Adopt a baby. Heck, i dont know!
The thing is all this will change next mth, but then maybe it wont!!

The clinic on the phone y'day said i need to wait 3 AF's so tha would be end of june...... with D/reg 3rd week in july and Aug being the month of Ec etc...... We have a holiday booked then, so really, it would be after that, so girls at the soonest, it would be sept if not Oct......

Not only that i have no more holiday time to take this year. so how could i explain that at work???
Parhaps IUI would be easier, need less time off for that.....
The other thng is Money...... we'll get a refund for some of this i hope, but even so, money is running out and ivf and iui costs.... the damn NHS sucks too...... we cant get either ivf or iui on nhs its so fringing un-fair.

I even spoke to dh last night about using a known donor, he said no way.
but what if it was a friend of a friend, who we didnt actually know....

I asked Dh too, about accupuncture, so u think tha may help him produce sperm???

Anyway, Souris, not even going to have EC. as its a high risk of OHSS.... I could die if i went ahead with EC

Kery, hugs back to you honey! this life stinks huh?? how r u coping with it all x x x
IUI using donor in 2005
1st IVF cancelled OHSS 2006
2nd IVF 4 eggs all failed to fertilise 2009
3rd IVF successful 2010 pregnant Miscarried early
FET negative 2011
ADOPTED DAUGHTER 2014
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Post by FionaA »

I'm so sorry to hear you're having such a rough time. It damned well hurts when it doesn't work out. It may sound a bit trite but I found that given a bit of time I was able to face another go and be reasonably positive about it (and second time worked for me!).

I'm sure your clinic can work out a different protocol for you and next time they should be well and truly on the watch for OHSS...obviously this time your health had to come first as it should...

As for your friends, it's pretty hard to find anyone to understand IVF unless they have actually been through it themselves, that's what I found anyway.

Hope you feel better soon.

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Post by Kery »

Hey Nikki,

Well I rang the clinic and yep they cancelled it. They nurse said "never mind dear just ring us on your first day of your next AF and we'll start again", and hung up. I was sitting next to the phone thinking 'WHAT!'
Our problem is dh (needs a open biopsy) so they only started me on a low dose. I'm not sure what I will do, maybe I should just put ivf behind me amd move on.

Exactly the same thoughts are running through my mind! My friends are the same "nevermind" they say. Dh works away so I rang him, gee the poor guy couldn't understand a thing I was saying over all the crying.

This afternoon I decided to stop crying and thought to myself 'bloody hell girl remember you had a life before ivf!'

I am wondering about the money side of it to? Maybe it has happened to other girls and they'll let us know what happens.

Hugs to ya
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Post by gbnut »

Nicky my heart goes out to you. what clinic are you at???? Dont giv euo hope as now you know that you respond well to drugs and next tim ethey will giv eyou less or a different one. What wre you on. also if they do not reinburse you at all i would seriously think about moving clinics to one that monitors you more closely.

Hope you are ok

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Post by ogr1 »

kerry and nicki
i remember all to well the sad news given over the phone.

i havent gone threw what you both have gone threw but
have gone threw ivf and the horrid roller coaster.
only you can decide when enough is enough.

there are many many women here that have gone threw so much and our holding there children now.

there can always be hope.
and you dont have to have a baby to be a amazing women and there are more then one way to have children.
there are alot of amazing women for what ever reason dont have children
dolly parten and oprah both come to the top of my head

just no that no matter what you have friends here who do understand and who do truley care.
i very much undrestand and care.
i so wish that i could make your dreams come true.
we werent blessed with our babies to raise here but we our blessed with our grandaughter
and all of our many adopted and foster children that touch our lives
and i am glad to add that our 6th grandchild will be born this spring!!!!
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Post by Melissa112 »

Nic,

I want you to know that you are in my prayers! This totally sucks! There are no other adjectives for it, it just plain ole' sucks!

I am sure your real friends are usless, they just don't understand - and honestly unless you've gone through it, how could you!

We are here for you babe!!! No matter what you need, we are all here! Praying for you, crying with you, and are emotionally there for you to vent to!!!

I do know what you are going through, DH and I are deciding right now if we even remember what our lives were like before IVF- maybe we should just go back to having fun and loving one another and stop this maddness. I love my DH and I'll love him with a baby or without one. BUT my heart keeps going back to with one.... wait, no, without one - no, no with one... it's a crazy roller coaster!!!!

We might take a break for a year and just focus on us, maybe do some fund-raising :wink: and love one another for a while, let's see if we remember how to do that. :?

We are here for you sweetie! Take care of yourself, please! Or else I'll have to come over there and beat you up!!!

Love,

Mel
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