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ok, finally the weekend is here and I can relax and write to my internet buddies (sorry, sisters)....

Patie.....congratulations!!!!!!, that is so amazing!!. I love that picture!!!. Send the other ones when you get them so we can take a better look of your great design!!!.

Nickster.....wow, your SIL is an amazing woman, not a lot of people offer themselves for something like that!. And as the other sisters said, she knows what she is going for, so don't worry about that!!. Also, about your progesterone reaction, why don't you try using the progesterone shots in a "trial cycle" before starting the real one, so you don't "waste" your embryos in case you have some sort of reaction, I am not sure if this is possible but ask your RE about it, it could be a possibility.

Mel.....congrats on AF showing early!!!. It is so great that you were finally given some answers, even when you knew most of them, but at least now you have a goal and you know what you are looking for. I am in Florida too, as you well know, but I don't pay $20,000/cycle, here they charge you something like $10,000 + meds (around $1,000-3,000). Also find out about the Shared Risk program, that is what I am doing, it is a program where you pay the cost of more or less 2 cycles (around $20,000) but they give you the option to do 3 fresh cycles + 3 FET, all for that price, until you get pregnant, once you get pregnant the program ends no matter how many cycles you did. If you get pregnant on the first try then you paid more for it, but if you don't then you are saving a lot of money. Not all the clinics offer it, ask them about it.

Sassy.....so Mr. Sassy is driving you crazy with the adoption issue, that is not fair, although I am happy that his last word was a positive one, but this is a very delicate issue for a woman, being able to have a kid is a very important issue in one's life, so I totally understand you, don't feel selfish, you are not being selfish at all, if anyone is being selfish I would say it is him, I hope you don't take it the wrong way, I am not trying to be mean with your DH at all, I just want you both to be able to reach an agreement and finally be able to have your baby (with or without your DNA it is the same), we all know what having a baby means to all of us, so be sure that we are all here to support you whichever path you decide to go.....

Angie...so good to hear back from you!!. I am glad you decided to start again, we will all be with you in this journey, I hope this is the one for you!!. For now lets concentrate is AF showing up!!!!. Let me know if you need the work of underworld Vicky to have AF show up :wink:

Fee....sorry to ask I don't remember, did you have your scan yet or not???, didn't you have one in these days??.

Well, I am still on the estrogen patches, now I found a way to remove the stickyness, the nurse told me to use nail polish remover, that seems to be working fine...I am starting to get scared about the cycle, now that the day of ET is aproaching I am starting to have dreams about me getting pregnant and when I wake up I am so scared that all this may end up just in that, just being a dream, oh well, I guess is part of this emotional rollercoaster.....Of course I also have fears that I will have a BFP, get my hopes really high and then end up in another m/c like the last time, I am not sure that I could go through that again, is so emotionally draining.....I am starting to get all this mood swings, the other day, after reading Sassy's post about your shopping I decided to go shopping myself to see if I would feel better, but I tried a lot of things and suddenly I started feeling that I gained so much weight, I suddenly felt a cow, and it was 9pm and I called and left a message to the IVF nurse to see if I could start a diet during my cycle :oops: (needless to say I felt so stupid afterwards, imagining also the nurse laughing at this moody IVF'er), of course when I got home we had a pizza with DH (part of the diet of course :lol: ). Oh well, I hope I don't get started with all this emotional thing, otherwise this will be a very looooong cycle...... :roll:

Hope you are all doing well........
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Hey were are all the sistas!!!!!.............come back!!!!!!, you don't want to see underworld Vicky pissed, do you? :lol:
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Patie~ Congratulations on winning with your dress! Great picture too! I'm sure you're relieved thats over. When do you find out what you won?
Answer to your question..We have a VERY close family. I have a twin sis, and two brothers and only one of the three is married. We are all extremely close and hang out a lot together.

Vicky~ Good to hear from you! I'm glad your stickiness is gone! I never thought of nail polish remover. Sounds like your cycle is moving right along. When will your ET be? I'm sorry your shopping trip didn't go well. Maybe you just weren't in the right shopping frame of mind. You'll just have to do it another day. Those d**n mood swings, they suck. We have enough to think and worry about during the cycle then you have those crazy side effects! It'll all be worth it. We are just going to think really positive.
Great idea by the way on doing the Prog. injections beforehand. I will ask about that before we do anything else.

Where is everyone today?????
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Patie!!!! Holy Crapoly! That is fantasomical! I knew you could do it girl! Goooo YOU! I cannot wait for more pictures!!! DH was looking over my shoulder when I had the picture up, and he said "why is the dress burned in front of her crotch?" I spit out my diet coke! That was the funniest thing EVER! Regardless of DH's ability to view a photograph in 3 dimentions... I think it looked AMAZING! I am so excited for you!!!

Vicky - That is so funny that your called your nurse about dieting! I love it, aren't hormones a stoopid thing! I hate them!!! Just my ridiculous AF is making my stomach all bloated and I can't fit into my jeans and I was pissed off this morning... anyway, I refuse to go shopping until after we find out if I can concieve.... but shoes don't count right? : :lol: Nail Polish remover - huh? This whole IVF cost thing is up in the air, according to all of the junk the RE said, it costs $18K... but - the nurse said they have a 60% discount for cash patients... that's us... but I don't know if that discount WAS the $18K, or not, we haven't really talked $$$$ with the RE... the first one was $12K, and this is a World Renowned clinic... I don't know maybe they feel they have a bigger head because of that, and feel they can charge more, I don't know... but your right, that's a good deal, because you never know if the thing is going to work. And if it does - well you are in a great place anyway. Hmmm... interesting!

Sassy - I am looking forward to hearing more about DH and your talks... things sounds like they are looking up! I am getting excited about you!!!

Angie - Thanks for stopping by, I miss you! You know we are here for you on this rollercoaster, what ever you need! To vent, to b!tch, to talk, advice whatever, you name it! :mrgreen

Nicki!!! The whole story of your loving, giving SIL brought tears to my eyes! That is a beautiful thing! I am speechless!!!

Well the lunch with DH's grandfather today was nice - he's getting really old, that was hard, we haven't seen him a couple of years. He can barely talk, and barely walk. Unfortunately there isn't a way into our house without going up steps, and he slipped walking into the house, and cut his arm pretty good, so it starting with washing his arm, and 5 band-aids - lots of neosporin. :cry: It's so hard to see him like that. He was walking around with a walker - well barely walking. We ate lunch, I made a yummy "dinner lunch" since their big meal is lunch- I woke up at 6AM to put the roast in, and basically cleaned up - dinner/lunch was really good. Then grandpa had to potty, and he pee'd all over his pants - he didn't even notice. It's just so sad to watch the people you love get old and loose their lucidity. :oops:

Okay, well DH and I are going to catch up on our DVR'ness.

Much love to ya'll!

Mel

PS we are going to Ireland next March!!! Wanna join us?
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Hello - just a quick hello and congratulations to our very talented one and only Sista Patie! You go girl! What a result - I hope you are feeling very pleased with yourself!

I am having a strange w/e - lots of preggo talk by people. DH 's friend's wife I mentioned a few weeks ago, still not drinking - the announcement is imminent I am sure. Then a couple we hadn't seen for a while join us for dinner with some more friends. She is sporting a noticeable bump and they hadn't bothered to tell us. Then I hear on the grapevine a couple we know who did IVF, are going back to the clinic to try for No.2. This makes me v nervous as I don't want to bump into them and have them tell the whole world they saw us there. (They were very open about their IVF, whereas we are not and want to keep it that way).

Ahh - the issues we have - I feel I am going a bit crazy in my head - think I am going to book another counsellors appointment - she is quite good and luckily it comes free with our treatment.

It's a lovely sunny day - that's one good thing - have been to yoga and walked home via the river so that was nice.

Hope all you girls are having a good w/e. Vicky will be our next sista on her way - good luck with the pizza diet. Don't worry about the jeans not fitting - it is only the drugs. When I was on my marathon stimming a few weeks ago I bought some new pants. I was a bit bloated so they were a bit snug but now they fit great. It's psychologically good to buy clothes when you are bloated because then you feel slim when they go loose again!
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Hello ladies... thank u all for ur congrats.... :oops:

Angie...i am sorry u r not so wohoo...but its ok! i mean being surrounded by prego news gets to u after some time! i know what u mean! especially that no one knows of the cycles! i was thinking of advices on how to deal with that but i am clueless...what i used to say is that i am to busy to have kids :D ....of course they'd give me the lecture but hey better then the pitty look.... i dont know if i am off track and i am just blabing...
see the counselor... i am sure she'll help! i wish i had one but here they r so expensive and i dont trust them!!! anyway...enjoy the weekend...hugs

Vicky....countdown started yet??? glad u found a solution for those patches i know how frustrating it gets especially when i went to the beach and my bikini got stuck on my touchy where the patch was! intersting site...
dont worry about the weight! they r just those damn hormones...enjoy the food... tell me what's better then a chocolate sundae with cream, caramel, hot fudge and some strawberry ....mmmmm :lol:

Mel...i am sorry for your grandpa...i know its so hard to see them go through this but think how lucky he is with all you guys loving him and taking care of him... and believe me that counts alot for our elderly, he's not alone!
ur DH's cute!!! btw hints on the shopping spree...the list can include shoes, scarves, hats, bags, jewelery, t-shirts (they can always strech if u got preg...), swimming suits, sunglasses, u name it... just stay away from pants and some tops... who cares when we have all that list !
if i didnt have babies yet count me in for Ireland....gotta see Bono (from U2...i just love him)

Nickster...how r u today? family is the best...seriously!

any news from Amy???

hugs to all...
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Patie- Thanks for the shopping list! How fun! I'll let you know as we get closer to Ireland! Wouldn't that be fun! :mrgreen

Angie - I can so empathize with you, I just got back from a Baby Shower thinking with my new sense of peace I'd be good...but NOOOO! More on that later, but it sucks! I so feel for you! I am thinking it's time to visit the counselor too!

So this baby shower was for one of my clients that got married last year, and she had IVF, but she kept it quiet, now she's pregnant with twins, and kept saying Melissa your next, it's you next... blah,blah, blah... well one of the girls said, you know when you relax it'll happen, it won't happen for you until aren't thinking about it... gosh, why do people do that! AGGGRRR!!!! Oh well... so it got under my skin abit...

But I had a lovely SUnday with DH, we went out for a very nice brunch, it was a great buffett, and I am still stuffed! Dh is now talking about dinner, but honestly, I can't even think aobut food! We had Eggs Benedict, Made to order omelets, prime rib, fruits, pastry, bagels, salmon, capers, crepes, french toast, baked ziti, veggie lasagne, tiramsu, cheese cake, buscuits, jam, etc... it was so yummy!!! Then I wen to the baby shower and had Mimosa's and cake.... gosh, what a diet day! :D

I hope you all had a great weekend!!!

Kisses to ya'll!
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Hello Mel...seems we r alone today!!

Well the buffet sounds so yum! its already lunch time and i only have a cockie... :( i hate to eat at work so i just nibble on cockies till i go home!

btw i hate it when they say..."if u relax it will happen"... i mean F...off! sorry for that but i cant tolerate advices from someone who doesnt know what we go through! ... i guess i just had a mini rant oh well!!

anyway got to get back to work...today i had a TV interview for the win and i was stupid enough to listen to DH and not do my hair yesterday...cos he said they'd do it for me... but guess what i have long and curly hair and it takes a lot of time to make it straight and at the station they dont have that much time... so i ended up with a poney tail and tons of make up and mind u i have a hudge puffy round face! imagine that on the monitor :oops:

anyway...the interview went well it was very casual and fun, but its wierd as its my first time on tv...they'll air it tomorrow on the local Tv station!

enough about me. sorry for the blab...wish u all a super monday!
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Patie~ WOW you're even a celebrity now! That is so cool! I'm sure you looked great. Congratulations again on winning!

Angie~ I'm sooo sorry you have to deal with all that prego talk. The timing couldn't be worse..could it? Isn't that just the way it is? Don't know why it has to be like that. It's nice that you have a good counselor to talk to.

Melissa~ Well I think we all have those idiots in our lives that always have "suggestions" for how to get pregnant! For those "repeat offenders", I always tell dh, if nothing else they should be able to tell by my face what I am thinking..."For the love of God SHUT UP".
Sorry about your grandpa. That poor thing! I'm sure he had a great time being around you guys though. He probably loved that.

So to end my story... my sil called yesterday and said I know you and your brother talked the other night but I figured I would call myself so we could talk. She said I know he told you we would want to wait unitl next year so we wouldn't have to rush (for her to deliver in the summer). She said as far as I'm concerned we could do it this August, so whatever the outcome you could go on with your lives that much sooner (if it didn't work adoption, etc.). She told me again how perfectly willing she would be to do this for us. She said she can't imagine how horrible infertility is for anyone and thinks of this as a "small" contribution to us! I told her I feel bad that after one attempt at IVF I feel a little bit like I'm "pawning" this off on her. She said "I don't know how you feel about wanting to be pregnant yourself but I would almost rather do it for you because you've already been through so much." How amazing! She is such a wonderful person!
Then...the bad news. She called her insurance company after we got off the phone to see what they would cover if anything. They wouldn't cover any pre-natal visits or the delivery but they would cover medical costs if something were to happen to her during the pregnancy.
So just like with my brother, I thanked her over and over for the offer and told her words can't express how greatful we are to have her offer to do something like this for us. I still get choked up just thinking about it!

Ok..we have some people that have been MIA for waaaay too long. Where's wanna, & Amy? And Sassy should be back by now.
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Oh and Fee, where are you?
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Okay so TMI alert coming... totally unrelated to IVF...

I have had this insatiable ichty bottom if you know what I mean, but it also burns and is stingy, like all the time! So I thought well maybe it’s hemroids.. so I put some of that oTC cream on it… nothing, then I thought maybe it’ll go away… but nooooooo… it’s been this way for a month now! I am a sissy and I don’t want to go to the dr for something silly. SO I called the Dr. on Friday and they called me back, but I didn’t get the message until after they closed their office…. So they called back today to find out what’s up, and I explained my symptoms and the appointment girl said “Well we need to get you in right away! Your dr’s first appointment is May 9th, but can you come in on Wednesday”… Uh oh! That makes me nervous! All I can think about is my cervical cancer moved to by butt! I know that's probably not it... it's probably something ridiculous... but anyway... that would figure right, Coochie cancer... now, Cancer of the pooper! We shall see! :?

So… Patie, I am sorry about your hair, that stinks! But I am sure you looked totally adorable!!! :D

Angie… I feel for ya babe!!! People drive me up the effing wall! I actually said “ya well it look like we are going to have to do IVF – so we are just doing the sex thing, because we like it” and that shut the little ho up! :shock:

Nicki – Most insurances don’t’ cover for surrogates… which suck! So I am sorry about that! Is she still willing to do it? I think that’s an amazing thing she’s doing for you!!! I had one of my dear friends tell me today, that if my eggs are rotten that she’s got good ones, and I am welcome to them! I thought that was so sweet, I broke down in tears! She’s not blood, but that was really sweet! :oops:

Where are Wanna, Amy, Sassy and Fee!!!! Darn them! I might have to send out a patrol car! :shock:


PS- I ate 5 Tag-a-long Girls Scout Cookies today!!!! :twisted: Darn those stupid cookies! Darn the stress, darn the whole thing!

PPS - My ebay fund is already at $170! Thanks for the idea!!

PPPS - I really dont' think I have cancer... but for about 1/2 of a 1/2 second it did cross my mind.
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Hello!!

Sorry it has been a while. Now I am lost and trying to catch up on all the posts.

Mel- sorry about the itchy bum! Weren't you the one with ugly toe? Girl you are falling apart!! Where in Ohio are you going? I'm from Ohio. But now I am in TX.

Patie- that is so exciting! The picture looks great! Glad you liked your US tour. I can't wait to go to San Antonio, it sounds fun. Is that where you got the giant margueritas??

I am waiting for AF. I still need to call and order my drugs...and stop having caffine, and eat better, and paint my toes blue!

Have a good night ladies!
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Hey Jenn! I've missed you! 8)

Yes, that's me! Ugly toe, itchy bum! I'm just totally falling apart!!! We are going to Cincinnati OH... then next year (January - off to Houston)

I hope AF arrives soon!!! Darn her, fashionably late!!! And painting the toes blue is a priority!!!
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hello ladies...where's everyone??

Mel...sorry about ur touchy i'm sure its nothing serious but better see that doc..good luck!
btw great job on ebay!! wohoo...katching....ur sil is amazing really! and cant u say to the insurance that it was a normal pregnancy??? i mean no need for them to know its an IVF!
Enjoy the cockies dont feel bad! they r there to be eaten!!! that's how i think of it!
so ur going to houston...all my inlaws are there! its a nice place i liked it... but very wide and spread out! they dont walk there...but nice steak house restaurants!

Jenn...how r u? looks like u have a long list of things to do, but as mel said those blue toes are definetly a priority...

hugs to all the MIA ladies... we miss u girls!
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Hi Ladies, just a quick hellooo I've been flat out and accordingly have not been able to use my work computer to post (damnit). I've been popping on to check on everyone and so much is going on! I'm going to try to purloin DH's laptop tonite and do a more fulsome post...I may be thwarted by the fact that I have to take a file home and try to trace some funds which are being spirited away to Malaysia....that's my plan hope I can pop in tonite....Fee
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