no baby shower??

deepa100 · Post by **deepa100** » Sun Apr 15, 2007 10:06 pm

Hi,
I always worked with/went to school w/ a lot of guys due to my engg background. A few friends I have are in the late thirties and trying to have kids themselves. The others that have kids are far away. My sis never has been real lively even though she only lives a few min. away from me. She is also not the kind of person that would do things for others. Hubby's family is all around me, say that they are very excited about the baby but no one brought up a baby shower! My mom would've done some thing but she lives in a different country. I usually don't care about this type of stuff but for some reason, this is bothering me...

kholtan · Post by **kholtan** » Sun Apr 15, 2007 11:10 pm

Deepa~ This is just an idea but one of my friends hosted a "Baby BBQ" at their house to invite friends to and it was really cute. They had baby back ribs, baby corn, and some other baby themed things to just to say "Hey come have a big BBQ w/ us to celebrate our new life." It was super sweet and everyone brought gifts and the daddy was super proud to be hosting the first party for their baby to be.

I'm sorry it's making you feel a little bummed. Sometimes people think that someone else is doing it and they don't offer. I'm sure you have many many people around who love you dearly and would rope the moon for you. I hope it all works out happy.

Take care~
Kimberly

Xrayem · Post by **Xrayem** » Tue Apr 17, 2007 6:33 am

Hi Deepa,

I say throw your own! I am. I have tons of friends who have offered to do it for me but I really wanted to invite friends and family that live interstate and so we are making a weekend of it. My DH is taking the men out while we have the shower at my house and then that night we are having a big BBQ with everyone who has travelled. These people have supported us through the whole IVF journey and this is my way of thanking them and including them in the celebration.

I have allocated jobs to different friends, for example one friend is organising the games, another is providing gift ideas and my Mum is doing the bulk of the cooking. I just sent out the invites and will provide the venue.

I think Kimberely has hit the nail right on the head when she says that everyone is probably assuming someone else is doing it for you. Sometimes the idea of throwing a party can be a little daunting so if you get the ball rolling and ask good friends to do small jobs it will make it a joint effort.

Congrats on your impending bundle of joy!
Em

kholtan · Post by **kholtan** » Tue Apr 17, 2007 1:06 pm

LOVE the idea!!! We have had to have the "Can Do" attitude from the beginning. . . why stop now?

deepa100 · Post by **deepa100** » Sat Apr 21, 2007 8:55 pm

Thanks for all your replies. We decided we will do the celebration when our baby comes home from the hospital. That will be the real celebration.

Back in India, family always does a baby shower and I am just a bit perplexed by my (american) in-laws not doing it. It could be a cultural thing.

Gillespieb · Post by **Gillespieb** » Sun Apr 22, 2007 1:39 am

I love the "baby BBQ"!!! Although it sounds...well never mind...

But yes, I'd agree! Throw your own party! It's not against any laws nor folkways in my opinion!
Hope you have a great one!

and...

CONGRATS!!

no baby shower??

no baby shower??

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