Hi, my name is Laura, I am 29 years old. I have been married for 3 years and we started trying for a family straight away. Nothing happened so went to doctors and had all the blood tests and other tests done, and found out I have polysystic ovaries. In Jan 06 I was put on a course of clomid, 1st course I took, much to our surprise, we found out I was pregnant. As much as I was so happy, also worried loads too. I started spotting at about 6 weeks but the doctors said this was nothing to worry about. At about 9-10 weeks, I had quite bad spotting so went to the hospital and they did a scan, everything was great, saw babys heartbeat, and felt so much better knowing that everything was ok. Two weeks later, i woke up with what felt like faint period pains. Didnt really think much as in the books that you get, it said that at this stage, 11-12 weeks, you could get feeling like this. It got to the evening and I the pains were getting worse and my spotting had got worse. I rang the hospital and they said to go in to be monitored. The pain was so bad, I knew what was happening, just couldnt really believe it was happening to us. You read about these things but you never think it is going to happen to you. I lost the baby at about 3 in the morning. The worse thing was having to have a scan the next morning for them to tell you that sadly there was nothing there anymore.....
Its now just over a year ago when it happened and even now, i still cry about it, just writing about it now brings tears to my eyes. I guess when you want something so much, you dont always get it. I have had more clomid tablets and injections, but nothing has happened. I am currently on a 6 months waiting list to have a laprocopsy. In my mind, i know that we are going to have to have IVF, I know you are meant to stay positive all the time, but its so hard to. Anyone who has read that and is still awake, I would love to hear your stories. xx
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It's only human to have moments that aren't so "positive". We call the ivf process a rollercoaster for a reason--you have some days when you're up and some when you're down and you just have to hang on and try not to lose it!
I was very sorry to ready about your baby. Life just seems so damned unfair at times, doesn't it?
Here's wishing you the best of luck and sending you tons of baby dust!
I was very sorry to ready about your baby. Life just seems so damned unfair at times, doesn't it?
Here's wishing you the best of luck and sending you tons of baby dust!
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Laura-
Try to stay positive. I have learned it is best to surround yourself with people who understnad what you are going through. I have a dear friend who has been through this and it has been a saving grace for me. I do have a 3 1/2 yr old son, we did use clomid after trying for a year and half and it worked. This time we are on 2 and half years, clomid did not work, IUI 3x's did not work and 1 failed IVF. We were just scheduled for 2nd IVF in 2 weeks and it got cancelled b/c I was in hospital and symptoms continue so now our lives are on hold again.
All I can say toyou is, it is your right to be mad, angry, disappointed, upset and down right depressed! The waiting game sometimes is the hardest part. I hope your surgery is successful and after that you and your husband will be able to move on to IVF. For me the busier I am the better b/c watching each day go , every month day by day just waiting is difficult. Keep active, stay busy and remember YOU can feel any way you choose do not let anyone tell you it is different, YOU will get through this, when is the question. I wish yout he best!
Christina
Try to stay positive. I have learned it is best to surround yourself with people who understnad what you are going through. I have a dear friend who has been through this and it has been a saving grace for me. I do have a 3 1/2 yr old son, we did use clomid after trying for a year and half and it worked. This time we are on 2 and half years, clomid did not work, IUI 3x's did not work and 1 failed IVF. We were just scheduled for 2nd IVF in 2 weeks and it got cancelled b/c I was in hospital and symptoms continue so now our lives are on hold again.
All I can say toyou is, it is your right to be mad, angry, disappointed, upset and down right depressed! The waiting game sometimes is the hardest part. I hope your surgery is successful and after that you and your husband will be able to move on to IVF. For me the busier I am the better b/c watching each day go , every month day by day just waiting is difficult. Keep active, stay busy and remember YOU can feel any way you choose do not let anyone tell you it is different, YOU will get through this, when is the question. I wish yout he best!
Christina
Hi Christina
Thanks for your support. Sorry to hear that your 2nd IVF has been cancelled, that must be hard. We have decided that we are going to go for IVF now, but I will still have the surgery aswell. Just got to try and find out where the best place to go is. Like you, the busier I am the better. I dont know about you, but I think I am doing ok and then you hear that someone else is pregnant that you know and it kinda hits you again.
Fingers crossed for you though hun, hopefully it wont be long until your son has a little brother or sister. Keep your chin up xxxx
Thanks for your support. Sorry to hear that your 2nd IVF has been cancelled, that must be hard. We have decided that we are going to go for IVF now, but I will still have the surgery aswell. Just got to try and find out where the best place to go is. Like you, the busier I am the better. I dont know about you, but I think I am doing ok and then you hear that someone else is pregnant that you know and it kinda hits you again.
Fingers crossed for you though hun, hopefully it wont be long until your son has a little brother or sister. Keep your chin up xxxx