Happy but permanently worried

Tracey D · Post by **Tracey D** » Tue Nov 26, 2002 12:08 pm

Hi Everyone, Well I never thought I would ever get onto this page but yes after 5 years I am pregnant. But no pleasing me since I have found out all I can do is worry myself sick and am petrified of having a miscarriage. I know it is really silly to worry because that won't do me any good at all. I am also off work at the moment because I hyperstimulated so am taking it easy. I think I will probably feel better once I go back to work because I will have something to occupy my mind. I have my six week scan on Saturday 7th December and can't wait for it to be here - I'm just praying that everything is going to be alright. Any of you got any tips on keeping calm? Does every woman worry like this or is it just us who have gone through so much heartache to get to this stage? Tracey D

Sarah30 · Post by **Sarah30** » Tue Nov 26, 2002 1:05 pm

Hello Tracey I too am still worried and don't think it will go away until after I see the scan (mine isn't till 10th) - I still don't think I quite believe there is anything in there! I don't think everyone worries like we do, but then they've not been through the highs and lows that we have. With the IVF there's so much high hope and then it's all snatched away again, and I guess we're just waiting for that to happen (NOT THAT IT WILL), but it's been the pattern with IVF from the beginning. No tips for not worry, except try to keep busy - I've been at work the since I found out and it does help the time pass more quickly, although I have a major 'can't be bothered' head on at the moment, plus am sooooo tierd I could sleep for England. Good luck with your scan, hope all is ok love sarah x

JD · Post by JD » Tue Nov 26, 2002 1:25 pm

Hi Tracey I don't think you ever stop worrying, mainly because of the emotional rollercoaster we've all been on. But that said, once you get the 6 week scan and 12 week scan over, you'll feel more reassured and can start to relax a bit more. Seeing that heartbeat on the scan is the best ever!!! We were lucky and were successful on our 3rd attempt, but it had taken 6-7 years of trying to get to that stage, so I now how you feel. Take it easy and once you're able to go back to work it will occupy your mind. I must admit though that although I was back at work, it didn't control me like it used to. I made sure I had proper lunch breaks and tried not to clock up unpaid overtime like I used to. If things went wrong I just kept reminding myself of this every increasing bump inside!!! Wishing you all the best JD

bibby · Post by **bibby** » Wed Nov 27, 2002 8:40 pm

Hi Tracey Snap! I'm finally pregnant too after 5 years. I'm only 6 weeks and have a scan at 8 weeks but I think like the others have said, the best thing you can do is try to relax. Positive thinking, visualise yourself with a baby, pushing a pram, etc. It sounds pathetic but it helped me calm down and believe me, I'm a very down to earth person who doesn't usually go in for that type of thing!! Not long til your scan, you'll have to let us know how you go on. I'll still have a week to wait after you. Think happy thoughts (cheesy I know....) love Bibby

Tracey D · Post by **Tracey D** » Sun Dec 01, 2002 8:30 pm

Thanks girls for trying to make me feel better. I still keep worrying about every twinge and pain and think oh god this is it I'm going to lose the baby. Still all seems sureal and am getting worried for my scan on Saturday - definitely wouldn't be able to cope if anything is wrong. Complete madness you wait for ages for this to happen and when it does you still keep worrying. Just want the 12 week scan to be out of the way and then I will feel better. I am just one of these people who never bloody stops worrying - can you imagine what I'll be like when I have a baby I won't sleep for worrying. I know I'm a daft cow. Thanks for your advice Lots of love Tracey

Jilly · Post by **Jilly** » Tue Dec 03, 2002 5:02 pm

Hi Tracey... I just wanted to say, that I felt exactly like you are now....and to be honest, nothing...no amount of reassurance helped!!! This little baby (now 31 weeks along) is so precious....the most precious thing in our lives....that its bound to worry you...especially after such a long time of trying!! I had a scan at 5 weeks which showed a sac (although no heartbeat yet at that stage)(I work in a hospital which made it easier for me to have a scan) and they all said that it was normal....but I wished I hadnt had the scan as I worried sick until my next scan at 7 weeks to see a little heartbeat! When I did see it....I absolutely broke down in tears....had to go off to the loos in private....and cried my heart out....with relief.....etc.....but it was short lived...as I continued to worry then....until my 12 week scan....all was great again....it was gorgeous to see baby....then I worried again....you get the point huh!!!! I am relaxed about things now....especially as I can feel the baby moving every day....which is wonderful and reassuring...so I really think the extreme worrying will start to get better as you pass each hurdle...and ....I think a lot of the twinges, aches and pains are to be expected!! I certainly had tummy aches and pains...which were all normal....and you're not daft!!!! Its a very emotional thing you have been through.... Good luck with your scan! Let us know how it goes xoxoxo Lots of love and hugs Jilly xoxox

amanda · Post by **amanda** » Wed Dec 04, 2002 12:57 pm

Hi Everyone and particulary Tracey I never in a million years thought I would reach this stage. After 3 years of trying, I finally proved positive on Monday and am still in a state of shock. Tracey, your posting made me laugh and cry both at the same time. Your emotions and thoughts are exactly like mine. My first scan is on Wed 18th December and am now terrified there will be nothing there, no heart beat. This website is great however so post all your fears and together we will overcome them. This time next year, we'll be no doubt worrying about something else. How many babies are you expecting? My consultant thinks I am only carrying one, but was hoping for two, but heck certainly not complaining!! Amanda

Louise · Post by **Louise** » Thu Dec 05, 2002 2:51 pm

Hi Tracey I know what you mean but I think it is all normal for us to feel nervous after all the pain and waiting we have gone through to get to this stage. I was 9 weeks yesterday and have been to see my midwife for the booking in appointment. She has organised for me to have a scan on 24/12 to check for downs syndrome - can't tell you how worried I am about that. Take care and get lots of rest. Lots of love Louise XXX

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