shower ettiquette-what do you think?

[wannababy1229]

My mother told me today that she is going to begin planning my baby shower. I told her that it's going to be small because most of my friends and some family have moved to distant locations. Do you think that one is "begging for gifts" if they"invite" people that they know won't come due to distance? What are your thoughts regarding this? Any info is welcomed. Thanks a bunch!

[shanny]

I sent invites to people that I knew would like to come if they could. I sent them to my sister-in-laws and just wrote know you can't make it, but wish you couldor we'll miss you, something like that. I don't think it "solicited" gifts from anyone that wouldn't normaly have given me one anyway. Hope that helps!
Shanny

[Xrayem]

Hi,

I had my shower 3 weeks ago and also decided to invite friends and family from interstate, knowing that they probably couldn't make it. I invtied them because I wanted them to be there and they have been such rocks throughout the whole IVF experience, I feel that this pregnancy is as much theirs as it is mine. Also I think that its lovely to recieve snail-mail that is not a bill - it always brightens my day.

The outcome was that all of the people I invited actually came and we made a huge weekend of it all. My best friend drove 6 hours with her family and I am still so touched that she made the effort (she said don't be silly, she wouldn't have missed seeing me fat for the world!). we had the shower in the afternoon and then a BBQ with the men that night and everyone stayed over.

I think that people will be touched to be thought of and some may even suprise you and make the effort. Any gifts sent will be a bonus but certainly not expected.

I'm sure you will have a great day, and best of luck with the rest of your pregnancy.

Em