THIS IS MY FIRST TIME I'VE EVER DONE THIS SO STICK WITH ME COZ I DON'T KNOW THE LIGO YET!
ME AND MY HUSBAND HAVE BEEN TTC FOR 6 1/2 YEARS! WE HAVE UNEXPAINED INFERTILITY! (SOMETIME THINK THAT IF WE HAD A REASON WE ARNT ABLE TO GET PREG THEN WE COULD SORT IT OUT!)
WE HAVE BEEN ON THE NHS WAITING LIST FOR 3 YEARS, WHILST ON THE WAITING LIST WE DECIDED TO GO PRIVATE AND HAD ONE IVF CYCLE IE: 14 EGGS RECOVERED - 10 FERTILIZED OF WHICH TWO WERE REPLACED WITH NO JOY!
THEN ON TWO SEPARATE OCCASIONS TWO MORE EMBRYOS WERE REPLACED - AGAIN WITH NO JOY! THE REMAINDING EMPRYOS PERISHED.
WE HAVE NOW REACHED THE TOP OF THE WAITING LIST AND AM WAITING FOR MY PERIOD SO THAT I CAN PHONE UP ON THE FIRST DAY OF MY CYCLE. (SHOULD BE END OF MAY, IF YOU WANT TO BE IVF BUDDIES) WE GET THREE CYCLES ON THE NHS BUT HAVE LOST ONE COZ WE WENT PRIVATE!
ALL MY FAMILY AND FRIEND KNOW THAT WE ARE GOING THROUGH IVF WHICH MOST OF THE TIME IS GOOD BECAUSE THE GIVE YOU LOSTS OF SUPPORT. I TRIED TO KEEP IT SECRET AT FIRST BUT FOUND IT MORE STRESSFULL HIDING THE FACT THAT WE HAD APPOINTMENTS ETC.
I DID FEEL A LITTLE UNDER PRESSURE WHEN THEY ALL WANTED TO KNOW THE RESULTS OF THE CYCLES BUT THEY ONLY CARE THAT WE ARE OK!
HOPE TO BE IVF BUDDIES WITH SOME OF YOU, SO PLEASE KEEP IN TOUCH!
NICKD X [/i]
TTC 7 long years!
Unexplained Infertility
1 Cycle of IVF:
14 eggs recovered, 10 fertilized, 2 embryos replaced - no joy!
On 2 more occassions, 2 frozen replacements again with no joy!
2nd cycle of IVF - 1 ET now on 2WW!
Hi NickiD,
I can relate a little to what you are going through, I've been TTC 5 years without a good explanation why we can't get pg. I am currently waiting after having my 3rd IVF (1 fresh cycle and 1 frozen cycle). I was completely devastated when the first 2 IVF failed, and am not feeling very positive about this one even though I am trying to stay positive.
What is the NHS waiting list? I live in the USA is that something they have in Europe?
My family and friends all know what we're going through, some are supportive while others are not. I go back and forth as undecided as to whether or not it was a good idea to tell them. Most of them have not had any problems having kids and just really don't understand what we're going through, and some of them can be insensitive about it.
I would love to be your buddy if you want, my pg test is May 24, I'm praying for a positive this time, this has become so hard to deal with sometimes.
SOME PEOPLE ARE INSENSITIVE, I DON'T THINK THEY REALLY THINK ABOUT WHAT THEY ARE SAYING BEFORE THEY BLURT IT OUT!!! I DON'T KNOW ABOUT YOU BUT ALL MY FRIENDS SEEM TO TALK ABOUT IS THEIR KIDS NOW. THEY CANNOT HOLD A CONVERSATION ABOUT ANYTHING ELSE AND IF I TRY TO TALK ABOUT SOMTHING ELSE IT SOME HOW COMES BACK TO BREAST FEEDING OR SLEEPING PATERNS ETC. ALL MY FAMILY AND FRIENDS HAVE KIDS NOW, SO I DON'T SEEM TO HAVE ANYTHING IN COMMON WITH THEM ANYMORE WHICH IS WHY IT IS SOMETIMES LONLEY TO BE GOING THROUGH THIS.
GOOD LUCK FOR YOUR PG TEST. LET ME KNOW HOW YOU ARE GOING ON.
THE 2WW IS THE HARDEST PART OF ALL THE TREATMENT, I THINK! HOPE YOUR MANAGING TO COPE!
THE NHS IS THE "NATIONAL HEALTH SERVICE". WE GET FREE TREATMENT WHICH VARIES DEPENDING ON WHERE YOU LIVE! I SUPPOSE THAT WE ARE LUCK TO GET FREE TREATMENT BUT THEN WE DO PAY FOR IT THROUGH OUR TAXES!
GOOD LUCK FOR THE 24TH!
NICKI
TTC 7 long years!
Unexplained Infertility
1 Cycle of IVF:
14 eggs recovered, 10 fertilized, 2 embryos replaced - no joy!
On 2 more occassions, 2 frozen replacements again with no joy!
2nd cycle of IVF - 1 ET now on 2WW!
Nicki,
I know exactly what you mean, ALL of our friends have kids to and everytime we go to a BBQ or get together with them the men play poker and watch a game on TV and ALL of the women sit around and talk about their kids! This one pooped twice yesterday, my boobs hurt from breastfeeding, this one said mama yesterday, etc. It it so hard to deal with I know. I feel like I have lost many friends because I don't have anything in common with them anymore. My one friend (who was the maid of honor at my wedding), called me to tell me she was pg and then said "don't get mad at me or upet, I can't help it I can get pg easily". Can you believe that?!? I wasn't even acting upset or mad at her, I congratulated her, and that was about 2 years ago and I haven't spoken to her since, because I was so hurt by what she said. A lot of of friends will say when we ask them to get together for dinner or something: "We are parents and we need to get a sitter to watch the kids, we can't just jump up and go out with you" It has been so hard for me, it has become so lonely for me and dh. We enjoy each other's company but sometimes would like to socialize with friends and have a good time, and it seems those times are getting fewer and fewer.
Well that is good that you can get free treatment there but frustrating you must go on a waiting list. My health insurance here covers 4 rounds of IVF and I just finished my third, so if I have to do another it will have to be the last.
Good luck to you too and let me know how you are coming along.
how are you going? the 2ww is the hardest part of all! when you said you have finished your 3rd round of ivf does that mean bad news or are you still waiting to find out! hope its the latter! keep me informed!
we have just been accepted for this months cycle! start injections on the 11/6/07! so should be having egg retrieval early july! excited but nervous! not sure how i feel at the mo! little worried coz i know what to expect this time! They said that i have 10 follicles (does this mean that i will only have 10 eggs?)
what are friends like?? your experiences are the same as mine!
we live in a nice street and have made loads of really great friends however they all have kids and two of the girls are midwives so the topic of conversation never changes from babies whilst the boys are busy bbqing of watch in football etc. one of the girls was pg last year and i was the last person in the world to know! i noticed the bump and asked one of my so called friend if she was expecting and she said that she thought i knew!!! i was really upset to think that they were frightend of telling me and that they didnt think that i would be happy for them!!!
hope you are ok! i'm thinking of you!
nicola x
TTC 7 long years!
Unexplained Infertility
1 Cycle of IVF:
14 eggs recovered, 10 fertilized, 2 embryos replaced - no joy!
On 2 more occassions, 2 frozen replacements again with no joy!
2nd cycle of IVF - 1 ET now on 2WW!
Hope you don't mind me jumping in here...I replied to NickiD's 1st posting but seems to have been posted twice and I've replied to the wrong one..oops!
Also been ttc for 6 1/2 yrs - 4 failed IUIs plus one abandoned due to overstimulation. Starting nasal spray tomorrow, for 1st attempt at IVF, so hopefully beginning injections in a few weeks time.
I can totally relate to the sentiments here - between friends and family, all the talk seems to be about babies..aaagh! My best friend has 4 children - youngest just 10 weeks old. She didn't even tell me she was pg this time until she was 12 weeks, as she said she didn't want to offend me....and that really upset me. I am godmother to her other 3 children, but not to no. 4 -and at the recent Christening I think I can see why. All the other girls there had young familes, and I felt totally out of place and with nothing to contribute to the conversation. It was a really low point for me. dh's family have 7 grandchildren and I'm sick of being asked what's keeping us. I got promoted last year at work and my mum-in-law even 'gently' suggested that there's more to life than work, and perhaps we should think about that, as we won't realise it until its too late. mmmm, really.
Neither of us want anyone knowing about this - even though some people have guessed we're having trouble. This Board is a Godsend as I feel I can let off some steam here - and be with ladies who are in the same position. I'm only beginning this long road, but am terrified of a negative outcome, even though in my heart I don't think it will work.
Sorry for going on, but feel a bit better already getting that out!!
All the best to you all
