new here is my story

[6 -years -of - trying]

Thought i would post as it would be good to here from people who know what it is like to be on this roller coaster ride. i have been a member before my user name was mom20 just had a new program installed on pc windows vista now i get get logged back on in my old account so had to join again. sorry to confuse anyone so thought i would post here first

HERE IS MY STORY
We had a break after our first attempt at IVF failed at christmas 05. What can i say our whole world felt like it had ended. I did not know what to do or how to feel and swore never again it was to much to bare. All those months of doctors appointments and hospital visits scans and injections. With the hope of that just maybe at the end there would be at little bundle of joy at the end. Then for it to fail with no reason why it was heart braking. Ive had time to think things over and i am ready to have another try. After being adviced to have a break by docs to c if anything happens naturally due to the fact that nothing has been found to be wrong with either of us. Our appointment was back in April but when we got there it was cancelled as the doc who we were seeing had been called out for an emergency. The other doc was on a weeks holiday so there was no-one else. I didnt no weather to laugh or cry. As we went back in jan and were told to wait till now as the funding wasnt coming through until now. So again we were told to wait for another appointment. Which was yesterday we sat for 1 hour and a half only to be told that the funding still hadnt come threw and that they dont expect it to till jan 08 and we were top of the list and they would either write orf phone us then. How dare they make us sit there all that time just to let me down they could of written to me. Id gotten myself all prepared to start and now i feel like i have no option its not fair thing just arent happening the natural way and we both feel like we are never gonna have children of our own. Without assited conception and to be told that we have to wait even longer just brakes my heart even more. Would be nice to here other stories and from anyone in the same sititation or similar

still trying

[ellie16]

Hi there

You have every right to be upset, perhaps they can't help funding issues, but they could certainly have written to advise you in advance. Perhaps you could consider writing to your Dr/clinic to outline your concerns.

Best of luck, hope you get sorted soon

[bernie01]

I feel for you, this whole thing is a mare in the UK, I don't blame the staff one bit, but the whole NHS system leads alot to be desired, thanks Tony Blair for not alot, its a discrace! BUT different areas have better "service" its worth moving doctors to get what you need. My consultant told me that Hammersmith only has a list of 3months, whereas Merton is 2 years! Also, you can be treated wherever you are registered with the doctor, so you can register where you work or your parents, aunts or uncles and say you are living with them - they wont know, if there area has a shorter "queue" or less populated suberb you will be seen quicker. There are ways around the system, I hope that has been of some help your courage is amazing and that will see you through it. No matter what.

[RAKSHA]

Hi There,

A very sad story, i hear guys and Thomas has a queue for 3 months perhaps you can try there, As for mine i has 5 iui's and 1 IVf all failed but i had to pay because mine is a secondary infertility, though both of us have no any problems its just unexplained infertility.

[iospero]

I'm 27, my fiance is 48 and has 2 children from his previous marriage. An unsuccessful vasectomy reversal left us with a low sperm count and poor motility so we're having ICSI. This is our first attempt and my egg retrieval is on Monday. I live in Italy and as well as the language barrier the system is also pretty bad here because they are not allowed to freeze or destroy any embryos. They will only attempt to fertilise 3 embryos on Monday and anything that comes of those must be transfered back.
The drugs have been ok, for someone with a phobia of needles I'm pretty damn pleased with myself! I am trying to remain hopeful due to my age and I'm just taking one day at a time. Good luck to all of you out there on the IVF rollercoaster, and a big thank you to everyone whose stories I've read.
My biggest tip, find yourself an IVF friend, when you've spoken to someone who has been through it 11 times (happy ending now has 2 beautiful girls) it really helps.

[iospero]

Also no funding in Italy, you can get some meds for free on their version of NHS. My partner still pays tax and Nat Ins in UK as he was seconded to work here by the British government but we are not entitled to join the NHS waiting list in UK, but by the sounds of it there doesn't seem to be much point.
I guess if it doesn't work this time I'll have to consider giving my eggs to pay for treatment.
Forget a loving home what you really need to become a parent is money!