my first IUI

[charmedmac]

hi! i had my first IUI attempt today. im 31 and DH is 32. i have PCO and he has a low sperm ct (1-2 M).

my doctor told me that his count is too low and we should not waste time doing IUI;s and just go straight to IVF...

i am so depressed because I really want to have a baby. should i try another IUI with frozen spermies (doctor told DH to come in weekly and donate) or just go straight to IVF?

thanks so much... forums like this really save my sanity. it is difficult to undergo these things alone. all my sisters and friends didnt have any problems making babies... they dont even know what to say to me.

please help...

thanks! God Bless!!

[Nickyz]

I no how you feel.

we are in the some way as you. Put we have not told family or friends about what is going on.

And we are still waiting for appointment.


The girls on this web site help me to talk about it. and it make me feel better.

Hope this will help a bit

Take care

[charmedmac]

thanks so much nickyz

[Jane37]

Hi Charmedmac,

Good luck with your IUI. How do you feel?

There are a group of us on the insemination board who are having IUIs this month if you would like some support. You're the first tho', mine will be sometime at the beginning of next week.

I don't know the answer to your question about going straight to IVF. We were offered IVF or a laparoscopy in February. Both my tubes were blocked and the doctor was really not optimistic about a laparoscopy helping but at the time we weren't ready for IVF so opted for the lap. When I woke up they told me that they had unblocked both tubes - it was the best result we could have had and completely unexpected. Now I'm really pleased we did that because we now have a chance with IUI that we didn't have before. What I'm trying to say is that maybe you should listen to all the advice and then go with your gut feeling. I think sometimes doctors paint the worst picture either because they don't really have the complete answers or so that they don't get our hopes up too much. As I said, I don't know what I would do in your position but know how isolated and frustrated you must be feeling.

My mother and sister and a couple of close friends know what we're going through and it's hard for them to know what to say, it's often hard to know how to behave when the children subject comes up so my thoughts are with you.

Hang in there, look after yourself and come join us on the insemination board.

Jane

[charmedmac]

hi jane

thank you for your response... i am feeling okay about the IUI. just a bit bloated... had cramps day 2.

i am thinking of doing another IUI if ever i get a BFN with this one... then go to IVF ICSI...

another problem that i have is i am based in the philippines and i don't know whether the success rates of ivf here is the same as in the US...

sigh... a lot of things to think about but i am glad that i found this forum...

thanks jane let me know how i can join the support group that you mentioned...

take care

[Jane37]

Hi Charmedmac,
I hope that you get a BFP with this IUI, then you won't have to find out about IVF.
The insemination forum is also on this message board and we are chatting under topic 'IUI buddy for July'.
See you there
Jane

[wannababynow]

Hi Charmedmac,

I have some personal experience with this. We had both male and female infertility factors. My doctor recommended IVF right from the start but its really scare to jump right into that. It is so expensive and the process is hard. After 7 failed IUI's we went to IVF with ICSI and I'm now 6 weeks prego with twins (maybe triplets, we'll find out two weeks from Friday).

Hopefully this IUI works out for you and you don't have to take the next step. As for me I wish that I hadn't wasted so much time. If I would have listened to my doctor I would have already had the little ones by now. Although I think going through the IUIs gave me a peace of mind if I had it to do over again I would probably only attempt that 1-2 times.

Good luck...Keep us posted!

Jessica