lightcomingon -
I am very sorry about your loss and even though this sounds insensitive to say, you should feel some relief in knowing that you were able to get pregnant. That means that you're "working" and your chances are pretty good that it'll happen again.
Like I said earlier, my RE isn't as meticulous as your first. I actually think that your first RE was the exception, not the rule. Good luck. Keep us posted.
hoping4bfp -
You make me feel so much better! You seem to see the positive in everyone's situation. Thank you.
About acupuncture. Here is the article that convinced me
http://www.ivf1.com/acupuncture-ivf/. It's basically goes through 4 studies that were done on acupuncture and IVF. The bottom line of these studies is that women who do acupuncture on the day of embryo transfer right before ET and right after EF (in the same day) have an increased success rate. The author points out that this improvement could be based on the "placebo effect" or random occurrence. Either way, it seems to help in all four studies. If I learned that women who stand on my heads and sing Mary had a Little Lamb consistently had higher IVF success rates, I would do it! My RE says that she supports acupuncture for stress relief, but not for fertility per se. However, stress relief helps fertility, so it can't hurt. If you're really interested, you still have time to do it on the day of embryo tranfer. I assume you have at least another week until transfer? I've also been doing deep breathing and meditation (to try to calm my mind, which seems to be going 1000 mph thinking about all this!)
For the last two years of not being pregnant, I always kept IVF in the back of my mind as my safety net. It basically made me feel better every time I failed, because I knew that we always have IVF. Now that I'm actually trying it, I'm afraid that it won't work and I'll be all out of options.