Hey Girls. I am crying insde

[johndt]

Hi ladies

My wife had a bleed today. brownish/reddish not the full AF. 3cm by 1cm on her daily pad

She is breaking her heart and I don't know what to do???

We should test on Wednesday our 15th day of the 2ww, OMG why is this sooooo hard

John

[LisaPa]

JOhn,

I know its hard i am also on my 2 ww Dont panic..................IT COULD BE IMPLANTATION BLEEDING.............Did you call the Dr.?????I hope thing work out for you..........the bleeeding may stop. Is this her first ivf? My thoughts are with you

[johndt]

Hello and thankyou:-) this is our second time around and felt sooooooo right this time

I had to travel for work, so left my princess at home for the first time today, I feel such a s..t

I am in her home country. in our apartment, so alone, so disappointed, I am feeling guilty too. maybe I should have stayed at home to care for her, but she was doing so well!! went back to work, we were so confident

Terana is sooooo desperate for this and I am beginning to doubt my own faith,

can you imagine,

how low can you go !!!!

[kholtan]

Don't throw in the towel yet! You have to be positive. Brownish red blood is most likely old blood and a lot of women experience bleeding. I even had a large blood clot one day and bright red blood and all is fine. This route is not for the weak and you have to stay strong for her as well. Have faith and keep your chin up. It will happen for you!
Let us know how you are both doing.
Take care~
Kimberly

[michael55]

hi ladies my wife and i did our first ivf cyle the end of june everything was going smoothly. at 6 weeks and1d we heard heartbeat and saw the sac. everything looked great. on friday we went back for our 8 week us and the re was no heartbeat dr said embryio was measuring at 6w3d so something happened 2 days after our last ultrasound. My wife and i are really bummed . We have two embryios frozen will try that next. Amyone have any luck with fet thanks good luck to all

[johndt]

Thank you soo much for all your support, after reading michael55's post, I feel a little stupid. This is indeed a hard road and you are right we need to be strong for each other
Yesterday was a long day, airport delay's time shifts etc I guess we are all vulnerable at times. Emotions can run high during the waiting periods and we need bringing back down to earth sometimes
Another day dawns, hopefully a bit brighter, so onwards and upwards as they say
Trying to stay positive and will let you know how things go in the next few days
Thanks again
Good luck, Love and prayers to all

John

[cwrj00]

John
Wishing you and your wife every success.
Tracey

[Faithinababy]

John -

I don't know what to say but I can tell you that I will be praying for you and your wife and don't loose faith. Cry and pray as much as you need but believe me GOD is listening and a miracle will happen I am talking from expierence. I am 9+ weeks and still not out of the waters I have never bled but it still worries me. I still cry and pray that this will be it and that everything goes well for us. I visit my church once a week just to feel a little more at ease. I am terrified to get my u/s but so far everything is good. Never loose faith and be very strong! All of us will always be here for you guys if you ever need to talk.

GOD Bless you and you will be in my prayers!
Hilda

[stressball]

Hi John,

many bfp women get brown spoting 2-4 days b4 blood test. Your wife might be one of them. This happens in our lives too...when something bad happens we loose hope but later we realize that bad thing was actually a good thing for you...i dont know if this make sense to you...but anyways...above all...you are such a loving husband...your wife is already very lucky...Tell her how you feel...its going to make her love you even more...and ya I love you too for being such a caring husband. May god bless you with a healthy baby.

Sanya.

[Rotobay]

Hey John,

I too had spotting after my first SUCCESSFUL ivf. I was told (at first) that it was implant bleed, but I continued to bleed for the first trimester. And I delivered a healthy baby girl in 2003 (she is now almost 4 years old and is the light of our life!!). So don't lose hope!

[Terana]

I was the happiest woman in the world since the beginning of the treatment till the bleeding day. I did everything right, ate tonns of pineapple, didnt drink coffee or dark tea, slept couple of days downstairs, didnt use stairs, didnt go out till the end of the first week, didnt eat spicy, didnt have any tablet for my regular headaches, didnt bath, ate healthy food, was absolutely positive, laughed a lot, met positive people, didnt lift anything (heavy or not) and most important...I have a loving, caring husband who is always there for me, listens to any breath I take, reads all my thoughts, fulfills all my wishes...
Met doctor today. I had my regular AF and implantation even didnt happen. Dont know what else I could do to make it happen. 3 transferred embrios were of very good quality and none of them wanted to stay with me.
I guess we'll try again. Just feeling lost right now. After first failure I exactly knew why it failed and had a scenario for the next time. Dont know what to do for the next time. Doctor said: "we doctors are not God, it is his business to make babies, we are just tools and doesnt matter what you do or not, it is only God's will".
I might sound a little bit masochist but I value both of my experiences for knowing you better, darling. I found the site yesterday and once more realised how lucky I was to marry somebody like you. Somebody very very special.

[meg12]

Terana and John--Your posts have brought tears to my eyes (very unfortunate since I'm at work!) I'm so sorry to hear about the bfn. It sucks. But the love you have for each other is obviously so strong and that is such a powerful gift!