excessive worry

[Cori]

Hi everybody.
I am now 8 weeks pregnant and as far as I know everything is going well. But, for some reason, I am continuously worried that something may be wrong. I am not tired at all, breasts are slightly sore, no morning sickness, etc. I know that each pregnancy is different and a lot of you have said that you had virtually no symptoms either but I can't help but worry. I have read several articles and heard stories of people that have had missed miscarriages. Is this something to worry about? Does anyone know how common this is?

[meg12]

Cori...Unfortunately I think the worrying is totally normal, especially for those of us who had such trouble conceiving. Your lack of symptoms is normal. I didn't feel anything until about 9 or 10 weeks--then was just nauseated (never actually threw up, just felt like I could constantly). As often as we visit the doctor is early pregnancy, I think a missed miscarriage would be fairly rare. Hang in there. It does get a little better after the first trimester, although I'm not going to lie the worry is still there. Just try to remain calm and congrats on your pregnancy!

[Cori]

thanks meg12!
I hope that you are right. Did you have the same fears?
When are you due? You must almost be there. Congratulations to you!!!

[meg12]

Cori--I haven't stopped worrying since the line showed positive on the hpt. It's so hard....you keep thinking once you hit the next step you'll stop worrying. You know, once I hear the heartbeat I'll be fine. Once I see the ultra sound, I'll be fine. Once I feel the baby kick I'll be fine. Etc, etc, etc. I think it's just that we've wanted this for so long, it's hard to really let yourself believe that it really is coming true.

Anyway, my due date is September 21st. I'm sure once she's born I'll stop worrying (yeah, right!!!!!!)

[Cocoa]

Cori...

OH, if I could ONLY stop worrying if I am "still pregnant"... I STILL have a fear of my Beta being lower the next time I do bw... (see my #'s below). I don't want to even bend over for fear I will "squish" my baby out... These are unreasonable fears but fears/worrys/concerns nonetheless. I have ANOTHER Beta tomorrow and my u/s on Monday the 3rd...

How are you feeling as of recent days? How are all my March and April and May due buddies feeling? Keep us updated!!!

Cocoa

[Faithinababy]

Hello ladies -

Congrats to all of you! I am 13 weeks and due on March 4th. I worry all the time I don't even want to work and just stay in bed because I worry that something can happen to me. I have been feeling a few cramps and that really worried me, this past Sunday I was even crying because I was terrified that something was wrong so I did not work on Monday called my doc and he had me go in that day. He checked my baby checked the heart and everything else and it all looked pretty normal. He also tested me for a bladder infection but that came back negative so he told me to just hang in there and that it is very natural to worry till the day you have the baby in your arms. I as well don't want to bend, push, etc. it just scared me that I will hurt my baby. Nights for me can be horrible sometimes because I worry about the way I sleep so sometimes I don't even have a good night sleep. It's true we have tried so hard to have our little miracles that it just makes it so hard for us. I have freinds and family that are prego naturally and they do lots of things I would NEVER in my mind do right now. I took this week off of work because I am just a worried mess. I should go back next week but I am still scared. Just leave it all in the hands of GOD and keeping the FAITH can help. I pray very much and that really helps me control my feelings. But it is true it just feels really good to see your doc then see your baby and the little heart they should have some of those machines on sale for home use that would be awesome!!! HAHAHA oh dear see what I mean!!

Hilda

[Aliann09]

Hi gals, I am a worrier by nature I find it easy to tell everyone around me to not worry but when it comes to myself it's nearly impossible. I just keep trying to tell myself taht what ever is meant to be will be but I still can't stop the worry I just got my BFP last Saturday and I don't have my U/S until 9/18 and I have no BW in the meantime, it is making me crazy. Nice to know there are others around like me hopefully we can all give each other support!

[Cocoa]

Hi Ladies...

I am sooooo looking forward to the support we gather here.

Faith... I too have a lot of faith in God and that's why I always had hope that one day this desire of my heart would be fulfilled. I know worry is akin to disobedience so it is my prayer to remain steadfast in my belief that all will be well. But those poison thoughts do slip in, huh?

I think that sharing is the most important gift we have to give one another and we have a great forum here for which I am entirely grateful. I feel so grateful for all of you.

So... what CAN we do? Can we stretch? Can we take a walk with our dog? Can we swim? Ahhhh, this is frustrating and I wish we were all past the scarey part (to at LEAST week 34 right?!?)

Thank you for sharing... keep posting cause chances are someone can empathize and sharing is support right??!??!?

Love you all,

Cocoa

[shantala]

hi all

i hope you dont mind me joining you....havent actually joined a thread on the "pregnant after treatment" section as i dont want to jinx things. however, i do feel i can join this one as i'm worrying too!

found out last week whilst in hospital with severe OHSS that my second attempt worked. have my scan in exactly a week and hope i'm gonna start relaxing then once i see a heartbeat. i'm just so worried that we wont see a heartbeat. i know that sounds so pessimistic but i cant help it. dh and i dont take anything for granted so we cant wait till next week.

i'm so glad you started this thread....thank you so much! and congrats to all!

xxx

[Cocoa]

Hi Shantala!!!
Welcome!!! Don't be afraid of the pregnant after treatment board... We're all super supportive...

You are ONE day ahead of me so you are due April 29th? Have you had Betas done? When? What were your numbers? My u/s is on Tuesday the 4th and I am looking forward to seeing whether or not I have twins in there... My tummy cramped and POPPED today!!! Weird... Did that happen to anyone else BTW???

Stay with us and feel free to tell us your story...

Much Sticky Vibes... and hope for a HH9M

Cocoa

[shantala]

hey cocoa

thanks for the welcome....yes, i'm due a day before you! how cool is that!!

as for my story....well, we have severe male factor infertility. had our first IVF/ICSI in feb/march - 10 eggs collected but only 5 were mature. all 5 fertilised, we had 2 8 cell grade A embies put back, none to freeze and got a BFN. so we had our second attempt in july/august...got 19 eggs, 10 were mature (they think i may have an egg maturity problem), all 10 fertilised, we had 2 8 cells put back again and 7 frosties this time! and got my BFP last week whilst i was in hospital with OHSS. still have OHSS but i'm much better....and have my first scan on the 6th (thursday). just cant wait.

my beta was 343 at 13dp3dt but havent had a beta since. in the UK they tend to not do blood tests but only pee sticks. the only reason i got a beta was because i was in hospital.

so thats my story....i know compared to lots of other ladies here 2 IVFs isnt a lot but it feels it to me! it put an immense strain on our relationship but we couldnt be happier now. i very naively thought that the worrying would stop when you get that BFP!

anyway, would love to hear other stories....it's great to have support post treatment!

xxx

[Ems1971]

Hi Shantala

Welcome over to "the other side". Do you remember me from Dec/Jan thread? I am so happy for you and DH. Its a great feeling isn't it? I know what you mean about the worry - I couldn't relax for ages and was constantly worrying that something would go wrong. When you've waited as long as we have for a baby it just seems too good to be true when you finally get that BFP. But you will relax in time. I found it was like stepping stones, I felt better after the first scan and once I'd seen heartbeat, started to worry again before 12 week scan, but again, relaxed after I knew everything was ok, again before the 20 week scan and so on...Once the 20 week scan was done we relaxed a lot more but I am now starting to worry with only 7 weeks to go that everything will be ok when baby is born. Its a never ending cycle, and let's face it, it probably won't ever stop now!!!

Anyway, my last day at work today before maternity leave which is brilliant. It all seems very surreal but I am sure it will soon hit home!!

Take care and I wish you a healthy happy pregnancy.

Love Ems xx

[shantala]

ems - of course i remember you!! how can i not?! thanks for popping in and assuring us its completely normal to feel like that. i think youve hit the nail on the head...it seems too good to be true. i'm sure my scan next week is not where the worrying stops. wow, look at you, only 7 weeks to go! it only seems like yesterday we were cycling together....although you're worried and nervous you must be very excited too to meet your baby soon! aawww, its so lovely. i'll try and keep an eye on you over the next few weeks but if i dont get a chance, the best of luck for the birth and hope everything goes well. make sure you post some baby pics on photobucket (if you want to!) as soon as you're well enough!

xxxx

[wannabeone]

just a note on not feeling anything and thus worrying. i have not had a single symptom this entire pregnancy. i am now 22 + weeks and to date my only symptom is a growing belly. it had me worried for so long, but everything is coming along really well, so don't worry about symptoms and when or if they appear.

[karno1]

I am glda to hear alot of other women out there don't feel preggers sometimes (other than appetite and belly growing). I am 17 weeks and I still don't really feel preggers after getting over the first 9 weeks of sore breasts and nausea. I am in constant fear when I do feel alittle something that its automatically bad news.

This is what happens when you have to work real hard to get a BFP!

Best of luck to all you worry-warts !!!!!