1st IVF has Failed. What Do I Do now???

[ARG]

I have finished my first IVF Cycle. Unfortunately I didnt even make it to my test date of the 29th of August, tomorrow. I got blood yesterday and so did a HPT just to make sure. It was negative. The blood has been a bit brownish since but still the test was negative! I havent taken the test the clinic gave me yet. That is due in the morning but I am assuming that I am not pregnant. What do I do now. My husband and I have had our treatment at a private clinic due to the fact that in the UK, law says that if my husband has children with another woman which he has, we are not candidates for free treatment, we have to pay. The cost of 1 cycle of IVF is around £4,500.00 GBP. If we want to go again, we have to pay again!!! Problem is, I had 2 good embryos planted and I have a BFN. What are the chances of this happening again, and we have then wasted more money. Should I just be grateful we tried once and move on. Very Stressful time!!

[kangela25]

I know how it feels. I remember you from a prior post and we are on the same cycle. My BT is tomorrow. But I know it is discouraging, because our 1st IVF cycle was covered by insurance,and I got a BFN. After that we thought it was the end of the road for us, because in the US to pay for it is $6,0000.00. We don't have that kind of money lying around, and I hate credit cards and loans. We took a break for 6 months. I read the book "The Secret". After reading that, my outlook changed, especially with money. We decided to due IVF again. We took out a 3 year loan. It probably will be awful to repay the loan especially if it doesn't work. But if it does making that payment will be so easy. Either way it is worth it to me because I want to be pregnant, I want to have babies running around my house driving me nuts. But I'm still going to try an appeal it with our insurance company, just because I don't think it's fair that we are denied something we need help with. I'm also really glad me and my DH took a break. Cause the 2nd time around my attitude was so much better. I even gave myself my injection (which took a half an hour for my DH to due the 1st time) because I was so scared. You will figure something out. But first you probably need to grieve, I no I did. And it took me 6 months to clear my head and thoughts before knowing what to do for sure.

[tricias2007]

ohhh....Im so sorry. Actually, I had brown spotting this morning and my beta is not until tomorrow. So I am a little upset today to say the least. Don't give up hope though.

Kangela - I read the secret too. It was a great book and I am still trying to invoke all those positive thoughts as i sit hear upset because of the brown staining.

[kangela25]

Hey Tricia, i know it is hard to stay positive. Because instead I saying the dr going to say i'm pg. i keep thinking about what am i going to do when he says i'm not. i don't know how often your spotting is, but isn't it suppose to be a good sign. i hope it is. i'm sooooooooooo dreading tomorrow. how am i going to get through today. i think i need to do something or go somewhere to consume my time. i just don't feel like moving i want to lay around in my pjs all day.

[tricias2007]

ha....you're too funny. Seriously, I am at work and all I am doing is looking up stuff on the internet. I should have just stayed home! Yes, lets keep positive thoughts. Lets think together... "i am pregnant" !! and the doctor will tell us both tomorrow...Congrats you have a good beta!!

[tricias2007]

Hey ARG -- its not over till the fat lady sings! that's what I keep telling myself. I know the spotting and negative HPT are not comforting signs but you still have to take that test tomorrow. Then after that re-evaluate your situation.

I know how expensive this can be but there's always a way right? I will keep my fingers crossed for you still!

[kangela25]

I have only one more day to get results. Now I get this white discharge. What could this be? Now I know how you felt with the brown spotting. Is this white stuff good or bad? I hope it's good.

[tricias2007]

kangela - Im not sure what that means, but you should start a question/comment. Ive been on this website and another about my issue and i've received some good feedback. It has made me feel better. Don't worry though, because from what I've been reading anything can happen and you could still get a positive result!