Thank You

[scorry]

Hi Folks,<br> I just wanted to say thanks for all the messages of support from everyone - DH and I really appreciated it.<br>We have good days and bad and expect it will be like this for some time to come. The whole thing seems a bit surreal and one tends to plod on with everyday tasks on automatic pilot, but I expect that's how the grieving process works.<br> I was so sorry to hear of Tracey's loss and don't like to think of anyone else going through this. On the flip side, we have not given up hope of having a family and while another child could not replace Thorfinn, it would help us fill the emptyness, if anything, this has made us want to be parents even more than ever, and we have to look to the future.<br>I have enrolled on a counselling course before returning to midwifery again, I think if I don't use what's happened to us, to help others, then there was little point in us having gone through it.<br>Thanks again for all your support,<br>Caroline & DH

[NickyJ]

Caroline & Dh<br><br>Great to hear from you, and yes it has felt like a strange time of sadness and joy on the site. You sound so strong and although I can't imagine how awful this experience is for you both, it sounds like you are really pulling together and using it in the most positive way you can.<br><br>Do keep in touch and let us know how your journey is going..good or bad and a huge cyber hug to you.<br><br>Love<br>Nicky

[Helen G]

Dear Caroline<br><br>It's inspiring to hear that you and dh are looking to the future as positively as you can already. To use such a tragic experience to help others is wonderful. <br><br>I wish you every success in your journey for a family which I'm sure you will achieve.<br><br>take care of each other.<br><br>Helen xx

[KirstyC]

Caroline,<br>You both sound very strong and are going to get through this. Like Helen says you are an inspriation to us all and you have a wonderful way at looking at things.<br>Best of luck with everything<br>Take care<br>love kirsty<br>xx<br>

[SallyP]

Caroline - you are so brave and so strong, you really are an inspiration. No one can possibly imagine what you and dh ahve been through and will continue to go through, and even if we could imagine it, I have no doubt that the reality is much worse. I think that if you could help other people who are going through or have gone through the same tragedy through a counselling course then not only will it help others, but it might help you as well.<br>Keep strong and please remember that you are loved by so many people on this site.<br>love Sally xxxx

[Tracey S]

Caroline<br><br>I just wanted to post and let you know I am currently trying the mundane things and it's all on auto pilot - I will set up a thankyou thread but wanted to say my thoughts have always been with you and especially this week as you can imagine.....<br>I always said I had no concept of what you had gone through or going through and am sorry to say I now believe I have the right to say I have a better idea than some!<br>I can see you are a strong person and am sure you would have been proud of how I handled the delivery on wednesday. We have been told the tragic news (more I know ) we have to wait 12 weeks for our postmortem and chrosome tests. I wake up each day like you and I cry each morning as I feel so empty then pick myself up and set myself small tasks to do so I can tick them off a mental list. I look at Ian and I see our tiny baby that looked just like him but with it's unexpectant arrival is so like me! I realise he is the love of my life (I have always known that) and am truly grateful I have him.<br>In time I will go on and fight again (I am no spring chicken at 37 but am not over the hill yet I think) and will try and make sure that this is not all in vain. I will never replace this baby and he or she (we do not know until the post mortem and they did not want to get it wrong though they have a fair idea) will always live on in Ian and myself and will always be very special as this is our first born baby together but is not mortally present in this world.<br>With special love to you both and I will always read with interest and support how you get on in life and know you are a will be a true inspiration to others.<br>Love<br>Tracey<br>xxx