I´M PREGNANT TOO!!!!!

[Tris]

Hi to Everyone!!

I´ve always wanted to write here for 2 years now but didn’t want to depress anyone with my story then. So ive been up to date with what everyone has been through..Im new to this chat room by the way and this is my story: Me 36 DH 32 -Weve been trying to have kids for 4 years with no success and have been married 7 years + started to regret not trying right away. We then tried IUI TWICE with no success and then shifted to ICSI, I was 34 by then. First IVF failed since only 2 out of 5 embryos fertilized and were planted ...It was too tragic for me that I changed clinics (just in case) only to get worse results: 2nd IVF = 3 eggs = 2 fertilized...by the way I did get an A quality for the 1st IVF and B quality for the 2nd with max 4 cell split. And again negative results....I went into depression and decided that sorrow was affecting my otherwise happy disposition not to mention my happy married life and profession.

The next year I took a year long break so at 35 I finished my archi studies in Italy mostly to escape what I went through: the joy of expecting only to be hurled back into deeper sadness when the IVF´s failed, all the medication plus the mounting expenses!!!!! But the thought of getting pregnant and having a family never left me...And so now at 36 and refreshed from the much needed break, I started another round of IVF treatment with my first doctor (the one I used for the first IVF) last August. After taking higher doses of meds + a new one Menopur, they retieved 15 eggs!!! OK only 6 fertilized and in the end only 3 eggs were of good quality = 2 "A" quality and 1 "B" and all 3 were planted with 4 cell split. Again going through the 2ww was what I dreaded but this time I was more prepared and stacked up on books, dvds, chocolates and something I never had during the first 2 IVF....MORE POSITIVE ATTITUDE Before I knew it testing day came. As it approached though, exactly the day before, I got spots of blood but before that my breasts started to hurt and produce liquid so I was confused. When more blood came DH and I just hugged and cried as we knew that it could have failed again since the first 2 IVF had the same symptoms (except for the swelling breast symptom) of blood spotting and then growing into a full blown menstrual cycle and then followed by a negative result. But still WE NEVER STOPPED PRAYING AND HOPING!!! So today the 22nd Sept 07 is testing day and after drawing blood in the clinic this morning we got one of the best calls ever, if not the BEST!!!...that IM PREGNANT! They say “3rd times a charm and I guess its true!” I just had to share my story of HOPE also because of the most recent message of Michelle entitled "I´M PREGNANT!!!!" posted today since I wanted to share the same happy moment ..

So please do not neglect the POWER OF PRAYERS and a POSITIVE ATTITUDE. DH and I just never lost faith in God and each other...even through tears we laughed again and said IT WILL HAPPEN!!! ….when almost lost in sorrow or desperation just TRUST in the treatment, close your eyes, say a prayer and know that it can work!!!! Were lucky to also be born in an era where HELP is getting better…

For now GOOD LUCK to all, Congrats Michelle and Ill keep you all posted of any developments….

[Julie C]

Hi Tris,

Thanks so much for the inspiring post!!!

That is great news for you and DH

Best of luck in the next 9 months!!

Keep us posted pls in your progress!

Julie

[kholt]

Tris CONGRATS!!!!!! That is great news. I am so glad I read your story. It helped give me the courage that I have been needing. I am getting tested tomorrow for my 2nd beta. (they didn't tell me the results of the first one until they get the results of the second one). But for me, this is our first time doing IVF and because of the cost I think for now it will be the only time we can do it. So we are hoping and praying that it will work. But lately I have been trying to tell myself that it might not work, because I know that it will crush me if it doesn't work. SO this made it so I realized that I need to be positive because lets face it either way I will be crushed if it doesn't work. SO THANKS FOR GIVING ME A POSITIVE OUTLOOK!!!!!!!

Kari

[Babyb]

Tris: CONGRATULATIONS! Persistence does pay off (along with a PMA). What was your beta?

I just received my BFP on Fri and I'm ecstatic. Mine is a long story. Short version: (1) natural pregnancy resulting in birth of beautiful bg last year. She died at 3.5 months from a rare and fatal genetic disorder apparently carried by me. Told I couldn't have my own kids without risking another death. SO, I opted for ED. (2) Banked my eggs (6 frosties) for science to figure this thing out. (3) Started IVF with a donor who backed out last minute (apart from heartache, we lost LOTS of money which we saved to build our family); (4) struggled again to find another proven donor. She performed but for some reason, the eggs were bad. Implanted 4 (none of grade 1 quality) and BFN. No good frosties. Thought we couldn't afford another round of IVF and was devastated until parents came to save the day; (5) found another donor and this time it worked! MY RE thinks we have multiples based on the beta (implanted 3 perfect blasts). This time I held a much more PMA -- it certainly helped.

KHOLT -- good luck tomorrow. I have a good feeling about your BFP.

[Bean]

Tris CONGRATS!!!!wish you happy pregnancy!!

[Tris]

Hi Girls!

Thanks so much...you all make me glad I joined in

Firstly JULIE - I´m in SPAIN and did my IVF here!!!! Well I did it in a clinic in the coast of spain in a town called Marbella and its fantastic! The doctor and the staff are life family and honestly I think their gentle ways and positive outlook also helped give the positive result. They are a small clinic which I prefer and have a very personal touch. Madrid has good clinics too....check out www.ceram.es for the Marbella clinic. The cost would vary depending on your treatment...hey good luck and let me know if you come!

Hi Kari! You know I can swear that my total change in attitude this time + again lotsa prayers helped make it work! Its just I know in my heart that even if the thought of getting a negative made me sad, the hope that it is a gift to women in general to conceive gave me hope that I can too! So dont loose that. And yes do not expect much but try to relax, watch funny movies (that really helped) and think of the other blessings in your life like good health, family...I know this helped me lot. Oh and you know when the first one failed my doc just smiled and said there is HOPE...we can do it again when youre ready, so the first could just be the start...I know its costly but everyone I think determined to give life finds a way and guess what...breaks in between help!! My friend undergoing IVF took a break as well to pursue a career, vacation, whatever will make you rest and happy and now has twins

Hi Babyb...you know thats one thing I didnt ask cuz I didnt know about it until I read this again...Ill ask my BETA tomorrow and post it Congratulations too!!!! Youre story is so inspiring....

Thanks Bean! I still keep praying that the baby or babies stay healthy and come out fine on the 9th month...again positive, positive

By the way if any one knows...my breasts are tender and have white liquid coming out...is this normal??? Also how long does the spotting last??? my doc says its from the implantation/attaching... its my 3rd day....

Thanks ya all!

[Tris]

Hi Girls!

Thanks so much...you all make me glad I joined in

Firstly JULIE - I´m in SPAIN and did my IVF here!!!! Well I did it in a clinic in the coast of spain in a town called Marbella and its fantastic! The doctor and the staff are life family and honestly I think their gentle ways and positive outlook also helped give the positive result. They are a small clinic which I prefer and have a very personal touch. Madrid has good clinics too....check out www.ceram.es for the Marbella clinic. The cost would vary depending on your treatment...hey good luck and let me know if you come!

Hi Kari! You know I can swear that my total change in attitude this time + again lotsa prayers helped make it work! Its just I know in my heart that even if the thought of getting a negative made me sad, the hope that it is a gift to women in general to conceive gave me hope that I can too! So dont loose that. And yes do not expect much but try to relax, watch funny movies (that really helped) and think of the other blessings in your life like good health, family...I know this helped me lot. Oh and you know when the first one failed my doc just smiled and said there is HOPE...we can do it again when youre ready, so the first could just be the start...I know its costly but everyone I think determined to give life finds a way and guess what...breaks in between help!! My friend undergoing IVF took a break as well to pursue a career, vacation, whatever will make you rest and happy and now has twins

Hi Babyb...you know thats one thing I didnt ask cuz I didnt know about it until I read this again...Ill ask my BETA tomorrow and post it Congratulations too!!!! Youre story is so inspiring....

Thanks Bean! I still keep praying that the baby or babies stay healthy and come out fine on the 9th month...again positive, positive

By the way if any one knows...my breasts are tender and have white liquid coming out...is this normal??? Also how long does the spotting last??? my doc says its from the implantation/attaching... its my 3rd day....

Thanks ya all!

[tsezusha]

Hi, everyone!
I am new to this chatroom. I'll try to be short.
I am 29, DH 30. We've been trying to get pregnant for over 6 years : lots of treatments, diagnostics, etc., as you all are going through this, I am not describing it in details. Result: one tube blocked 9but another one is perfectly fine), low motility of the sperm 9but not too low), polycystic ovaries (but early stages), but overall all of it not so bad to cause infertility…
In the last 2 years, I went through 4 IVF w/ICSI.
First two IVFs were horrible - I was over stimulated twice (by doctors that are considered the best in Milwaukee, WI area). First time (26 eggs retrieved, 16 mature, 7 fertilized) they didn't even do ET due to overstimulation, so most of my embryos did not survive thawing or significantly decreased in quality. 2 were transfered (B and C quality) in two months. No pregnancy... I felt terrible after the general anesthesia and for the next month. They told me to rest - who can afford that after paying 12 thousand for the treatment (insurance doesn’t cover it in WI), so I dragged myself to work and forced to smile.
Second time, "surprisingly", the same story - overstimulated again! You would think doctors will pay more attention... Even though it was only 8 eggs retrieved, 5 fertilized and 2 transferred at day 5 (the only two that survived, quality B). I felt terrible, but I was so afraid they are going to cancel ET due to overstimulation, and I couldn’t risk the only 5 embryos, that I took a chance and didn't tell them that I am in a bad shape (probably stupid of me anyway). No pregnancy and a month of misery again.
The doctor told me that we have genetic incompatibility with my husband and we need an egg donor. I was in shock!
So I did some more research and found a great clinic in nearby Gurnee, IL with the highest success rate in three states. They guarantee result after 4 IVFs, and if you don't have a baby in 18 months – they’ll return all your money (20 thousand total, but it absolutely worse it). I figured that I might pay more upfront, but if I don’t have any chances with my own eggs, as was claimed by Milwaukee doctors, at least I will get my money back.
The doctor there told me that instead of 4 he will do only 3 IVFs since I had prior unsuccessful history. He said it is just not effective to try more than 5 times.
After my first two IVFs I was very afraid to feel physically and emotionally horrible again, but it turned out to be completely different experience: I did IVF there twice. Both times no overstimulation at all, no general anesthesia during ET, I felt good all the way through (except driving for 3 hr total every morning for a month for a 6:30 am appointment before work). I had something to compare with, so I can testify that the new doctor was really paying attention to every single detail. His nurses were afraid of him and worked like in army, but it produces results: 2 IVF - 2 pregnancies. First (2 embryos were transferred at 5 days) ended in miscarriage at 7 weeks; and second - I am 30 weeks pregnant with twins (3 embryos were transferred at day 3 - we had to talk him into this, he said he would never transfer 3 if it was day 5 and wasn't my 4th time)! I am due at the end of November!

I decided to write this to tell you: Do not give up! Good luck to all of you!

[kholt]

Hey thanks for all the encouragement. I just wanted to let you know that I got my betas back and I got the BFN. But I am going to look into getting a grant or being part of a study to do another go. I can't afford right now to do it again. So I have hope that I too can have a baby someday. Thanks for all your help and support.

Kari