trying for a sibling

[chand73]

Hello everyone! I am a 34 yr old mom of a 6 yr old adorable boy. My first pregnancy was unplanned and hassle free and I thought that thank God I didn't face any problems like so many women around me....but after trying to concieve again for 5 yrs and 5 cycles of clomid, we did a semen analysis and the motility came out very low, ie 5%, we still kept on trying hoping it would happen naturally like the first time, but now I think that time is not on our side and decided to go for ivf, I've already had my day 21 shot and the doc has asked to come on my day 2 for the next shot. I live in UAE and there is no support group over here that one can join, and I don't want to talk about this with any family members or friends. The ladies over here seem very friendly and I feel that writing things down helps in taking some of the stress off ur shoulders. Hope someine reads this and replies. I feel very sorry/guilty about my son not having a sibling and that is the main reason I am going thru with this, otherwise he is the light of my life and enough for me.

[gori]

Hi Chand, hope all is well. Don't worry, you are not alone. This happens all the time but many people prefer not to talk about it & keep worrying about it inside. I have two suggestions for you: find someone close to you, a relative: mom/sister or a close [girl] friend that you can discuss this with. Sometimes guys [no matter how nice they are] don't understand all the emotions of a woman. Secondly, try ICSI. IVF alone is sometimes not the best treatment for male factor issues. We had the same issues but ICSI helped the first time. Do you know what your issues were with IVF? Was fertilization an issue? If so, ICSI will certainly help [hopefully]. How old is your husband? Do you have any religious constraints at all - in terms of not knowing what to do with more than one fertilized embryo? If so, try inseminating limited eggs. So the chances of resulting embryo is close to 1! How many eggs did you try with? I feel I can help you as I have been through a similar case & now we are expecting!! So pls feel free to ask me any questions you may have. Have faith in God!!

[loopie]

dear Chand
welcome! This site has been a great help to me - just being able to write about what's going on (because it is A LOT!!) makes this process bearable
I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling guilty about your wonderful son not having a sibling - knowing that you carried a child to term and have a wonderful child is more than half the battle in IVF !
-if you are prepared to go down this path, positive thinking is the way to go! but being able to vent is very important,too.
I don't know where you are on your IVFcycle, but come over an visit us on the Jan/Feb Cycle buddies chat- we're a great source of info,and pretty good listeners!

loopie