The Over 40 Crowd

[Gracielope2]

Chriss: You sound better today. I couldn't stop thinking about you yesterday, I said a prayer for you. I was hoping to say something to you that would make you feel a little better, I know in my heart that things will turn out ok - I know that I said this to you yesterday, but we tried 5 times before it worked.

Are you going to the same facility? How long have you been with them? I"ve heard a good RE is one who changes your protocol. Each time we tried IVF my RE changed my protocol. I was ready to go straight to DE and my RE didn't want me to just yet. "don't give up"!!!!

I'm sooooo happy you are reading that book. He is very inspiring, makes you feel total PMA. That book got me through #5 and of course this forum as well. Although my 2WW was torture! Having the 'I'm not giving up" attitude is very good.

Andrea: How are things going with you?

Yasmina: Sorry to hear you are so busy. Is it because of the holidays?

DJB: How are you doing? Have you decided if the next step for you and DH is IVF?

Sonia: Thanks for you well wishes. How are you doing?

Well: I get the news today if things are moving along. I'm trying not to think about it too much. I feel really blessed, and still amazed and shocked that we are actually pregnant. I know that God answered my prayers and I'm so thankful for that.

[jen babes]

hi all

i have had a good time away but have been so busy since i came home on sunday sorry i havent posted x x x

been thinking of you all though and expecially chriss...many big hugs to you sweetheart x x x i am so sorry x x x hugs and hugs galore to you x x x and DH x x x

i am thinking of you all but so busy at work cos i took time off last week that i am doing double shifts for a couple of days...been fihghting my 2nd cold of 3wks and think the extra vit c and zinc has finally worked I am off on saturday home to mine and Dh's family for a week..then have visitors from london coming up to spend a good old knees up of a Scottish New Year at our house so i will be on and off the threads hoping to post when i can...

sorry no personals ...wishing all you mums a fab family christmas full of baby cheer many hugs to everyone else enjoy the festivities the best you call can x x x Next year will be differant for us all i hope as dreams will have come true in 2008 x x x

so speak soon if not


love to ya all jen xxxx

[Gracielope2]

Hey Ladies: I got the blood work back - Thank GOD.. Looks like things are moving along. I have another appointment next week. Happy but very cautious.

[chriss]

Hello JenB, sounds like you are having fun. Very good to heaqr from you.

Gracie, awesome news! Keep doing what you are doing. Very happy for you. Thanks again for all of your support. As far as the changing of my protocol, the first time was not a good response to drugs so for#2 we skipped the lupron and that worked out well. Third IVF they stitched a string to my uterus to straghten it out when doing transfer. Meds were the same. they put back 5 intead of 4. I don't know what else they could change. We are doing ICSI and AH. I am at max. dosage for stimms. We have consult Friday after Xmas and will talk with dr about anything else that can be done. What were some of the changes made to your protocol? I am curious and want some ides to bring up to dr. I am feeling a little better, but oh this is the hardest thing in my life.

[Gracielope2]

Chriss: The last protocol RE put me on BC for 28 days instead of 22. I was on Lupron along with the BD. and I also had to take Metoformin, I heard it helps with PCOS. The first two times, I was on other meds, I can't seem to remember the names right now.

I had insisted on getting blood work done. So, they ran gentetic testing, and I also insisted on getting a laparoscopy and a hystercopy done. I just wanted to make sure everything was ok. When I had the Lap and hysto done, I had one fibroid and one cyst which he removed. I'm thinking that is why he put me on the metoformin.

I didn't do anything different as far as eating. I asked a couple of woman that got BFP with IVF if they did anything different, i.e., watch what they ate, eat more pineapple, and they all said No. They did say that they Exercised

I'm a firm believer in prayer. If you believe in God then pray to him. He answers our prayers, his timing is not ours. I would ask him if he would please make it known to me what his plan is. i.e, adoption, DE. I feel he puts a desire in our heart for a reason.

I'm not out of the woods yet. I try not to think about it, that way, I will be less anxious. But, I still pray every day.

It will work for you Chriss. I just know it! Keep pressing forward, don't let it get you down. Believe that you will be holding your baby one day.

Sending you a big hug!

Hey JenB - Glad to hear from you.

[chriss]

Thanks Gracie, your words/advice mean very much to me. I will keep praying for you and for me. I keep reading that book. I've picked up my exercise again. I think I will try to meditate more. I've kinda stopped doing that and as I recall, it did really help me with stress level. Deep breaths. Thanks for responding back each time. I feel your support and I totally appreciate it. I felt a bit sad this morning and was about to cry again at school. It's tough to stiffle the emotions at the work place. But i have to remember about closing the door and opening the new one. Talk to you soon. Give your bellly a rub from me. -chriss

[Mercy]

Hello,
I am 42 and remarried four years ago. I have two children DD 23 and DS 18. I had a tubal in 1998.
After 1 year of discussing and researching a possible reversal... the conclusion is to have IVF.
My recent visit to the Dr was just for information and my next visit is to be on the first of my next cycle... which should be about Jan 10 - 12, 2008 to start Birth Control and lab work.
Any advice from anyone... any information from someone that had a tubal and is doing IVF...
I am healthy and so is DH, not over weight, don't drink, don't smoke... pretty boring.
I am concerned about costs and at what point if this doesn't work that we give up.
Thank you and hope to hear from you.
~MG

[Gracielope2]

Chriss: I'm so happy you started with the exercise again. Have you ever tried yoga? Yasmina mentioned it, and someone else. I tried a couple of times then stopped. I'm thinking of going to the gym again myself, just light weight and some walking. You are in my thoughts, my heart was really hurt for you because I know how if feels to get that awful call. But there is hope Chriss. Meditation is excellent, that is one thing I really want to start doing myself. Deep breaths help.....too. It's only normal to feel sad, if you feel like you want to cry let it out. Tomorrow is a new beginning for you - closing one door and opening a new one. Start thinking PMA now - starting telling yourself the next time we do IVF it's going to work, it's going to be our time. And pray..... I will continue to pray for you as well. And thanks for praying for me.

Hi mercy - welcome! I'm sorry but I really don't know anything about tubal, but I'm sure some of the woman on here do. You are in the right place for support.

Hi to everyone - hope all is going well. I better get back to work.

[Kiwi expat]

Hi all - In case I get carried away with all the festivities next week , I'm just popping in quickly to wish everyone a

MERRY CHRISTMAS, HAPPY HANUKA, SALAMAT HARI RAYA AND HAPPY HOLIDAYS!!!

To all the fabulous, courageous and incredible women I've met on this thread - thanks for all your support! It means alot to me when I have very few others to rave on to about all this nonsense!!

I know 2008 will be a better year for all of us

Here's to a happy, healthy and fertile 2008!

Much love,
Andrea

[chriss]

Welcome Mercy. You will recieve tons of support here. I don't have any information to share about tubal, but someone may. There are many of us on this thread, stick around.

Hey Gracie, how are you? Any more symptoms kicking in? It is wonderful that you can celebrate Christmas with a BFP! I got AF yesterday and the cramps are mighty. One more day closer to starting treatment in a month. Just have to wait for next AF. Yes, I've been doing some yoga and I love it. I'm still a beginner. I didn't do it after ER and ET, but now I am back with it. I have a good month to rest up, do yoga, exercise, eat right and get myself ready for #4. I keep reading my book, thanks to you and it helps me with the PMA. When the moments of doubt creep up, I send them away. It's tough at times. Thnaks always for your support and encouragement. Thinking of you and your FAMILY.

Hi Andrea, happy holidays to you too. Your support means a lot to me too. Have fun and talk to you soon.

Thinking of all of you. Enjoy the next few days. It's a fun time of year. PMA-chris

[Sonix]

Glad to see everyone getting carried away with all the festivities at this fun time of year.

A big welcome to Mercy.

Chriss – glad you are sounding better. Thinking of you. xxx

It’s bad news from me. My cycle has been cancelled again. At the scan on Thursday my lining was down to 7mm although my E2 level was supposedly OK. I started E2 patches in addition to the tablets but in the afternoon I started spotting and yesterday evening AF was here with heavy cramping, on cycle day 20!. Exactly like last time. I was so hopeful, thinking positive, confident that the acu was helping. Now I feel like we’re just not getting anywhere. One step forward, two steps back. It’ll be months until I get to this stage again. And what then?

Luckily I could talk to the doc’s assistant this morning. She was very sympathetic but at a loss as to why his keeps happening. It seems I’m the only such case they’ve ever had. She’ll consult the doc and send us an email next week.

Thanks for listening and sorry about being such a downer. Yesterday DH’s family proposed having the family get-together for Christmas at our place. They don’t know about my tmt. I can’t go and hide… got to get my act together…

To all you wonderful ladies here on this thread thanks for your understanding, kind words, invaluable support and just for being there. Wishing you all happy holidays and all the very best for 2008!

Sonia
xxx

[chriss]

Hi Sonia, sorry to hear your news. Keep thinking positive. Keep believing. Faith is believing in something when common sense tells you otherwise. I am praying for you. My family wants to have Christmas Eve at my house. When I was still waiting for my Beta results I agreed to it. Then after I got the BFN, I felt sad about everything, even Christmas. Now that a few days have passed, I am trying to look on the bright side. They are all still coming, it's at my house. I am focusing on having a nice Christmas Eve and not on the BFN. I have to believe that my time will come. It's not easy for us. I just want you to know that you are not alone. I feel for you. I know the feeling of time passing by. It's been almost a year since my BFP, then I had the miscarriage. Since then each month I keep thinking that this will be it. I can remember my sister and I saying, it will happen over the summer or it will happen this fall, or it will happen by Christmas. Well, here we are. I am now trying to take away the pressure of time. It will happen when it is supposed to happen. I don't have control over it. I just keep believing. (I am convincing myself of this as I write this to you.) I've read that we must picture it and believe it before it will happen. Let's be strong together. Wishing you a Very Merry Chritmas. Don't give up on your dream. - chriss

[AMck]

Hi Ladies hope everyone Ok today.

Sorry I haven't posted in ages....but you are always in my thoughts and prayers.

Wishing you all a very happy christmas and may 2008 bring you all your heart desires

Take care
Hugs
Anna x

[Catharine]

Happy Holidays To One an ALL

Apologies for being MIA.

Chriss- my heart goes out to you. Know that you and DH are in my prayers.

My update. Still trying to maintain the PMA
It's been difficult, but DH just had some words of wisdom life is too short to take things personally. That pretty much put it into perspective for me. So I had a sonohystogram this past week, and not such good news was gleen from the images. The clinic would like to to hysteroscopy to get a better idea of what is going on. I'm all for this as it would give us better confidence that the lining is in an optimum standing. What worries me is that they are trying to rush the surgery before year end. Tentative sechedule is Thursday 27th. Part of me hopes that this date falls through, I don't need the stress of holidays surgery and rush to this surgery, I'm okay with waiting till next month, which I told the clinic. Besides the hospital is on reduced staff, this can not be good., more stress. Another worry is that the surgery is occurring in the part of my cycle post ovulation, every other test they try not to do any tests during the post ovulation period. The clinic replied that if there is still featal tissue remnants in my uterus that it needs to be removed asap. But what's another month is my question, they were not so worried back in November over this. So Wednesday I will hear if Thursday I have surgery no worries. The upside is that it is slow at work and that DH has time to help me. Life is so crazy.

Wishing everyone a safe and happy holiday.
Catharine

[chriss]

Hi Catharine, you are in my prayers as well. Today is Wednesday, so you will find out about surgery schedule. Take a deep breath. One day at a time. Trust that the doctors know what they are doing. Please let us know right away the results of your Dr. visit today. Thinking of you. Try to think of each thing as a step closer to your dreams.

Sonia, me again, I can't help but think about your situation. Can diet/nutrition have anything to do with your lining? Are you vegetarian? Is there any link at all? What about any blood disorders? Is there anything that they can screen you for? Are there any supplements that you can take to help blood? Maybe fish oil? Blood thinners? I don't know, I am trying to come up with any ideas for you to ask doctors about. Thinking of you.

Hi Gracie, hope you had a great holiday. How are you feeling?

Anna, thanks for the well wishes to us all.

How are you andrea?

Hi to everyone. I'm sure we will haear from all of you when the holiday hoopla is over. Hope that you all had a wonderful time with your families & friends. Ready for 2008! Take care, -chriss