Just had to report that I had my 20 week scan this morning and everything was just fine. Just amazing to see its little face - had its gob open quite a lot of the time(!?) but thankfully it no longer looked like Homer - as at 11.5weeks... Bit disappointed that the policy at our NHS hospital is not to reveal the sex, we were really looking forward to that. So the name-finding conundrum will be doubly as hard.<br><br>It seems so strange that I won't need any more scans till much later on now as I'm deemed 'normal'. Well that's what the midwife said. After everything we've all been through it's so hard getting used to being thought of as normal!!! I doubt that any of us will ever get over the absolute miracle of it all though - maybe that is the one positive thing about having had to go through all this. <br><br>I've also been making my life more complicated by handing my notice in at work. I've not been that happy here for a while so thought I should take a fantastic opportunity I've been given to join somewhere else, so will at least have a few months to get settled. Think it's pretty definite I'll have to return after maternity leave (DH is self-employed and I just can't see it working with me being off). So it's been a stressful couple of weeks, but I can't wait to join the new place soon. Can't believe how life can just turn from being so awful to so positive and hopeful. <br><br>Enough of my rambling, now we're over that 20week hurdle we're going to try to relax and start enjoying this pregnancy. And for the first time in years - like many of you - can't wait till Christmas!<br><br>Nicola x<br>(20weeks 3days)
TTC 8 yrs. Me 35, DH 52. 1st IVF eggs didn't fertilise, sperm couldn't get through shell. 2nd & 3rd ICSI got embryos but -ve. 1st FET +ve with twins, '1 disappeared' at 9 wks. One baby due 9th April.
Nicola, I understand so well what you're saying I feel exactly the same. So many Christmas's have gone by when you feel just at rock bottom but have to smile and be jolly - this year is going to be so different for us, but I'm so aware of those for whom it will be a sad and for some, unbearable time. <br><br>The 20 week scan is just amazing isnt it? We were told that our baby is a little girl which has made it all the more exciting but just think how exciting it will be for you on the day when they give you that news "it's a ............"<br><br>Like you, I'll never get over how lucky we've been - I used to think "why us?" over the misfortune of infertility ....... now I often think the same thing only along the lines of why have we been chosen to receive such good fortune. One things for sure, none of us will ever take it for granted.<br><br>Glad it's all going well with you - I'm at 24 weeks and Alice (we've picked her name too!) is kicking all the time its fantastic.<br><br>Lots of Love - Jo. XXXXXX<br>
hi Nicola<br><br>This is great news! You must be thrilled. I have a scan on Friday 13wks and I'll be glad to know everything they are both ok in there.<br><br>I know what you both mean about feeling really lucky to have been given this opportunity. I feel truly honoured. I saw a friend yesterday who has finally decided after four ivf attempts to call it a day and I just felt so sorry for her and so bloody grateful for my very special gifts!<br><br>Enjoy the last half of your pregnancy!!<br><br>love nikola.x
Fantastic news, it really is truly special seeing it's little face and fingers etc, seems so much more real!<br><br>Good luck with the new job etc too, wow, you don't do things by half do you?!<br><br>Can't wait until Christmas either, all shopping has now been done! Just got the cards to get out and then roll on 25th!<br><br>Hope you are still feeling well, how's the bump coming along?<br><br>D x (21 weeks 6 days)
Me 34, DH, 37. Married for 11 years, ttc for 6+, failed 4 x fresh IVF tmts. 5th attempt at Lister Hospital gave us Megan on 5 April 2004 with a very straightforward pregnancy and labour. Attempt number 6 to start hopefully September 2007!
Nicola<br>Great news with the scan and good luck with the new job. We have our 20 wk scan in 2 wk. Hows your bump going? I'm 18 wk tomorrow and mine seems to be massive - someone came up to me earlier and said I was having a girl as I was carrying low!!!!! Her face was a picture when I said I was 18 wk.<br>Jo - you are right in that this is def something we'll never take for granted. I feel grateful for every day and love my pregnancy. <br>Good luck to everyone.<br>luv<br>Bertie xx<br>(17 wk & 6 dys)
Age 32, DH 36.
TTC 7 yrs.
Baby Phoebe Jessie was born 26/03/04 - 5 week early and utterly gorgeous!!
Hi There Nicola<br><br>Just want to say that I am glad your scan went well, its just amazing to see your little baby on the scan isn't it? The thing is it just gets better with the movements etc, admittenly sometimes mine do come sharp under my ribs but I love being pregnant and just count my lucky stars that it happened to me. I don't know what I am having but this is my own choice I just want it to be a surprise and as time is going on I just can't wait to meet my little miracle.<br><br>Love<br>Shell.<br>31wks 4d pg<br>xx
Just wanted to say great news Nicola. We've just had ours to so I know what a great feeling it is.<br>Here's to the next half - relax and enjoy!<br>Zoe x
1st IVF - Easter 2002 - neg
2nd IVF - Summer 2002 - pos, but M/C 8 wks
3rd IVF Summer 2003 - pos with beautiful baby boy
April 2006 - miracles happen - positive naturally day after receiving IVF letter to start again! Another beautiful boy
So nice to get your replies - I've been a bit slack participating on this site as I don't come on every day and there's always so much to catch up on.<br><br>Re. the bump - I did go through a phase during weeks 15-19 of being really worried as it wasn't very big, but I now actually feel like it shows properly now - I even wore my 'Simon Cowell' high waister jeans from Bloomin Marvellous yesterday, had the elastic bit pulled in quite a bit, but it felt really comfortable. <br><br>I wasn't very big to start with and did lose weight at the beginning because I couldn't face eating, but the weight has crept on slowly -without me eating loads more than normal. I remember the doctor saying that the baby will take everything it needs from you, if anyone suffers it will be you first. <br><br>Jo, I recall you saying you saw some little kicks and I was so surprised you could see it that early, but lo and behold I saw a little movement last week (and managed to get DH to feel it too - he was so excited). I seem to get the most activity in the evenings when I'm watching TV. <br> <br>So you go from worrying about the size of the bump, to the number of movements. It just never ends .......! <br><br>Nicola x
TTC 8 yrs. Me 35, DH 52. 1st IVF eggs didn't fertilise, sperm couldn't get through shell. 2nd & 3rd ICSI got embryos but -ve. 1st FET +ve with twins, '1 disappeared' at 9 wks. One baby due 9th April.