TRANSFER CANCELLED

[higgins237]

Tues we had our transfer cancelled as the egg wasnt quality. We only had three at retrieval with only one that fertilized. We did the blast transfer and it didnt work. This was our 1st ivf attempt and boy was it a journey. Can't believe everything we went through to have it all fail. It is so sad and depressing....emotionally draining not to mention financially draining. We have an appt next Fri with the Dr to discuss what went wrong and to talk about attempting round #2. Anyone else been through this? I'm still in shock and trying to understand why??? Just looking for some reassurance and someone else who understands. Very thankful for this forum.

[esperanza]

higgins, I'm SO, SO, SO sorry. I can't imagine going through so much to not even do the transfer. It's truly heart breaking. Please, take time to grieve, and then come back. Don't loose hope, I'm saying a prayer for you and dh. HUGS

[LB]

Higgins - I am so sorry for you!! I don't know what reassurance I can give, but I completely understand and sympathize. I had my first IVF in December, and I responded fine to the stimulation and had over 30 follicles and was told we would have lots of eggs so we should definitely freeze. We get to ER and they found only 1 egg. It was mature and they fertilized it, but it stopped growing so we had to transfer ET. I was beyond stunned and hysterical. I was prepared for the first cycle not to result in a pregnancy since the success rate first time isn't great, but we were blown away by this result. On top of my PCOS and irreparably blocked tubes, to get this far and find yet another problem was unreal. I have some sort of ovarian problem but RE doesn't know what it is. He has only see this 4-5 times in his 20 years (many follicles but no eggs). We are trying again with a slower stim in February, but it's hard to stay positive.

Hang in there and please know you are not alone!!

[higgins237]

Thanks for the support everyone... it is nice to know I'm not alone however I wouldn't wish this on anyone... There is so much to know, learn and understand with all of this. It's hard because there isn't anyone personally I know that has gone through this, so it's hard for family and friends to understand although God bless them, they all try! It's so emotionally draining and the thought of starting from square one again is alot to handle. We are going to do another cycle and I'm mentally ready to get started so let's bring on a period! Kind of ironic at this point in the game to be wishing a period to hurry up and come!

Esperanza, thanks for the thoughts and prayers-it's greatly appreciated.

LB, hang in there and try to stay positive, it's hard I know but everyday does get a little better. Keep me posted.

[TammyS]

Higgins237...I am soo sorry. I cant even imagine. Stay postive. You have a good attitude. Come on AF!!

[faith4]

hi
i'm sorry to hear about this! it is a rough way to start.

if it is of any interest, here is my experience. i've had stacks of failed attempts over the years, including a canceled transfer. it is hard to believe, but there are advantages to having attempts fail early. what comes after the transfer is tedious. if the result is negative - it is worse to go through it to get a negative result. one other time i wanted the dr to cancel the transfer as it was obvious to me that there was no hope. he decided there was + it went ahead. expensive + inconvenient for me -> ended in a negative anyway.

it is hard to believe but next time really can be different. it really can be worth persevering!!!

(if it is not different next time you might change drs. give up one your dr before you give up on yourself.)

best luck
faith

[riogirl71]

Higgins - I am really sorry, my heart goes out to you. If you go on round #2, I wish lots of baby dust and please keep us posted!