WHERE DO I GO FROM HERE ...........LOST TWINS THIS WEEK

[sonu911]

Dear Lisa

Just was lurking around the boards when I read this heatbreaking news. I also had IVF cycle approx with u but had BFN. Anyway I was following your news for quite sometime and then I had to travel.

Anyway, no words will be sufficient to cure your heartache. I just wish the best in the world for you and for all my dear friends here who have gone through so much.

((hugs))

[gori]

Hi Lisa
M/C is the undoubtedly the worst thing a 'mom to be' can experience. I remember last year, when I had my m/c at 12 weeks, there were no symptoms whatsoever! I just had very light spotting, no cramping, no other signs. I called my gynae, she told me not to worry but I still decided to go the ER to get myself checked. My husband was also there with me at ER, we were hoping it's just a sanity check & everything would be fine. In fact, we were hoping to find the sex of the baby thru the u/s. That's where my worst nightmare was realized. I cannot explain what we went thru. It seemed like the end of the world, It seemed liked nothing in this world will ever alleviate this pain for me. It seemed like I stopped living for a few days. D&C was another nightmare since they waited 2 days to schedule it & I had contractions the whole night before that.
Having said all this, I can tell you that the pain does reduce.... after a while, the feeling of hope & optimism does kick in....you start hoping for a better, brighter tomorrow and with time, you do start living a normal life....I can only give you courage based on what I have experienced. May God give you the peace & strength... and may you find your arms filled with a little one very soon!!
Regards
Gori

[LisaPa]

thank you both for you thought and prayers.

Gori---I see you are expecting CONGRATS......

aS FOR THINGS ON THIS END I GOT MY FIRST CYCLE LAST WEEK SO MY BODY IS DOING WHAT IT IS SUPPOSED TO DO. WE ARE GOING TO TRY ON OUR OWN FOR A WHILE BEFORE GOING BACK TO THE FERTILITY DR. I WANT TO GIVE MY BODY A REST FROM ALL THE HORMONES AND ID LIKE TO DROP A FEW POUNDS BEFORE I GET PREG AGAIN..OK MUST KEEP THIS ONE SHORT..

HOPE ALL IS WELL WITH EVERYONE.

[gori]

Hi Lisa, definitely a good idea. You need your body to recover. You need to stay away from those hormonal meds for a while. And a great idea to loose some weight first. First few months will be tough but then planning a little vacation might help, try to find some other interests, try to take your mind off of it for a while. I can tell you, all this helped me. I have heard of many cases on this forum where it has happened miraculously on their own for some people, so try that. If not, you can always try IVF again. Good Luck to you again & thanks for your wishes.

[Ronnie]

Lisa:

I couldn´t believe it when I saw your message. I lost my twins of 16 weeks (a boy and a girl) due to an infection on Dec 13th. I never thought life could be so unfair!!! After 2 years of treatment and an IVF we finally managed to get pregnant...we were SO HAPPY. And then 4 months later, I have a miscarriage...sometimes I feel I will never be a mom!!!!

It has been very hard and I can´t tell you how sorry I am for your loss. Please let´s keep in touch to help each other through this....the only good thing that has come from this is thatt my housband and I are closer than we ever have been. We took some vacation after the miscarriage and it did us very good...but now I am back to the same places, all my memories...it is hard, does it happen to you that you have to deal with so many memories that sometimes you don´t think you can take it?

I will be praying for you, and lets keep in touch!!!