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alice · Post by **alice** » Thu Oct 02, 2003 5:49 pm

just to say I tyhink you have started your 6th go and I wish you loads of luck and good vibes. Keep strong alicexx

Grace · Post by **Grace** » Thu Oct 02, 2003 9:13 pm

Thank you so much Alice for thinking of me. I am doing okay. Still scary though...you know how it is. I am keeping an eye on your updates and so pleased it is all going well, although I know it must be very difficult too. I expect you are getting exited though, it must be lovely to think of your new family. You are going to be such a lovely Mum. Look forward to hearing from you again. Will let you know how it goes. Love Gracexx

ogr1 · Post by **ogr1** » Fri Oct 03, 2003 4:01 am

just wanted to say good luck to you both.. you both are great women. and you have been good friends.. i am glad that we all have this chance to share. it means so much to me... make sure and keep letting us know how it is going !!!!!!! HANG IN THERE becky

alice · Post by **alice** » Fri Oct 03, 2003 4:08 pm

Hi grace and Becky and everyone, hope you're doing well. Grace, where are you up to in your treatment? I hope its all going well, and remember, this time you NK cells are under control and its goibng to bloody well work for you. It will be lovely to have a long timer have success. Keep strong. Am here is you want to chat. axxx

Grace · Post by **Grace** » Fri Oct 03, 2003 7:07 pm

Thanks Alice and Becky I am so pleased to have your support, it means alot. I do post on the main board from time to time and of course everyone is great. Sometimes difficult though as I have been through it so many times now and know the ropes so well in a practical sense. It is nice to chat to you guys because you know what it is like to face it again and again. On an emotional level I am actually okay at the moment. Still down regging but start the stims tomorrow. I am trying to just get on with my life and not focus on it all the time, hard though. Although I am quite positive about it all. I do think about moving on too. I don't want to keep doing this for ever. I think we will be okay. I am so lucky to have a very happy relationship and I keep focusing on that. Dh is quite alot older than me so we won't be able to adopt. I do try and count my blessings though, we are married almost nine years now and even though we have had all this to deal with I think we are closer now than ever. All I have ever wanted in life is to be a Mummy. Even though I have gone through the motions of University etc I have never been really focused on a glittering career. I am happiest pottering around at home with DH and doggie. Until a few months ago I never believed I could be happy without a family but now I am beginning to see things in a broader sense - of course if it happens I will be absoultly overwhelmed with joy. If does n't it will be awful but I know I will get through it eventually. Sorry if I am going on but it does help to get my feelings down. Thanks so much for being here it means such alot. How are you feeling about the adoption Alice? it must have hugely stressful moments too. What age group will you be adopting. I really am exited for you know. Becky your ranch does sound so amazing. Your life must be so busy with the boys and all the animals etc. It is so intesting to hear of because it seems very different from ours. I hope you are doing okay and feeling a little stronger. Each day must be hard as it is such early days since you lost baby Moses. I know you have a strong faith, and of course your lovely family must help such alot but still very, very difficult. Anyway, thinking of you both and also all the other girls over here. Love Gracexxx

ogr1 · Post by **ogr1** » Fri Oct 03, 2003 7:24 pm

thanks grace and alice. have you thought about donor. we thought that it might be alot cheaper if someone had left over embys donated that we might beable to come up with the money for that. plus i would have to have the money for the surgery, before we even started to do ivf again. i dont know if are kids here could servive another ivf go. right now we are just trying to get threw each day. we all know what that is like !!! love becky

Grace · Post by **Grace** » Mon Oct 06, 2003 12:19 pm

Hi Becky Thanks for the lovely words you e-mailed me. I did e-mail you back but I think mail thingy is not working very well so don't know if you got it. No have n't really thought about a donor as such. I suppose because my eggs seem okay although we do have to use ICSI. Are you thinking you might try the surgery? I know that it is all so expensive is n't it even more so in the States. I have a week of work this week. It is nice just being at home and taking it easy. Hope you are okay. Speak to you soon. Gracexx

ogr1 · Post by **ogr1** » Mon Oct 06, 2003 5:02 pm

money is a biggy.which i dont think is fair, but what is? we spent around 70,000 thousand to get pregnant. and had 2 mc. 1 at 8wks with my twins and 1 at 20wks with our son. i dont want a repeat of that. i dont think we would make it threw another loss. but we didnt think that we would make it after we lost our twins. we dont have a problem using someone elses embies. as soon as they put them in me they would be ours and we wouldnt ever tell anyone. we have thought long and hard about this. our children that we have know , we enjoy and love like they where are own, but after they graduate or turn 18 they go look for there birth parents and that realy hurts. you would think that we would geet used to it by now , but we dont..maybe it would be different if they where younger when we got them. i will never understand how they are so devoted to there birth parents. they have all been badly abused.. it is realy awful what some of there parents have done to them.we just got a 13 year old boy and he cant even read. i could go on and on. i didnt get your e- mail..i love doing stuff at home to. i just got out all of my fall decorations.... it is still hot here during the day ,but it is realy cooling off in the evenings.. the trees arte starting to change. . how is the rigging going?

Grace · Post by **Grace** » Mon Oct 06, 2003 9:19 pm

Hi Becky Sorry you did n't get the mail, I will have to sort something out about that. Yes I can imagine it must be very difficult when the kids begin to look for their birth parents. Are they always about 13 years old when they come to you? It seems strange that these horrible people are so curel and abusive to their children while all of us would do just about anything to have a child. I really think the work you do is amazing. Those kids must be so disturbed by the time they get to you. It sounds like you make such a lovely home for them all Becky, you certainly have a lot of love in your heart. All your treatmeant has been so expensive I can hardly believe it. I think you are right about the embryos though of course it would be your baby. I so hope that you get your dream you deserve it so much. I am doing okay. Will be going back to the hospital on Friday to see how it is going. I have started the actual fertility drugs now. Yes I love being at home. Your fall decorations sound lovely. The days are getting colder here too but it is nice and cosy in a way. I expect you will get lots of snow in Montana come the winter, it all sounds so wonderful and a million miles away from dirty old London. Take good care Gracexxxxxxxx

ogr1 · Post by **ogr1** » Mon Oct 06, 2003 9:46 pm

from the photos that i have seen london looks great. are youngest that we have gotten is 10. i just got a call to take a nother 13 year old. he was adopted and they have been on the news about there aoptevive parents beating them up and starving them and tapping them up. dont know about birth mom but birth dad was killed in a prison riot 10 yars ago.. it was so hard to tell them now. but we are full. i told them that we woul have a opening in may. we have to more kids graduating. i will never understand why things have to be the way they are. this is something that i have always prayed about. i will keep my fingers crossed for you.make sure and let me know when you will do ec. and hopefuly we will get snow soon becky

Tracey S · Post by **Tracey S** » Tue Oct 07, 2003 10:23 am

Grace just popped in to see how you are doing - I dropped you an email - hope you got it. I am willing this to work for you - you both truly deserve it. In the meantime I will hope......... Becky and Alice hope you are both well. Love Tracey xxx

louli · Post by **louli** » Wed Oct 08, 2003 2:51 pm

Grace,Becky and Alice, Just thought I would catch up with you. I have not been on the site much since we had second cycle cancelled due to poor response at the end of August.Wanted to wish you all the best for your cycle Grace. We have been for a follow-up cons with Marie Wren and I certainly found her more approachable than Sam. Thank you for your advice. We also did persuade them to give us the cons for free as we had spent over £1500 on drugs, blood tests and scans even though we had not got to egg collection. In my head I can't believe that there is no chance of collecting one of my eggs as I know from bloods that I am still ovulating. DH wants us to try one more time. We have advertised for donor eggs and are on the waiting list but will have to wait until at least April 2003. Sorry to go on, Good Luck Grace . I'll be thinking of you. Becky, you certainly have your hands full. I know we have not talked much but would love to hear more about how you got into parenting these kids. They are so lucky to have you. Alice, how is the home study going? We have an info pack now from the council but naturally they will not process us until we stop any assisted reproduction, Good Luck all, Lou

louli · Post by **louli** » Wed Oct 08, 2003 2:55 pm

Becky, have just read your other thread and so now I know how you got started. What age were your two boys when you adopted them? Lou

ogr1 · Post by **ogr1** » Wed Oct 08, 2003 3:40 pm

good to see you tracey. you keep hanging in there!!! lou tavis and shawn came to live with us when they where 13. we adopted them when they where 16.they are both doing good now. we had to wait for parents rights to be taken away. trav was born a drug baby. we are going to adopt arron also. he was realy sick all last year. but we have to wait a year after a mc. i would adopt them all if we could. i think every child has to have somebody. how is every one else doing?

Grace · Post by **Grace** » Thu Oct 09, 2003 12:30 pm

Hi Girls It's great to have this side going alot stonger now. I know I am in the middle of a cycle but I have been through it so many times that I sometimes feel I don't want to put a downer on all the first timers over on the other side. I suppose I just don't get very exited about it all now but that's okay too I suppose. Lou, really good to hear form you. I had been wondering how were getting on. So glad you did n't have to pay for a consultation that would have been totally wrong. Yes, Marie Wren is okay, she is easy to talk to and she does n't beat about the bush but tells it like it is at least that what I have found. How do you feel about another try with your own eggs yourself? you said DH was keen to give it another go. I can appreciate it is a difficult decison to make. Did the hopsital give you any advice or just left it entirely to yourselves? I know April seems like a long way off but at the same time you know how the months go by so quickly. You never know though you might get a response to your advert more quickly than you think. Do keep in touch though as you know we are here for you and sometimes it is just nice to talk these things through with the rest of us. Thanks for your good wishes too keep those fingers crossed for me. Hello to Becky, Alice, Tracy and everyone else. Hope you are all doing okay. Talk soon Gracexxxxxxxxxxxx

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