Christmas Blessings..........

Discussion forum for those who had completed their IVF treatments without a successful outcome and are seeking other options such as adoption, surrogacy etc.
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Lorraine
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Hello Girls<br>It has been an age since I posted, I do come back and read your messages so have tried to keep up with you all but just recently I have felt unable to post (not sure exactly why - but I get so very upset that I have avoided it I guess).<br><br>Anyway the reason for posting is to wish you all a Happy Christmas. I know the holidays are so very hard for us all, like you it has been a time when every Christmas morning I made a silent wish that next year would be different.......... I have no idea why our prayers have not been answered or why we should have to endure the pain and sadness being childless brings - but despite this I wanted to take time to acknowledge the many blessings I am so very thankful for.<br><br>I thank my lucky stars for my loving husband who holds my hand every time I cry and walks beside me every step of the way.<br><br>I am thankful for my family who have given me so much love and support this year (and every year).<br><br>And ....... I am most grateful for finding this site. I want to thank all of you here (especially Alison, Alice, Grace, Becky, Tracey, Lisa and Lucy) and all those others who I have met since May - without you, I know this journey would have been so very much worse.<br>To my old cycle buddies, Jo, Caz and Sharon - we have all gone so very many different ways but I am so glad we were together when we needed it most. Thank you - I wish you all so very much in the New Year! <br><br>I wish you all peace, I hope you can find a place this Christmas where you feel warm and safe and loved - you all deserve so much more.<br>I hope that at least once you hear your own laughter and remember that you are so very special and that nothing - not even NOT being a mother makes you LESS of a beautiful person. <br><br>I will think of you all at Mass and will light a candle in your honour and say a prayer for us all.<br><br>God bless you all.<br>With Love from<br>Lorraine<br>xxxxxx<br><br>P.S - I make NO APOLOGIES for making this sound like a snotty wimpering sickly sweet OSCAR speech as I mean every word!!!!! (Move over Gwyneth Paltrow!!) Lxx<br><br><br>[Edited by Lorraine on 19-Dec-03 06:33]
Married to my darling husband for almost 8 years - ttc for same.
Me - severe PCOS & Hubby - low sperm/poor morphology/antibodies.
Usual investigations/drug Tx then 3 IVF cycles - all negative.
Have chosen not to have any further Tx.
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Loonpants
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Lorraine<br><br>Merry Crimbo to you and yours. Thanks for your posting it meant alot to me as I'm sure it will to the others.<br><br>It is my b'day today and this time last year I had just found out I was pregnant. I know it wasn't meant to be but I did hope that the miracle angel might visit again this year. <br><br>Still I have a lot to be thankful for especially having such a wonderful husband who means the world to me and like he says 'we will get through this as long as we have each other'<br><br>We have been to see a clinic here last week and I am now on the route of taking clomid when AF arrives. I thought we would end up back at the beginning as we are now in UK and because we had a natural pregnancy last year. This time they have done blood tests to see why I miscarried and so hopefully all this will be a step in the right direction. I would truly love us to have a family without having to go down the ICSI route again but we'll have to see. <br><br>I want you all to know I will be thinking of you at Christmas.<br><br>Love <br><br>Lisa(Loonpants)<br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br><br>
Traci
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Lorraine <br>What a lovely speach , you are a very special person and I hope that 2004 will be lucky for all of us . I cant compeet with your words so I will just wish you lots of happiness for the future coming year and hope that christmas goes smoothly, <br><br>Thanks <br>Trace x <br><br>Lisa Loonepants<br><br>Happy Birthday<br>:)<br>
1st cycle own eggs Neg
2nd cycle own eggs Neg
3rd cycle cousins eggs Neg
4th cycle unknown donor eggs Neg
Going to have sisters eggs Feb 06
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Lorraine<br><br>Thank you for those wonderful words...... I suppose we should all try the glass is half full not empty routine......<br>We have just had Oliver's service and said our goodbyes - a goodbye to what might have been but not to what was if that makes sense.<br>I wish you a wonderful christmas and happiness which I know you to have already but I wish I could wave a magic wand - you know what a mean....and Happy Christmas to all of my special friends on this site. We all have our own strength and that we draw on from each other which is a special gift.<br>Massive hugs to you all<br>Tracey<br>xxx<br>PS I am still worried about Becky!
ttc 9 years. 38 yrs old, dh 8 hrs younger!First IVF in Aug 2002 and had ectopic.2nd IVF neg.3rd FET and negative.4th FET and positive but sadly lost our little boy at 20 weeks.5th FET and Alice Isobel and Emily Charlotte born 5th Aug 2004!
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Dear Lorraine<br><br>Thank you for those lovely words. I do think of you often Lorraine, you have such a wonderful gift with words and you always say so clearly what so many of us are thinking. (sound nothing like Gwyneth, believe me).<br><br>Your words have reminded me of all that I have to be grateful for and this is what I am going to hold on to over the festive season. We really only have the here and now and compared to many I am indeed blessed. <br><br>I would just like to wish you all a very, very happy and peaceful Christmas. Thank you to all of you for being there for me. I don't know how life will turn out one way or another but I know I will never forget the kindness and understanding that I found here amongst you.<br><br>Wishing all my friends a very happy Christmas<br>Love<br>Gracexxxx<br><br>PS Like Traci, special thoughts going to Becky,hope all is well with you.
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Hi Lorraine ..... sorry not been on the site for a while, have been off work for a few days.<br><br>This year - wow what a see-saw. Want to reiterate that no matter what I'll never forget my cycle buddies and they'll just always be a bit special to me. When Alice arrives I will remember you and Caz and Sharon particularly and say a special thank you and ask that you might through some route receive the same happiness and peace (he does move in very mysterious ways y'know - we do not know what's around the corner)<br><br>Very Best Wishes for a lovely Christmas time for yourself and your husband, I know you appreciate so much the great things that you have. Will speak next year.<br><br>Lots of Love - Jo. XXXXXXXXX<br><br><br>
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Lorraine,<br><br>As always, thank you for your wonderful words. You are often in my thoughts, along with Jo and Caz and others I have met along the way. Looks like I'll be sniffing again 1st week in January (so IVF no. 4 with assisted hatching this time!) so let's hope 2004 is special for us all!!! Always remember you are a very special person to lots of people.<br><br>Wishing you all peace and lots of love this Christmas and I'll raise a glass (the last one for a while!) on New Years Eve for you all.<br><br>Lots of Love and special Christmas hugs<br>(Love to Jo and Caz )<br>Sxxx
me 38 DH 47 - TTC - 3.5 years - tubal infertility
4 failed IVF cycles - 1 abandoned
Found to have raised FSH when going for 5th cycle
Now looking at adoption
Let the new adventure start!
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Lorraine - just wanted to add my good wishes to you and all my other friends on these boards. I couldn't have done these last 18 months without your support, and one of the positives to have come from all the disappointment is to have met such a wonderful group of women.<br><br>Wishing everyone all the best for 2004, whatever it may hold in store.<br><br>Much love<br><br>Alison x
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Just wanted to add my best wishes to the board. I will be hoping that you all get through xmas and manage to find some hapiness. 2004 will be a better year and we will be able to manage with the help of each other<br>take care<br>a xxx
Lorraine
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Just popped in to say hello and Merry Chrsitmas to each and every one of you.<br>Becky still no word - am thinking of you - I know this will be a particularly painful time for you. God Bless you and your family.<br>With love to you all<br>Lorraine<br>xxxxx
Married to my darling husband for almost 8 years - ttc for same.
Me - severe PCOS & Hubby - low sperm/poor morphology/antibodies.
Usual investigations/drug Tx then 3 IVF cycles - all negative.
Have chosen not to have any further Tx.
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