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When is estimated ER Chriss?
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I think she is triggering tomorrow night, so she mentioned Tuesday....:) All these ER, BFP's...etc I'm so excited for you all! I check in here all day to see if anyone else has any news....it's so exciting to read about everyones journey :)
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Wow, there has been a lot of posting on here the last few days.
I am so blessed to have found you guys. I can feel the prayers that you guys are placing on me. I must say that I had my first "you are pregnant" dream the other night. I have not had one of those since right before I got pregnant with my dd. I am so hopeful that it is a sign. I went to bed last night and just felt very strongly that God was going to grant my dh and I the blessing of another child. I hope I didn't read into the dream wrong.

I am still feeling very well after surgery. A little tired, but that could be due to work and not surgery. They have not called with the biopsy results, though I don't expect them for a little bit....anyone know around how long this usually takes?
Next step is waiting until June to do my FET. It seems like forever, but I just know it will be here before I know it.
We are having to wait until June as I am a teacher, and we travel to San Antonio (360 miles) in order to do the procedure. I just can't take off the time from work needed to do it any other time of year.

Now, before I get into personals, I have a HUGE prayer request that is not even IVF related.
I am a third grade teacher :D Absolutely love my job. However, in the state of Texas the third graders have to take a Reading Test and pass it in order to move onto fourth grade. The students have never seen a test like this before, and it is super hard (there are 4 reading passages that are 2 pages long each, and there are a total of 46 questions). There is so much pressure put on the kids. It is called the TAKS test, and the kids have gotten to the point when I say TAKS, they tell me it is a bad word.
I just ask that on Wednesday you wonderful ladies would pray that God watch over my 42 3rd graders and give them the strength and guidance to pass this test.

Okay, enough about me.....
Kildean- I am still just so excited for you and dh. I hope that this is the boy and girl that you have been praying for. How fortunate you are to get them both at the same time. It is amazing how wonderful those little beanies look on the us.

Nikki- Yea for AF. It is so exciting when you finally have the dates down and know about when everything is going to happen. I pray that it works out for you this time. April 4th is a good time to start, as April 5th is my dd birthday:)
What have you decided on the number you will transfer? I think we had talked about this before, with Dr. S. being fairly conservative now...anyhow, we will continue to pray for you.
by the way, how are the Foster parenting classes going?

Hope- We will be praying for your dss mother. Divorce is so hard, and now to add on health problems. I know you and your dh will do everything to help dss and the ex- all that you can.
I remember the tightness of stimming. This last time we went to the zoo and there was so much tightness, I could not hardly walk. I am hoping that you produce as well as you have in the past.

Indie- You need not worry about what other people think. As long as you, your dh, and your family are excited about the prospect of more children that is all that matters. As Hope pointed out, you are the one who has to bathe, clothe, feed, and do everything with and for these kids. If you want to have a dozen kids, so be it. (We actually have friends who have 9 kids. They are amazing parents.)
God has plans for us, and we just need to do what he wants. Just keep happy thoughts going through your head.
I was sorry to read that you do not feel you 4 year old will ever bond with you. My little sister was adopted from Korea when she was 4 years old. it was a struggle for all of us, however, she bonded with us (or so we thought) very well. Then once she turend 18 she turned wicked. She now absolutely hates my parents and says they were never her parents. it just breaks their hearts knowing that they treated her like one of their "natural" children, and now she hates them.
Anyhow.....

Chriss- So, ER on Tuesday? We will be praying for lots of embies. if ER is on Tuesday, when will your ET be?

Mia- Have you been feeling any better? I remember someone telling me once that they had such bad ms, and to combat it they ate 2 saltine crackers before getting out of bed every morning. Something about the salt. Ater they fingured out that trick, they didn't have any more problems.
What type of job are you looking for?
God has the perfect job just waiting for you. he will lead you to it, but you must be patient. Right now you need to worry about your little one...or two.

Alright, I know I have missed some, however I have got to try to get the house cleaned. it is a never ending process.
I hope everyone has a great weekend. Continued prayers for all.
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HRobinson: It's so nice to hear from you :) I don't know how long the biopsy normally takes on something like that but I had a cervical biopsy once and it took about a week (5 biz days) before I got my results.

Thanks for the good thoughts on having more kids....I know it's up to us and God but sometimes you let others feelings or opinions creep in. And I don't plan on having a dozen LOL...or even 9 like your friend LOL This will be our last 'hurrah' as far as children go. That's why I'm praying so hard for a BFP....I only get one fresh and one frozen cycle with this study and then no more procedures.

Sorry to hear about the TAKS test. Since we homeschool, we only take standard testing every 3rd year after 3rd grade. My oldest daughter gets physically sick when she has to take test (or she did when she had to take them in public school. I had to pick her up every day after testing because she'd throw up...etc. It was HORRIBLE. Such pressure on such young kids....it's not right. She's done well with them at home, and I can tell a HUGE difference in her learning styles and how she's retaining the curriculum. I never thought I'd be using my college degree to homeschool my kids, but I'm glad that I have that option. I will be praying very hard for all the children testing.....oh and small side note, you have 42 children in your classroom!!!!! WOWZERS

Funny that you mention going to San Antonio :) That is where my adopted children are from. It's a nice place....but very very different from where we live. When we arrived home, all they could say was "Mountains, AWESOME!" LOL

Our 4 year old is such a different child. We're going to have genetic test ran on him next week, as we're thinking he has something in the range of genetics that might be holding him back. While we pray for things to be different, we realize that this may be why God put them in our house....not necessarily to add a 'willing' family member to our home, but to raise him and guide him as God would see fit...and then let him set out on his own life at 18 instead of aging out in the system. Who knows why God puts people/friends/children in our lives, sometimes it's probably not for the reason we would think or want...but nevertheless he is here and we'll help him through this. We also have some therapist sessions lined up with a different therapist that specializes in attachment.

That is awful about your sister, what a shocker to your parents. Sadly, we never heard anything about RAD until we set out to adopt 'older' children and then it was all we heard of. I really have changed my ideas of the American foster care system after adopting our children. Why on earth would you need to move a 2-3 year old 5-6 times before placing him for adoption? Why give the parents 3 times back in the home before getting him in a safer place. He now can't attach to anyone because of what he's been through....and really who can blame him. He's had a history of attaching to someone only to be taken away and placed somewhere else, over and over. But we'll leave it at that....I don't want to get up on the soapbox right now LOL

Well, we just came in from playing outside....thought I'd check in before bathtime and Scrubs LOL Everyone have a GREAT night and a wonderful, glorious Sunday!
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Indie- Wow, I commend you for homeschooling your children. Though I have an education degree, I do not think I would be disciplined enough to homeschool. Plus, my dd does not respond well to me. She feels she is the boss of me:( Guess I've let her get by with way too much.
As for having 42 kids...I only have 21 in my room, then my co-teacher has 21. However, if we have 90% of the kids pass the reading test I get a HUGE bonus. Then if 90% of the kids pass the math test in late April my co-teacher gets a bonus.
With or without the bonus, I just feel for the kids. I taught 3rd grade the very first year that the kids had to pass it in order to move on. I had like 3 or 4 kids absent that day. I think they were just so worry about not passing. It has also gotten so bad, that they send "seret agents" in to make sure we are not helping the kids at all.
So much is at stake with just this one test.

I will be praying for your son as he undergoes the genetic tests. I do feel for foster kids. I can only imagine what they have been through, and what the others close to them have been through.
One of my close friends asked if we would adopt or do foster care if our FET in June didn't work. I told her that I just knew our FET would work so we didn't need to go down that road. However, we could never do the foster care thing. My husband is a coach, and we move about every 3 years. So, I am not sure how all that would work. Then, with my sister turning out the way she did, I just don't know that I could adopt. I also must admit that it comes down to money as well.

This June will be our last attempt at having another child, I think. We have 4 eggs frozen, and I am not sure how many my doctor will implant. He doesn't allow me to have much of a say. I don't think two of the eggs were the best of quality, while the other two were just step below wonderful. So, we will see. I really feel my deam the other night was a sign. Let's hope that I am not wrong.

So depressing, it was 80 degrees here today and tomorrow it is only supposed to be in the 50s. I just wish the weather would figure out what it wants to do. I don't think we are supposed to have nice weather again for a week or so. DD loves playing outside when it is nice. She has so much energy that we really praise God when the weather is nice.

Anyhow, Everyone have a great Sunday. I am going to be writing encouraging note to all my kids tomorrow, so not sure I will be on. plus I think DH will be home so, will try to do a little family time :D :D :D
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Post by chriss »

Hi Hrobinson,
Will be thinking of your students as they take the test. I am a teacher as well. (first grade, so not so much with the standardized tests, just one in June). I did teach 4th grade for a year and they were tested like crazy, so I know the pressure that they/you feel. Writing them encouraging notes is such a thoughtful idea. Very kind of you. You must be a wonderful teacher. Glad you are felling better after surgery.

Indie, you have the patience of a saint. You really are such a giving person. I truly hope that your 4yr old will come along. Good idea to seek help with specialist who knows about attachment issues. How are things proceeding with the study? Thanks for the well wishes. Very much appreciated.

Hi Mia, Hope and all the rest. Hope you are all doing well. Thank you so much for all of your support and friendship. As you all know, it means sooooo much.

I did the trigger last night and will go in tomorrow for ER. Transfer will be on Friday (3Day). Thanks for your prayers. Mine go out to you all as well. Enjoy the day. -chriss
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I'm so excited for you Chriss.....yay! I can't believe you're going to have those little beans back in you on Friday....WHOOHOOO!!! How many again are you transferring? Was it 4?

I wish I had the patience of a Saint LOL We always do bible study first...that way I can usually contain my temper while going through the other assignments LOL

I'm so excited about Thursday.....although I'm kind of confused why they didn't want me to do the FSH 3 day Saturday here locally. Surely that is a standard test???? Anyone went in to IVF without having the FSH tested? I have secondary infertility, but still....I'm 33 so you'd think it would be something they would have allowed me to do. Now I'll probably have to wait until the end of March for AF again....then 2 weeks of BCP...and on and on. I would have loved to start sooner, but it's all in God's timing :)

Did anyone read that story about Angelina Jolie? Saying that she was 'collecting' kids because the 'high' she got from having another one or adopting another one was like Oxycontin? I of course don't know her personally, but again.....I really worry about what people will say about us. Oh well....we know why we're doing it and that's what matters :)

Praying for you all....can't wait to hear from Mia, when again is that next ultrasound? And Kildean...how are your 2 little ones doing? Anymore upcoming test or US?
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Wow, things sure move quickly around here. On the days that I'm working I really don't have time to keep up with you all so I have a little catching up to do.

But first, I saw this movie clip and thought of all of you and want to share it, so here's the link. As I watched this movie I was in total awe. It just amazes me....God created all of these creatures and they just wonderful....He is so creative.
http://www.ted.com/index.php/talks/view/id/206

Hrobinson, any news yet? You sound like a really wonderful teacher. I wish all teacher were like you. We were really spoiled with my son's kindergarten teacher but are not so impressed with his 1st grade teachers. I can't put myself in your shoes and imagine the pressure you're under cause my job is totally different but I am sure with such a caring, involved attitude towards your kids they'll do fine.

Mia, haven't heard from you for a few days. I hope you're OK? I hope you are having some success finding the right job. I know things don't always move quickly when you're finding a job. Hope your little baby is growing and getting comfy for the next few months.

Hope...just 6 days til ER! That went really fast. Looks like your follies are doing great! I'm so happy for you, can't wait to follow your success and see your BFP!

Chriss....your ER is tomorrow...YAY! Do you have 5 folllies? I'll be praying all goes well for you. You and Hope will be going through your pregnancies really close together.

Indie...I found it interesting what you had to say about the foster care system....since we're preparing to become foster parents....so feel free to get up on you "soap box". You'd think that most counties would try to place the kids who are most likely not to reunited with their bio parents in foster-adopt homes to reduce the number of moves. I guess there's just not enough foster-adopt homes or something. At our training class last week they did a really cool demonstration. They took a strip of packing tape which represented the foster child and stuck it to the arms of several people in the class, on afer another. By the end, the tape was less sticky..ie less able to attach and had little bits of skin and hair from each person suck to it. I thought that was a really good demonstration.
Sorry for my bad memory but is your 4 yr old adopted?
Ooo, going back to scrubs....yep, do love the one where Elliot get smoothies (and ends up drinking them all). One of our favourites is when janitor make the knife-wrench and sings "knife-wreeeeench......for kids"

Well, nothing much new here....started BCP's a few days ago, will be starting lupron on Thursday. It still doesn't feel real yet. I'm working on staying positive....I guess not beliveing in it is my way of protecting myself from more pain but I do need to regain that PMA.

Stay strong ladies....praying for all of you.

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MATTHEW ARRIVED DEC 19TH....8 lbs 9.7 OZ
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kildean23 wrote:Hey Ladies, This is a special report. :lol: I am having twins!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! We were able to see the heartbeats as well. I am so happy. They were so cute!!!!!!!!!!!! I know that is my boy and my girl. The Lord just keeps showing up and showing out!!!!!! I love Him so much! He has been so good to me!
WOO-HOO Kildean!! Praise God! SO happy you are getting the desire of your heart! TWINS DOuble the fun!!!

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Nikki...too funny about the Janitor. Isn't he HILARIOUS. I like when Turk puts the blue handprints all over the hallways and it gets blamed on the janitor. Or when he gets the new saw and can't really figure out ways to use it LOL

On the note of foster/adopt. When we went to our county for classes, they told us that there was only 2 children in the entire county system that were 'foster/adoptive' children. One of the presenters told us that no matter what we thought as 'foster parents' the main job of the system was to reunite the children with the parents, even if the parents took a while getting to that point. We were so disturbed by those statistics....pretty much saying that thousands of children are in Limbo while mommy and daddy try to get it together...over and over and over. Not right! So we went with a private agency to do our homestudy, and then went straight to the states that had 'adoptive' children available. Our homestudy was sent out to approximately 50 different children or sibling groups and we got matched with 3. Funny enough....I think half the ones we sent our homestudy in on are still in the system :( as we check the photo websites every once in a while.

And yes, our 4 year old is one of the adopted children :) So again, probably just years of not being able to attach that have built up. And a lot of his issues seem to revolve around food....so hopefully we'll get it all worked out :) and he'll be happy and well adjusted.

I like the tape exercise that your foster class did....that makes perfect sense. The bigger question I guess would be how to make the tape sticky again and remove all those previous bad memories or make them less hurtful.

Well, nap time is over....going to get snack ready :)
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Hey Girls. Friday- Sun it is really hard for me to get on - but I am here Mon-Thursday :)

Nic: Cool Clip - I love the squid part and then the final octopus part - really amazing! Yeah - I think we all have used a lack of PMA as protection "just in case." This last cycle I threw that idea out and just said I am gonna stay positive all the way through. B/c at the end of the day I will be smashed if I get a BFN just the same if I was hopeful or "prepared." But everyone deals with this differently. STay strong!!

Indie: Girl how do you find time to do all this posting between snacks, playing, homeschooling, feeding... I always thought I would have 5 kids and homeschool - God had other plans! My husband has never been open to adoption, but I would have adopted years ago! Glad tehre are people like you out there :) ABout Angelina - I used to hate her until I saw what a humanitarian she bacame and I think her motives are genuine in adopting children. I dont think you should worry about what other people think - search your heart and make sure your motives are right and that it what is important.

Chriss: So glad to see you posting so much! Wow 1st grade teacher - BRAVE! :) But I bet it is very rewarding. I taught 9th, but decided I wanted to teach college so I didnt have to deal with discipline issues! Happy to hear about your follie report - How was ER?? Friday will be here before you know it! Are you feeling good about this cycle or still guarded? Praying this is your time.

hrobinson: Yeah another teacher :) Ugh I hate the TAKS test!! I taught 9th grade - and it is sooooo ridiculous. Now teaching College I see so many adverse effects of the TAKS tests - are students are allowed to think outside the box they just know how to write these programmed formulaic responses!! ugh ugh ugh!!! Praying your kids to WONDERFUL!!! I pray that June brings you your miracle baby!! Sorry to hear about your sister. I think I went through that same stage! I hope she will one day be able to reflect back on your parents commitment to her and be able to be a part of the family again. BTW I am applying for a full-time college instructor position. I am part-time now.

Well I am feeling good today - somedays I can eat fine - and others I am so picky I will only eat what I am hungry for!! I have my u/s on Friday - I am thinking there will just be the one. Whatever there will be all praise goes to God! Dh is starting a new business with my father which would hopefully provide a great income. I am praying about going to law school. I am in school right now to get my PhD in English, but just dont feel that is the right direction. Not sure if law school is the right way either so I will just continue to pray.

I am up for the Bible study. I will need to go to the book store today and see if they have a copy. I will let yall know tonight if I get it.

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Nope I didnt get to get the book. Will get it tomorrow. I promise!

ANy one else want to join us??
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TTC 8 yrs
2/3 2 blasts transferred
2/14 BFP Beta#1: 316; Beta#2 960
2/25 - u/s one baby! :)
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I'm interested in the bible study....I looked in my local Christian book store today but didn't find it. The online way looks quite straightforward though.

Mia, I really like the way you handled your PMA. I think I am going to try to adopt that way of thinking. Thanks for that tip.

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1st heartbeat 6w3d 115bpm, 9w2d hb 171bpm
MATTHEW ARRIVED DEC 19TH....8 lbs 9.7 OZ
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Wow, didn't realize so many of us on here were teachers. It is such a rewarding career.

Chriss- I could NEVER do first grade. Always thought that is what I wanted to do until I did my student teaching. It was then that I realized that I really like the kids who can be a little more independent. I have taught 3, 4, 5. I absolutely love them all. DH thinks I should go to middle school, because I am so disciplined and have such high expectations, but not sure that is where my heart would be.
I am so impressed that you are doing an IVF cycle during the school year. I think it would be great as your mind would be constantly busy with the kids but.....
I am so excited for Friday to come for you. Did I read right that you are going to transfer 4? Oh, I just hope this is your time. We all have to remember PMA. While it is hard at times, we just have to remember that God has that perfect plan for us, and we just have to be a little patient..

Indie- I cannot get over what a wonderful, wonderful woman you are. May I ask, how many children you have? Have you always homeschooled them?
When my little sister, who was adopted, first came to us, she had food issues. Living the first 4 years of her life in an orphanage, I guess she didn't get much food. So, when she came to us, she would eat, and eat, and eat. I remember one instance when she ate a WHOLE apple, stem, seeds everything.
Thinking back to when we first adopted her, brings many memories back to life and make me smile :D

Nikki- I sat down this weekend to read more of your book. I am about halfway through it. I find myself thinking "Did I write this book?" I can relate to the ladies emotions so well. DH was shocked when I was turning off the TV to just sit and read, which haven't done since dd was born.
Wow, lupron on Thursday. It's always exciting to actually be "doing" something towards having our little ones. I hear lots of women say the lupron gives them hot flashes...did it you? It never bothered me.
Just keep up the PMA. I know what you mean about being guarded. I feel myself being like that quite often.

Mia- A college professor. WOW!!! I am impressed. My dh went to college close to SA...actually at SouthWest Texas for a semester back in the days. Are you wanting a job right there in SA?
I think maybe, if you can afford it, just take some time off and enjoy your pregnancy.

Well, ladies I have to run....battery on computer is down to less than 10% and losing juice every second.
Will check in tomorrow.
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Hey girls,

Sorry I have not posted in a while I have been very busy with work and school. Congratulations to my sister kildean and mia. I am praying for everyone else. An update on me, this is currently day 2 of the stimulating shots, ER is scheduled for next Wednesday, I'm so excited. I pray the Lord will bless me like he blessed my twin sister (kildean)! I know he is able!! I will keep you ladies updated.

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