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Nick · Post by **Nick** » Tue Jan 06, 2004 9:06 pm

Hya Girls,

Great to hear of some wonderful news, in particular from Tracey S. That is really fantastic news, and wish you well.

Anyway, you may remember that I "crept" over to this board, stunned by our first ever pregnancy. Well, we had 6 week scan, and it was OK but no heartbeat. We were told that was OK, and yes, OK to go the Canaries for a fortnight.

Well - bang on 8 weeks, I began to bleed, clots, lots of them, and spent an agonising 12 hours in the apartment. I phoned the UK and spoke with my Dad (GP) As night was coming he suggested to go to hospital (all these facilities I had checked very carefully, in case of the inevitable).

Cut a long story short - I had to stay overnight (with hubby, lieing in bed beside me) The Gynae consultant, came over on Dec 29th, and had a look. My DH kept on saying he could see somoething, but I knew it was too late, blood everywhere.

Next morning, I was washed and whisked downstairs on trolley, and then I woke up - I had the D & C.

I feel so numb, and even a week has past and just keep breaking down. We booked this holiday, as a pick-up incase the 3rd IVF failed Again. As it was, we were told it was fine to fly. The Spanish registrar could only say that it was not good to fly (bloody help that was - just when she told us we had to abort.)

I thought of BeckyM a lot, and was well prepared for a bit of bleeding at the 8 week. So if you are out there...have you any survival tips. How was your holiday in France?

I could keep on rambling, but just got back from holiday, desperate for cyber hugs.

Good luck, and well done to all those twinnies,

I have everything crossed.
Nicky, Philxxx

Nikola · Post by **Nikola** » Tue Jan 06, 2004 9:24 pm

Oh Nicky

I'm so sorry to hear your sad sad news. Life can be so cruel. Just as we allow ourselves to celebrate getting pg it gets snatched away. Life is just not fair sometimes.

I know nothing I say will make you feel any better, but I wanted to send you a big hug cos you sound like you need one.

You take things easy and spend some time together and I'm sure Tracey S and Becky will both empathise with you and offer you much better words of wisdom than I possibly could.

Thinking of you.
love nikola.xx

Tracey S · Post by **Tracey S** » Wed Jan 07, 2004 8:13 am

Nick

I am so sorry - how cruel - know all about that I am afraid. Posted for you on the other side but leaving one here to with a hug! No pearls of wisdom I am afraid - wish had answers - it is crap and that is all to say on it. You can and will get there - do what you have to and both get through it together then head down and off you go - I will be here!
It will never be relaxing - I am certainly not after what I have been through but clearly am glad to be pg and going through panicks then not
My thoughts are with you both
Love
Tracey
xxx

bubblymichelle · Post by **bubblymichelle** » Wed Jan 07, 2004 10:07 am

Hi Nick,

Just to let you know I have posted on your other thread, my thoughts are with you!! take as much time as you need, you know we are all here for you.
Love
Shell.
xx

Dagny · Post by **Dagny** » Wed Jan 07, 2004 11:02 am

Hello Nick

I am so sorry to read your sad news. It is such a kick in the teeth after going through so much. My heart really does go out to you both and I am sending you a massive hug. I don't think there are enough words to express my sadness for you. Try to keep your chin up and spend some real quality time with Phil and look forward not back.

Take care

Love and hugs from Dagny x

Wibbs1 · Post by **Wibbs1** » Wed Jan 07, 2004 4:18 pm

Oh Nick......

There is nothing anyone can say to make your pain go away, but I am sending a GREAT BIG CYBER HUG.....{{{{{{{{

}}}}}}}}}}....we dont have an icon for that.

No much consulation, but now you have had a +ve thats one hurdle over, now to pratice to keep holding onto it...like me 3 times, but it will happen you have to keep positive.

Don't beat yourself up about the flying, I flew to Florida after I lost one of the twins at 7weeks and still managed to hold onto the 2nd one, and They told me it was ok to fly aswell.

Just take care baby and hug DH lots...........it gets better

Love Wibbs
xx

alison p · Post by **alison p** » Thu Jan 08, 2004 12:07 pm

Dear Nick,

So sorry to hear your news. I guess that there's nothing anyone can say to make it easier - just take some time out with your DH to grieve properly.

You know that you can achieve a pregnancy, so that's one positive that can you taken from this horrible incident. Hopefully next time it will work for you,

best of luck,

Alison xx

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