Hi Girls,
hope you are all well. I was really fed up today, I went along to my GP to inform her of our pregnancy, anyway she ran through all the spiel and that the hopital would contact us with an appointment for our next scan round about 12 weeks etc etc. I was just about to leave the surgery when she says "don't count your chickens, remember 1 in 5 pregnancies end in miscarriage, I would hold my breath until 12 weeks and then breath a bit more once you get to 16 weeks" I thought it was really insensitive, as if us IVFers don't go through enough crap without people saying things like that. I want to enjoy every moment of my pregnancy and don't want to "hold my breath" I understand she was warning me of the risks (as if we don't already know every single possible thing that could go wrong) but I just thought it could have been put a bit more delicately.
Anyway just wanted to share that with you. I am feeling fine otherwise, I am still really tired, especially since I went back to work, I just want to be curled up on the couch at home watching daytime TV. I also feel really ill unless I eat on a regular basis which is a bit of a change for me as I usually just have 3 meals a day but find I am now having to snack every hour or so. I'm sure I will end up the size of a house! I already can't fasten a lot of my trousers!
Lots of love to everyone
Julie xx
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Julie
Insensitive cow as if you didn't know - tell her to go boil her head - with GP's like that. You are doing all the right things and did you know that seeing a heartbeat that early means you have a 95% chance of going on successfully so tell her to shove that up her jumper. My GP is as mad as they come - worse than me and after my history (ectopic and losing Oliver at 20 weeks) I always expect some remark or other but yesterday went in to get my colitis prescription and he say me and said how delighted he was and not comments at all about it happening again. Phew off my soap box.
I am waiting for my 12 week scan - always flap about scans now after my history and am 37 so start flapping about Downs etc - what a nightmare I am. Snacking is good - I have been so sick then calmed down and yesterday back witha vengeance.
Love
Tracey
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Insensitive cow as if you didn't know - tell her to go boil her head - with GP's like that. You are doing all the right things and did you know that seeing a heartbeat that early means you have a 95% chance of going on successfully so tell her to shove that up her jumper. My GP is as mad as they come - worse than me and after my history (ectopic and losing Oliver at 20 weeks) I always expect some remark or other but yesterday went in to get my colitis prescription and he say me and said how delighted he was and not comments at all about it happening again. Phew off my soap box.
I am waiting for my 12 week scan - always flap about scans now after my history and am 37 so start flapping about Downs etc - what a nightmare I am. Snacking is good - I have been so sick then calmed down and yesterday back witha vengeance.
Love
Tracey
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bubblymichelle
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What was wrong with her the bloody silly moo, how insensitive can one person be. The thing is it just annoys us what some people can come out with. Mind some people wouldn't have a clue what we have been through with IVF they wouldn't understand I would of wanted to tell her to go fourth and multiply, silly moo!!
Make sure you do eat little and often because this does help with the sickness, not very nice the sickness but eating often does sort of help keep it at bay.
Wishing you all the luck in the world
Love
Shell.
38wks pg
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Make sure you do eat little and often because this does help with the sickness, not very nice the sickness but eating often does sort of help keep it at bay.
Wishing you all the luck in the world
Love
Shell.
38wks pg
xx
Hi Julie
What an absolute bit@h
Some doctors think they are so clever when in actual fact they are just idiots. You would think that being a woman she would be more understanding and sensitive to a couple who have been through IVF. I think you should complain or failing that next time you have to see her let a stink bomb off in her office just as you leave - Oh my gooness I think I may have read the Beano a bit too much when I was a kid! 
Hope that the sickness is ok today
Take care
Love Dagny x
What an absolute bit@h
Some doctors think they are so clever when in actual fact they are just idiots. You would think that being a woman she would be more understanding and sensitive to a couple who have been through IVF. I think you should complain or failing that next time you have to see her let a stink bomb off in her office just as you leave - Oh my gooness I think I may have read the Beano a bit too much when I was a kid! Hope that the sickness is ok today
Take care
Love Dagny x
Hi Julie,
I agree with everything that everyone has said - how insensitive of your GP. That's the last thing you want to hear!!
Just keep the thought that once you've seen a heart beat then the chances of M/C are greatly reduced.
Obviously you won't stop worrying throughout the whole pregnancy and each mile stone - 12 weeks, 24 weeks, etc are a great relief. However, you don't need a GP like that at the moment. Hopefully you won't have to see them again - just your midwife.
The very best of luck!
Alison
I agree with everything that everyone has said - how insensitive of your GP. That's the last thing you want to hear!!
Just keep the thought that once you've seen a heart beat then the chances of M/C are greatly reduced.
Obviously you won't stop worrying throughout the whole pregnancy and each mile stone - 12 weeks, 24 weeks, etc are a great relief. However, you don't need a GP like that at the moment. Hopefully you won't have to see them again - just your midwife.
The very best of luck!
Alison
julie, this is bloody outrageous. what a nasty cow. so she's really saying that at least 80% of all pregnancies are successful from wk1 to wk 12, and we all know that the risk almost dimishes after that. well i think thats a pretty good bet.
since going through infertility investigations and ivf, i have seriously thought that interpersonal skills should be part of the medical curriculum. it amazes me how many times i've heard about or been told things that are completely insensitive and ignorant.
you probably know more or at least as much as your gp anyway. so i agree with you, enjoy your pregnancy.
phil x
since going through infertility investigations and ivf, i have seriously thought that interpersonal skills should be part of the medical curriculum. it amazes me how many times i've heard about or been told things that are completely insensitive and ignorant.
you probably know more or at least as much as your gp anyway. so i agree with you, enjoy your pregnancy.
phil x
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Hi Julie,
What an insensitive pig. I would of had cried if someone had said that to me. You would of had thought after everything he would of had kept his mouth shout.
I go to register with my doctor tomorrow and i hope he is a bit more sensitive. I think he will be he has really been there for me over the last two years. I have had alot of support from him.
Try to forget what he said and enjoy your pregnancy
Helen
What an insensitive pig. I would of had cried if someone had said that to me. You would of had thought after everything he would of had kept his mouth shout.
I go to register with my doctor tomorrow and i hope he is a bit more sensitive. I think he will be he has really been there for me over the last two years. I have had alot of support from him.
Try to forget what he said and enjoy your pregnancy
Helen