Oh Diane,
I have just seen your post on the General site.
I had no idea that you have been through such a rough time - I don't remember seeing you post before about your dh, but I can understand why not.
I just wanted to say that we're all here to look out for you even if we can't give physical support and send lots and lots of hugs your way.
I think we're due one day apart - are things getting uncomfortable for you now - I was awake for about 30 mins last night with Braxton Hicks and feeling a bit shattered yesterday. Have you sorted out a birth partner? I'd like my chinese dr to be there to give me acu, but midwife says she has to check up if allowed.
Lots of love
Fiona xxx
For Diane30
hi fiona thanks for your message
i didnt say anything on here till other week about my dh havent even told my midwife
i only said about it today cause it just shows what pigs some men can be so to think carefully b4 having donar insemination
dont think ive had braxton hicks yet what our they like?
seen midwife today and i havent got to back till im 36 weeks seem a long time
how often to you have to go?
im due 20 march what date our you?
have you bought a lot of baby stuff yet'?
love
di
i didnt say anything on here till other week about my dh havent even told my midwife
i only said about it today cause it just shows what pigs some men can be so to think carefully b4 having donar insemination
dont think ive had braxton hicks yet what our they like?
seen midwife today and i havent got to back till im 36 weeks seem a long time
how often to you have to go?
im due 20 march what date our you?
have you bought a lot of baby stuff yet'?
love
di
Hi Di,
I think you are very brave having mentioned it at all, it must be incredibly difficult for you to accept the situation, my heart truely goes out to you.
I personally (but then I have a good rapour with my midwife) would mention it to her - they must see others whose men have never been around or who have walked off and I am sure that knowing your background as I guess they will, they would work extra hard to give you the support you need. Do you not think he may come round once the baby is born, or do you not want him to? Please don't worry about not answering if you don't want to, I understand you will share what you want to.
On the subject of birthing partners if you are stuck, have you heard about birth doulas? I think there is a charge, but you could find out more from the following site:
http://www.britishdoulas.co.uk/
I hope whoever you decide on will give you lots of support.
Braxton Hick are tightenings of the bump, I think, well thats what I get anyway. Upto now they've not been painful, just a bit uncomfy. I've got to make a midwifes app for 31w3d (must do that today before I forget!!) and I already have a 36w app booked for the hospital. Its about every 4 weeks I go to someone somewhere.
My EDD is 21 March - I've still got 3 weeks to work after this (but wishing I could stop now as my puffy ankles and getting really tired) some people keep commenting I'm really big, then after my GTT Les said compared to the other women there, my bump is really neat so I'm not sure.
I have bought loads of clothes - everytime I have seen a bargin (at least 33% off) all the way upto 12 months. Some will think I'm mad (especially if the scanner woman was wrong and I'm not having a boy!) but I think of it as still having the same amount of money to spend from now until 12 months so why not get the bargins as I see them. The pram and car seat (Jane PowerTrack and Matrix thanks to Suzanne) and cot (bit extravagent this one - a Stokke Sleepi) should be waiting for us at the shop and we need to sort out bedding etc - not going overboard though as want to use grobags after 10lb. The nursery is already Winnie the Pooh yellow (was a study) so its staying that way and just (hmmmm, thats an understatement) needs emptying. Not buying any other furniture as have chest of drawers (now full of clothers) and bedding box we'll use.
Other than that, my bro and SIL are going to decorate our bedroom (isn't that so nice of them) and we're supposedly having a conservatory built (as you may have read we live with my mum and will lose our study/sitting room to the nursery) all before the event - getting a bit panicy now especially as builder starting to look un-reliable. But neither of these will take too much effort by ourselves so really shouldn't affect us too much so trying to keep chilled about it all
How about you? Are you all sorted baby stuff wise? Do you know the sex or not? Have you thought of names yet?
Anyway, better get back to some work I suppose.
I will try to keep in touch on a regular basis. Take Care
Love and hugs
Fiona xxx
I think you are very brave having mentioned it at all, it must be incredibly difficult for you to accept the situation, my heart truely goes out to you.
I personally (but then I have a good rapour with my midwife) would mention it to her - they must see others whose men have never been around or who have walked off and I am sure that knowing your background as I guess they will, they would work extra hard to give you the support you need. Do you not think he may come round once the baby is born, or do you not want him to? Please don't worry about not answering if you don't want to, I understand you will share what you want to.
On the subject of birthing partners if you are stuck, have you heard about birth doulas? I think there is a charge, but you could find out more from the following site:
http://www.britishdoulas.co.uk/
I hope whoever you decide on will give you lots of support.
Braxton Hick are tightenings of the bump, I think, well thats what I get anyway. Upto now they've not been painful, just a bit uncomfy. I've got to make a midwifes app for 31w3d (must do that today before I forget!!) and I already have a 36w app booked for the hospital. Its about every 4 weeks I go to someone somewhere.
My EDD is 21 March - I've still got 3 weeks to work after this (but wishing I could stop now as my puffy ankles and getting really tired) some people keep commenting I'm really big, then after my GTT Les said compared to the other women there, my bump is really neat so I'm not sure.
I have bought loads of clothes - everytime I have seen a bargin (at least 33% off) all the way upto 12 months. Some will think I'm mad (especially if the scanner woman was wrong and I'm not having a boy!) but I think of it as still having the same amount of money to spend from now until 12 months so why not get the bargins as I see them. The pram and car seat (Jane PowerTrack and Matrix thanks to Suzanne) and cot (bit extravagent this one - a Stokke Sleepi) should be waiting for us at the shop and we need to sort out bedding etc - not going overboard though as want to use grobags after 10lb. The nursery is already Winnie the Pooh yellow (was a study) so its staying that way and just (hmmmm, thats an understatement) needs emptying. Not buying any other furniture as have chest of drawers (now full of clothers) and bedding box we'll use.
Other than that, my bro and SIL are going to decorate our bedroom (isn't that so nice of them) and we're supposedly having a conservatory built (as you may have read we live with my mum and will lose our study/sitting room to the nursery) all before the event - getting a bit panicy now especially as builder starting to look un-reliable. But neither of these will take too much effort by ourselves so really shouldn't affect us too much so trying to keep chilled about it all
How about you? Are you all sorted baby stuff wise? Do you know the sex or not? Have you thought of names yet?
Anyway, better get back to some work I suppose.
I will try to keep in touch on a regular basis. Take Care
Love and hugs
Fiona xxx
Me:36 Dh:46, ttc 5+yrs, M/F (96% abnormal).
13 unsuccessful Txs From 2000 [4xClomid (NHS), 7xIUI(d)s & ICSI#1 (MFS), ICSI#2 (MFS) Oct 02 (ectopic)] Natural pg Jan 03 m/c 5.5wks
ICSI#3 (CARE) +ve boy (Xander) EDD 21/03/04 - so excited!!!!!!
13 unsuccessful Txs From 2000 [4xClomid (NHS), 7xIUI(d)s & ICSI#1 (MFS), ICSI#2 (MFS) Oct 02 (ectopic)] Natural pg Jan 03 m/c 5.5wks
ICSI#3 (CARE) +ve boy (Xander) EDD 21/03/04 - so excited!!!!!!
hi fiona
my mum is my birth partner and sister if i have a long 1 lol
dont if dh would want anything to do with baby after its born up to now he doesnt want to no told me not to contact him again
actully seen him on street today and didnt speak
just noticed how much treatment you have been through,boy i bet you are over moon
take care
love
di
my mum is my birth partner and sister if i have a long 1 lol
dont if dh would want anything to do with baby after its born up to now he doesnt want to no told me not to contact him again
actully seen him on street today and didnt speak
just noticed how much treatment you have been through,boy i bet you are over moon
take care
love
di