IVF HAMMERSMITH

AGallagher · Post by **AGallagher** » Wed Nov 14, 2007 11:22 am

Hello Vicky,

I am so sorry I was praying that you would get good news. I am sure you are devastated at finding out and really just don't know what to say.

I was talking to a work colleague yesterday who told me she miscarried at 3 months and has just returned to work after a month off. She said she is still very emotional but just couldn't stay at home anymore but feels the need to talk about it. I can't think of anything to say that would ease your pain at this time but I hope that the hospital can come up with the best option for you so that your grieve is not prolonged.

I am not feeling so great myself at the moment but I it doesn't feel like there is anything seriously wrong. Lots of wind and discomfort in my pelvic joints - more of a pulling and stitch than anything else. However I am just trying to take each day as it comes and not think too far ahead about things.

I really wish you well and am sorry that I can't think of any words that would make you feel better. Please let know how you are getting on.

Vickyp · Post by **Vickyp** » Thu Nov 15, 2007 9:22 am

Hi AG

Thank you for your kind message. The hospital visit wasn't as bad as I'd expected in the end - I got seen quite quickly which was a blessing as they just have a general waiting room for pregnant people and miscarriages - which is a bit gruelling. I saw a doctor and nurse both of whom were very kind but practical - which was good as otherwise I'd have been in floods.

The upshot of it was that if nothing has happened in terms of bleeding by next week I have to go in to hospital on Tuesday to have the baby removed. I have still not had any sign at all so at the moment I'm thinking I will definately have to go in. They were very positive that even though I've had two consecutive mc's this is still not uncommon and said I should keep trying and that statistically I would be more likely to have a successful pregnany if I can get pregnant again.

I did feel a bit better at their positivity although I have to say the idea of going through again at the moment seems unendurable - but then if you want to have a baby you have to do it I suppose! They said I could try again after one period - so I'm thinking if it was 4 weeks after they remove the baby that would mean ovulation in early Jan.

Sorry to hear your not feeling too good. I have lots of pulling sensations with Ollie. I read that it was the uterus expanding - I also had loads of wind the whole way through - in fact I remember thinking that if I had any pain I should consider whether it was wind first as that was really the most likely cause. Okay that's it for now. Talk to you again soon. Vicky

AGallagher · Post by **AGallagher** » Fri Nov 16, 2007 5:22 pm

Hello Vicky,

I am glad that the appointment went better than expected and that the doctor and nurse were positive about the future.

I feel for you having to wait until Tuesday. Nature has a funny way of playing with us. Keep your strength up and I hope you are getting all the support you need.

Take Care.

AG

bernie01 · Post by **bernie01** » Sat Nov 17, 2007 12:37 pm

Hi girls

I am so sorry to hear your news Vicky, I can't imagine how you must be feeling at the moment. But I guess it's reassuring to hear that they are positive for next time, however hard it is to come to terms with right now. LoL

AG, I am pleased to hear your scan went well, I hope the results of all the other various tests are ok too, it sounds like you are having to have loads. Fingers crossed for some good results.

I have just had my 13 week scan (missed 12 weeks as I was on holiday), the twins are doing fine, and the Nucal test was also ok. I am slowly expanding, and also have that "stitch" like pulling in my side sometimes, I think there is loads of pulling/stretching etc going on in there as the two little buggers fight for space!

You wil be in my thoughts on Tuesday Vicky, take care.

Bernie

Vickyp · Post by **Vickyp** » Mon Nov 19, 2007 12:40 pm

Hi everyone

Bernie - Glad your doing well. So nice to get the nuchal scan out the way and be able to relax a bit.

AG - thanks - it's nearly Tuesday now so not long before I'll be completely back to 'normal' biologically. Think I will be V. Sad tomorrow to know it's not there anymore even though it's dead. Anyway I have now booked an appt to see my consultant to see what he thinks about all this and to see whether he thinks we should continue trying naturally or what he thinks.

I hope your okay. Vicky

AGallagher · Post by **AGallagher** » Mon Nov 19, 2007 3:19 pm

Hello Bernie,

It's good to hear from and I am glad the scan went well. I have loads of pulling and stretching going on at the moment which feels strange. I think I have alot of wind as well which does not help but all seems well. I received a letter from the hospital on the weekend confirming that the nuchal scan was low risk for downs which was good news so now just waiting for the 18 week heart scan but I am not too concerned about that.

Vicky, I was thinking about you over the weekend and just recall after my first IVF I got an inconclusive result. The doctor at the time said it meant I could be pregnant but that it was either an ectopic or would not survive and I would have a bleed. I waited over a week and it was so painful hoping that they might have been wrong and that the result would come out ok. I couldn't cry or grieve until after the bleed as even though I knew it was going to happen I could not quite get my head around it.

The only reason I thought I would say this as I am trying to understand how you must be feeling. You may know the result but you still have to go through the physical process so I am not surprised if you are going to be sad as it will make things final. I wish well for tomorrow and hope that you get some comforting news from the doctor which can help you in some small way.

Take care.

Vickyp · Post by **Vickyp** » Mon Nov 19, 2007 5:51 pm

Hi AG

Thanks - really kind of you to think of me. Yes I agree it is the finality of it that I know will upset me. As you say - I know the outcome will not change and they are not going to say 'actually the heart appears to be beating now...' so I will just have to do and hope that if there is a next time it will be successful. I will let you know how it was. Thanks again. Vicky

Vickyp · Post by **Vickyp** » Tue Dec 04, 2007 4:17 pm

Hi AG

How are you doing? I hope everything is progressing smoothly - technically you should be able to feel the baby moving soon - although I didn't until 20 weeks ish - but SO amazing. Such a lovely feeling.

It went okay at hospital - I was a total wimp and cried almost the whole time - apart from the bit when I was unconcious! Feeling a bit better now though. I have seen my consultant and he was very positive about me trying again naturally. So I'm having an HSG hopefully early January to check my uterus and tubes again - then try again.

Are you all ready for Christmas? I am pretty much - apart from my husband I have most of my presents. We are buying each other a spa day (going together) so we are really relaxed for the New Year to try again - but I still have to get him some stocking presents - Ggrr - getting a bit of a chore now! Okay I hope your doing okay. Love Vicky.

AGallagher · Post by **AGallagher** » Tue Dec 11, 2007 12:22 pm

Hello Vicky,

It is good to hear from you. Luckily I haven't had to do much for Christmas. The children's presents are brought and I just have to find something for my partner.

I am around 16 weeks, almost 17, but I haven't felt the baby move but I know it can happen anytime between now and 20 weeks (according to what I have read). I have an 18 week scan on Monday to check baby's heart and then the main one in mid January.

The energy levels are coming back but I am fighting a cold at present so just taking things as easy as possible.

The spa sounds like a good idea and I hope that things go better for you in the new year. Have a good christmas and keep in touch.
Take care.

AG

bernie01 · Post by **bernie01** » Wed Dec 19, 2007 7:38 pm

Hi Vicky and AG

I just wanted to wish you both a very Happy Christmas and a great 2008, may it bring us all lots of happiness after a very tough 2007.

Take care

Bernie

AGallagher · Post by **AGallagher** » Thu Dec 27, 2007 1:56 pm

Hello Bernie,

It was nice to hear from you. I hope you had a good christmas and all the best for the new year. I am sure you are blooming by now!

Hello Vicky,

A new year, new hopes. I pray that the next year is not so tough for you and things go well.

All the best take care.

AG

Vickyp · Post by **Vickyp** » Wed Jan 02, 2008 12:03 pm

Hi Guys

Hope you both had a good Christmas and New Year and thank you for the message AG. We had a very quiet New Year I was in bed by 10.30pm but it was fine. My sister gave birth to a girl (her 4th child) on New Year's Eve - which was lovely but upsetting. I feel better now though and fully intend to try again as soon as possible.

I hope you are feeling okay. Love VIcky

Vickyp · Post by **Vickyp** » Wed Apr 16, 2008 1:01 pm

Hi - Is there anybody out there?

AG - you must be about ready to explode by now.

Just thought I'd let you know if you still look at this sight that I am pregnant AGAIN! So fingers crossed this one will stick - I am only 4wks & 5 days so theres a long way to go yet but I'll keep hopeful. Vicky

AGallagher · Post by **AGallagher** » Sun Apr 27, 2008 9:17 am

Hello Vicky,

Congratulations on your pregnancy. I know it is still early but wish you all the best. I am ready to pop. Will be 37 weeks on Monday. The baby is engaged and the doctor said it could come before the due date as it is a large baby. Not sure how large but am getting lots of braxton hicks and mid back pain at the moment.

Take care of yourself and I really hope all goes well this time.AG

Juicer · Post by **Juicer** » Mon Apr 28, 2008 10:30 am

I am just starting my treatment with Chelsea and Westminster - just on my 2nd week of Buserilin injections. Bit of a mixed bag so far in terms of how I feel about them, and I am so early in my treatment that I don't know if it helps. But here are my thoughts:

All my tests that I had done went very quickly and efficiently and the nurses were lovely. One in particular where they shoot water into your tubes was great - I had 2 nurses either side me stroking me the whole time and it almost helped me forget the fact that I was laid open to the world with all manner of objects between my legs and a nice looking male nurse in the room.

However, getting an appointment to get the results through was very slow and I have to wait 3 months. They also lost my partners blood tests and he had to redo them which was frustrating. And in general, the admin was pretty frustrating and quite often I spoke to people who didn't seem to know what was going on.

My funding came through quite quickly and I think it has been about 7 months from my first appointment where a problem was identified and starting on my 1st treatment. Which, I am told is very quick.

One appointment with a Dr was really frustrating as she had no idea who I was and kept asking me questions that should have been in my notes, but my apopintment with the nurse was great and I almost cried at how good she made me feel.

And finally, my accupuncturist (who specialises in IVF treatment) says that Chelsea and Westminster has a good reputation and the private specialist we went to for my partners test also praised the hospital and it's head Dr Norman-Taylor.

So currently, I think I am in the right place, but waiting to see how the whole process goes from start to finish.

Hope my ramblings help a bit. Good luck with your treatment.

IVF HAMMERSMITH

I am so sorry Vicky

Happy new year

Congratulations Vicky

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