The psychologist asked my husband if he was just another one of my 'kids'....can you believe that! He said I was old fashioned to dote on my kids and my husband like I do, making him breakfast before he leaves in the morning, making him reminders for his meds...etc. It's who I am....plain and simple. But my husband...forget that LOL He sounds a lot like your husband, he can remember anything that he has planned, but on my end....I have to say "This is important to me, please don't forget...if you think you might forget and would like me to send you an email or call you, I'll do that....but don't forget!" That way I give him the option of having me bug the crap out of him, or he can figure out a way to remind himself....otherwise we'd still be on two different levels, as he's always been that way so I had to take matters in to my own hands. If I ever die, I pray that if he remarries she's a lot like me....I'm afraid I've ruined him for anyone else LOL He is actually getting better though....you can't really change who they are, but you can help them to 'grow' a little
Last week I asked him to pick up dog food on the way home, he was working right next door to the pet store where we buy their food. I didn't remind him....and guess what, he forgot 
Then this week he called and said he was working 45 minutes from home (where I buy my strawberries for making jam every May) and he said he'd saw I'd gotten my reminder card that the Strawberries were in and he wanted to know how many I needed and he'd get them for me.....WOW! So again, I'm not changing him....but I'm glad to see he does remember more than he did 15 years ago LOLAll truth be told...that 15-20 minutes for the trigger shot probably wouldn't have really made a HUGE difference, but those RE's and their nurse's make sure you realize it's very very IMPORTANT to get it at that exact time....so I would have been just as upset. I keep having to remind myself with my BCP's that I'm supposed to take them at 8:30 everyday....then I let up one day and took it at 8:15 LOL (wow, I know....I'm living on the edge!!) but I figured, what if my watch/clock is 10-15 minutes off from the RE's office so as long as I took it within 15 minutes before or after that 8:30 time I'd be fine. Again, not trying to 'change' myself...but trying to let go a little more throughout this whole process.
I think we've all learned to let go a bit more, if not a WHOLE lot more LOL through IVF. And that is in essence what life is about....growing and learning from our experiences....we have to atleast say we learned something from all we do, otherwise why did we do it? So we're learning to let go, patience, not being in control and being okay with that
And so so much more. I'm so glad I came across this board and you ladies....you all are an inspiration to me 
I'm hoping this brand of BCP's aren't bad for me, but guess it's only a month so I can deal with it. I'm hoping the IVF nurse sends me my calendar next week, I just like to know what's coming up so I can sit here and ponder on it daily