Discussion forum for those who had completed their IVF treatments without a successful outcome and are seeking other options such as adoption, surrogacy etc.
I have gone through IVF and had sucess twice. This was after 2 fresh cycles and 2 frozen cycles. One child was the result of a frozen and the other a fresh cycle. Right now we are saying that 2 children are more than we could have imagined having several years ago. We are so blessed to have our girls. Now I have to make a decision on what to do with the frozen embryos I have left in storage. Do I pay the yearly fee every year, knowing that 2 is all we want, do I donate them for study, science or do I destroy them. I have become very attached to them and I feel that anything but keeping them is cruel. Silly? The previous costs were enough... do I keep dishing out money? What would you do?
TTC since 2000
(Male factor - low count, slow and poor motility)
Me 35, DH 38
1st IVF June/July 03 BFN
2nd IVF w/ICSI Feb/March 04 BFP
Daughter born Nov 04
1st FET Sept 06 BFN
2nd FET May 27 07 BFP
Daughter born Feb 08
I had frozen embryo's too but I wanted them back myself.
I never was in the position of choice.
(yeah, I could have distroyed them... NO WAY.. if they were going to die, then inside me..) (besides, I would have loved to have 2, even 10 children).
Donating is such a wonderfull thing... but I never would be sure if I could bear the knowledge of eventual children of me -and my husband- walking around...without me knowing...
If I were you... I think I would pay the fee... till I know what to do with them..
