BAD NEWS

[Dakota]

This morning I started cramping a little differently than normal. More sharp pains, but not unbearable. I was worried, but I figured instead of bothering the nurse I would wait until my u/s at 1pm today. Well, a few hours ago I started bleeding, bright red. I called them right away and they told me to come in right then. By the time I got there the bleeding had stopped, so I was feeling better, but the weird sharp pains were still there. They did an u/s and Baby B's heart had stopped sometime in the last 12 hours. I cant even describe how I am feeling. To see a little ones heart beat and hear it and watch it grow over weeks, its unbearable.

Baby A is still going strong. It is measuring 1 day ahead and the heartbeat is 177bpm.

I am going to bed now...

[godblessus]

Dakota, Dont worry. I feel for your loss. You still have one baby to care for. It happened to one of my friend. She had ovarian hyperstimiulation and twins. She lost one twin at 10 weeks . Her only symptom was spotting once or twice bright red blood and very mild cramps ...due to her swollen ovaries. Her other baby is now in her arms after 9 months, healthy.

Her doc told her its very common in any twin pregnancy to lose one. Its sad I know, but dont stress urself on this loss, you have one other to care for. Stay happy and eat well. Prayers ur way.

[Ronnie]

Dakota:

I am SO SO SORRY for your loss. I can understand you perfectly. Last year, on august, I got pregnant with twins with IVF. I M/C due to a fungus infection in december. At first I thought I would lose only 1 (because my water boke) but ended losing both, so my feeling for are: I understand you are sad, having twins is the most wonderfull ilussion in the world when it has been so difficult tryng to get pregnant. But you still have 1 baby with you...your energies must be there now. You still have one to go!!!!

All my sympathy is with you right now...good luck and I will remember you in my prayers!!!

Ronnie

[hopefulinillinois]

Dakota - I am so sorry to hear of your loss. But I am happy to hear Baby A is still strong. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your hubby.

[Marynaz]

Dakota, Sorry to hear that. Try to relax and take care of your other baby. Remember that You still have a little one that you need to take care of.

[Prawnster]

Dakota, i am really sorry that you have lost baby B and i am sending you lots of love and hugs. I am pleased for you that baby a is doing well but I know you must still have to grieve as it would be only natural.

Time will be a healer and you have to remain strong and fit for Baby a's sake.

Louise x

[alimoyni]

Defiantly sending you some positive thoughts. So sorry that you lost one of your babies. I cant even imagine the feeling of loosing one yet tring to remain calm and positive about your other baby. My heart really goes out to you and others who have been through this.

[amysbabies]

I'm so sorry Dakota... I can't imagine how you must be feeling right now. I know the pain is terrible, but please keep up your strength for your little one that's going strong.
I hope you recover soon.

[MzTia]

Oh Dakota I can only imagine how you are feeling now. Take some time and stay strong for that precious baby in your belly. We are all thinking of you in this sad time.

[jude7702]

Dakota, I am so sorry for your loss of baby B. When I read your subject of bad news my heart sank for you. I am so glad that baby A is strong and growing well. There must have been a reason for baby B stopping, so this must be the best outcome. I don't know if that makes it any easier to bear.
Thinking of you x

[muggsey24]

Dakota,

I am praying for you! I am so sorry for your loss! I pray that God will give you comfort and strength during this time. Sometimes we wonder why these things happen and it is okay to question God. I feel that in my case when I m/c'ed God knew what would happen in the future and was trying to save me from more heartache. Once again i am so sorry that you are going thru this. I will keep you in my prayers! Focus on that precious baby growing inside you and rest when you can.

Renee

[rlk1]

Hi Dakota,

I read your post and had to reply because I was carrying twins too and lost one at 10.5 weeks. I'm currently 20.5 weeks with the other. I didn't have any symptoms (no cramps, no bleeding) so it was a real shock.

I know what a difficult position this puts you in. On the one hand, you're terribly upset about the loss of one of the twins. On the other hand, you're so grateful that the other twin is doing okay. It was hard for me to reconcile having such different emotions at once.

I'm still a bit guarded about my pregnancy because of the loss, but I wanted you to know that I just had my 20 week anatomy scan and all looks well. Hopefully, that gives you some comfort.

Feel free to contact me if you have any questions. We're all thinking of you!

[kimmysq]

Dakota:
I was so sad when I read your post. I know how happy you were to have the twins. My heart is just breaking for you and dh. Take some time to grieve (((((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))
Kim

[valerie68]

My heart sank when I saw your post! I'm so sorry for your loss of Baby B. Your comfort is that Baby A is doing so well and so strong. Try and stay calm for baby's sake even though it must be very hard.
Just to tell you you're in my thoughts.

Big hugs...

Val

[Dakota]

Thank you everyone for yuor warm thoughts and well wishes. I am having such a hard time with this. I want to so bad be happy that I still have baby A, btu I guess I dont know how to balance the emtions. AND it is really hard to try and stay positive for Baby A when I keep bleeding and having weird cramps, in my back as well. I took my Twin books back to the library yesterday because everytime I looked at them I broke down. Sigh....

Stay positive...stay positve!!!!

Thanks again everyone. I am going to call the nurses and ask about the bleeding.