Our miracle twins have arrived

Dexter · Post by **Dexter** » Sat Jul 26, 2008 7:28 am

Dear fellow IVFers,

I am writing with such emotion as I announce the arrival of our beautiful healthy twins - AYDEN VERNON and KIANA JOAN RUZARKA at 38 weeks gestation by C section last Friday 18th July at 8.16am and 8.17am. They were 3.27 kilos and 3.3 kilos and 49cms and 50 cms. A truly overwhelming experience and one I will never forget.

I spent the night after the birth staring at these souls, wondering why they took so long to come into our lives and reflected on all the hardships, miscarriages and tears and heartache that it took to get them here. The appointments, the stress, the injections, hormones, failure, money spent and wasted, despair, miscarriages, false hope - the feelings were so overwhelming I just sat there and wept.

The last feeling I am left with is total joy and finally closure of this remarkable IVF journey.

Thankyou to you all for allowing me to share my insecurities and disappointments with you all and now finally, my joy at having these little people with me.

Don't have much time right now to write any more but I will do so later in detail.

Keep the faith and continue to support one another through this arduous journey, it really helped me and I wanted to say thank you.

I waited a long time for these tiny souls and now I know why. They are exactly the right ones for me. I just had to wait...

More later,

With love from a very emotional and grateful,

DEXTER xox

FionaA · Post by **FionaA** » Sat Jul 26, 2008 10:38 am

Congratulations and what a beautiful post. I'm so happy for you!

Fee

sonu911 · Post by **sonu911** » Sat Jul 26, 2008 1:56 pm

Oh Dex!!!!

CONGRATULATIONS.

I am so happy for you and you definitely brought some tears rolling down my cheek.

May you only see joy and happiness from here. Enjoy your motherhood....YOU HAVE EARNED IT AND YOU DESERVE EVERY MOMENT OF IT!!!!

Can't wait to see them.

HUGS

wishfull27 · Post by **wishfull27** » Sat Jul 26, 2008 4:25 pm

Hi dexter

So happy for you and DH adn congratulations to you both on the safe arrival of your beautiful babies ... we need pictures when you have a spare second

Take good care

carolyn xxxx

SueQiwi · Post by **SueQiwi** » Sat Jul 26, 2008 11:41 pm

Congratulations to you on your lovley family! Your post made me cry--you are an inspiration to us all.
Thanks for sharing your good news!

Angie65 · Post by **Angie65** » Sun Jul 27, 2008 2:30 am

wonderful news Dexter - many congratulations - take care of yourself as well as those little ones!

tortillachip · Post by **tortillachip** » Sun Jul 27, 2008 6:40 am

I read your post and was so happy for you and your family! What a fantastic ending to such a long, hard road. I wish you all the best!

Welshgirl38 · Post by **Welshgirl38** » Sun Jul 27, 2008 6:45 pm

Dexter Sweetheart ...

How wonderful to hear ur news

Am so pleased ur babies have finally arrived and am so glad u can now experience what it feels like to be a parent! Overwhelming isnt it?

I am looking fwd to hearing all about the beauties in the near future ....

Love and Best Wishes to you and your new family now and always ...

Becky Xxxx

Dexter · Post by **Dexter** » Mon Jul 28, 2008 1:29 pm

Thank you so much gorgeous ladies,

Just quickly does anyone know how I go about posting pics so I can share them with you all? I have no idea!

Dex xox

beachbaby · Post by **beachbaby** » Mon Jul 28, 2008 6:54 pm

dexter, congratulations, what great weights!! bigger than mine. enjoy them.

Jayne

sharishu · Post by **sharishu** » Tue Jul 29, 2008 10:22 am

Dexter,
Many, many congratulations. What a lovely, touching post. Enjoy your precious bundles! Good job on getting them to such healthy weights! BTW-if you have any time at all, could you quickly tell me how the c-section was? They are saying I may need to have one. Thanks!
Shari

Dexter · Post by **Dexter** » Wed Jul 30, 2008 4:13 am

Hey Shari,

I'd be lieing if I said the C section was a walk in the park. I think everyone responds differently. I felt no pain whatsoever during the surgery and after in recovery they pumped me with pethadine which made it very hard for me to stay awake and as I was on my own immediately after the surgery in recovery, I desperatley had to fight the grogginess to remain awake. I wanted to see my babies!

The pushing and pulling feeling you experience is a little weird. Not painful in the slightest but I did find it uncomfortable and grunted and groaned my way through it (my DH filmed the whole thing so I have re-lived it several times already!) It was a strange sensation but one that they prepared me for. It's like a tugging of your insides..hard to really explain. They then have to do the same thing to get the placenta out after but honestly, it's over so quick that it's only a few minutes of discomfort.

I went into my C section quite blindly, thinking I'd be up and about with minimal pain the next day. Well the first day after was the worse. My uterus was very low and creating a lot of low pressure and I could only lay on my back. After the first initial few steps, I could not physically walk straight and was in substantial pain. I needed to have a nurse shower me and it was difficult. Remember though, I refused to have pain relief as the pethadine wiped me out, so I was doing the pain live! I had panadeine forte and found actually getting up and walking around (although slow and painful) the best thing to recover quickly. I also had a fluid drip in my arm, was hooked up to a catheter for 2 days and still had the spinal injection in so they could administer more pain medication if needed. I must say it was a relief to get the catheter out as I was then more mobile.

My female parts also had to be packed with ice as I had substantial swelling which was caused by fluid draining from my tummy to my private parts, creating an engorged vulva, so they made me keep the catheter in longer. This was caused by odeama? Fancy word for swelling. Soon went down and the ice relieved it.

So, the first day after surgery was no picnic but the good news is that by the second day I was almost 90% better! Up and dressed and walking around. Needed to take panadeine in the evening but found a glass of wine with dinner helped just as much ;-P

The scar is minimal and on the day I got out of hospital they removed the stitch and everything was back to normal. I'm driving, doing sit ups and wearing high heels, so I'd say overall, it's not that bad if you can just get through that first day after surgery. Take all the time you need, lie in bed and be pampered. I found it hard with 2 babies in my room and not being allowed to have DH stay especially seeings as I could not get up for the first 24 hours and they kept leaving my babies at the end of my bed so I was helpless! Silly really. Soon got that sorted out

It's not all that bad but prepare yourself for some discomfort after and allow yourself as much recovery time as you need.

Good luck!

Dex

sharishu · Post by **sharishu** » Wed Jul 30, 2008 6:31 am

Dexter,
Thanks so much for the info! Sounds like you are recovering quickly! Yeah, the catheter doesn't sound all too exciting, but I've done it before (laparoscopy). Hope you are easing into life with your twins, and may you and your family experience much joy and happiness from your precious bundles. Congratulations once again!
Shari

kbat · Post by **kbat** » Wed Jul 30, 2008 12:05 pm

Dexter

Congratulations!!! it was a long journey, but definately worth it. Best of luck to you and your new family.

karenvancouverisland · Thu Jul 31, 2008 3:38 pm

hi dexter, i have an absolute heartfelt congratulations to you! i'm so happy and amazed. i remember you responded to me about 8 weeks ago when i had my MC and you helped me so much. to let you know that i'm crying right now is about the only way i can convey how happy i am for you and how inspired i am by your courage to persevere. enjoy your beautiful gifts from heaven.

lots of love, karen (go high FSHer's!)

Our miracle twins have arrived

Our miracle twins have arrived

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