The Sisterhood of the Blue Stilettos

[jenn]

Tina~ I hear you on the stretch marks! I hate to tell you this but I didn't think I had any on my stomach and then after I had her they showed up. In fact I was so in denial that I even had them that I didn't discover them until days later in the shower. I was trying to scrub them off. I had a huge bandage from the c section and when I took it off days later it left those grey sticky lines that adhesive leaves. I was scrubbing it off and had just about taken some skin off when I realized I had gotten it all and was now scrubbing STRETCH MARKS that I thought was adhesive. BUMMER!! I had a mini breakdown in the shower Not a good discovery for an emotional woman who has just given birth!!

Stay cool!!

[Angie65]

How cute is Rio, Fee? He should be a on the Huggies ads - he could earn you a fortune with those looks - beautiful eyes.

Thanks girls for your support - I'm definitely going to join a mothers group - one starts up in a couple of weeks just 10 mins walk from the house so I will definitely go along - it will help to rant and rave and compare notes.

Tina - hang in there - this last bit is hard work and even harder for you in the heat. I think it is time you finised work and spent the day watching DVD with your feet up and a gallon of ice cream. Are you listening to me?!

HI to everyone else. I must go - I haven't even registered little Amelie's birth or got her signed up for Medicare or anything - I can't face paperwork at the moment - would rather do the laundry but I guess it's important she gets an identity soon.

Will posts some more piccies soon.

[sassynlv]

Oh, I have been a bad, bad sista.
Don't really have an explanation besides the fact that I tend to withdraw a bit when I get overwhelmed. But thanks, Fee for tracking me down and bringing me back to the Sisterhood.

First of all, things are stable. But I am in the hospital and have been since the 25th. Things were going downhill for a few weeks before that. It appears I will be here until the babies are born. They admitted me with mild preeclampsia and over the first few days everything, including my liver worsened slightly. I felt totally crappy. Then starting yesterday things turned around. My blood pressure stabilized and my blood work started normalizing. It appears delivery won't be imminent which, of course, is a huge relief. We are hoping to eke out a few weeks. Every day they remain inside is a blessing.

My baby shower was the day after I was admitted and dh set up video conferencing so I was able to chat with those at my shower and then he and some friends brought over all the presents to the hospital and I had a great time unwrapping them.

Angie--- Congrats!!!! I love Amelie's name!

I am exhausted from being up for a while, so I am off to take a nap. But I have read the thread and will be back to comment.

Hope you are all well! I have missed the sisterhood!

[nickster]

Hi ladies!

Angie~ Glad to hear your getting into a new mommy group. That will be nice to know what other moms are doing or not doing that works. I've never heard of that but it sounds like a great idea.

Tina~ Ok I know I always say this but I was LITERALLY laughing out loud when I read your post...actually a couple of times!
Thank you so much for offering to come sit on my neighbor, even though I don't think it would do much good...she's still bigger than you! I told you she lost weight but between the pregnancy and still being a little big, I hate to say it but she wins in the weight category! Thank you fo all your nice words too! She is extremely insensitive and quite obviously doesn't care that it bothers me. I talked to my sister yesterday (who is also a "friend" of hers and she was sooo mad when I told her what she said. Actually she may have the business all cleaned up by the time the sistas arrive! I had to stop her from going over there right then and there! Oh well my plan is just to avoid her at least until this baby is born.

Fee~ Rio is such a cutie pie! He really is a doll. Enjoy every minute of this baby time with him!

Meg~ Your brother has the same theory I do! I say that all the time at work...what are these people going to do with these kids, they're not even educated themselves. It really is a little scary. Then you have the occasional 14 or 15 year old that doesn't give the baby up for adoption like they know they should...no...they take it home. Now seriously, do they really think they can care for that child? Recently at work we had a girl come in and pregnant for the 12th time (YEP you read that right). She was 20 weeks pregnant and wanted to have an abortion but never "got around to it". But not to fear the drugs took care of that. Between the cocaine and the heroine, she miscarried right in front of us. Talk about wanting to go beat my head against the wall. It's times like that I really don't understand why there's people like that and then there's people like us who want a baby so bad and it's so hard for us. Sorry I just got on that soapbox!
The workout plan is still in progress. So far I've been pretty good. You're right though, it seems like you take one step forward and at least ten back! Why is it so easy to gain the weight but so hard to lose??? Grrrr....

PMA~ I wish you the best of luck with this upcoming FET. Hopefully this will be your time!

Well I had my appt with my new re yesterday. We really like him a lot. He is VERY different from our last one. The last doc we saw once for the initial consultation and for only one of the transfers (the other he was out of town!). This re does all his own ultrasounds and is just so much more accessible. He is going to do some immune tresting on me because he said between me miscarrying twins and my history of endo, he wonders if there's not an immune problem we need to look and treat before doing ivf again. He seems to think my endo is more of a problem than anyone has ever thought in the past. It has always been told to me I have "mild" endo but when he read one of my laparoscopy reports he said "I would hardly call this just mild". Not that endo matters much with IVF, he just thinks that's part of why we haven't been able to conceive on our own. So we're going to do this testing in the next month or two and the plan is to do this in December. We're pretty excited about it but at the same time we're like we can't believe we're doing this again!

Talk to ya soon. Hope everyone else is doing good.
Sassy??????????

[nickster]

Aww Sassy, you we're posting while I was. SO good to hear from you. Wow sounds like you have really been through a lot lately. I am so glad to hear things have gotten a little better in the last couple days at least. Hold on in there a little while longer babies! Take it easy sassy and get lots of rest, we're thinking about ya!

[suzhan]

First of all, things are stable. But I am in the hospital and have been since the 25th. Things were going downhill for a few weeks before that. It appears I will be here until the babies are born. They admitted me with mild preeclampsia and over the first few days everything, including my liver worsened slightly. I felt totally crappy. Then starting yesterday things turned around. My blood pressure stabilized and my blood work started normalizing. It appears delivery won't be imminent which, of course, is a huge relief. We are hoping to eke out a few weeks. Every day they remain inside is a blessing.

Just wanted to crash your sisterhood thread and let you know I'm thinking of you Sassy. I stayed over a month in the hospital with DD at the end of my pregnancy (placenta previa) and eventually delivered at 33-1/2 weeks despite laying flat on my back for all those days. I know it's a lot different with multiples, but the prospect of being in the hospital long-term and then maybe being faced with a stay in the NICU is so overwhelming and difficult on many, many levels. I felt so alone during those weeks and had so many conflicting feelings, but you're absolutely right that every single day those babies stay where they should be is the ultimate first sacrifice as a mother. I'm in awe of what you're doing and just wanted to let you know that I'm here to listen or support you "virtually" if there's anything I can do. I wish you the best during the next few months.

- suzhan

[FionaA]

Helloo sistas

Sassy, great to hear from you but please don't feel any pressure at all to post, especially not personals if you are not up to it! So glad to hear that things are taking a turn for the better....I'm thinking of you every day and hoping that the trips stay put and that your body behaves. Video baby shower sounds fab and totally Sassy, DH is a legend, there is no way my DH could have got his act together to work that one out...

Nickster, what a horrible story about that drug addict Mother, I thought I saw some crappy parents in my job but you really get to live it, that must be hard. so glad that your new RE is filling you with confidence, I'm all for more testing, I reckon that they should run max tests asap to avoid multiple failures on IVF specially since you US girls have to pay so darned much for it...

Tina I'm with Jenn on the stretch marks. I also deluded myself into thinking i didn't have any. Turns out my gut was so huge that I just couldn't see them...oh well, never was a bikini babe anyway. Sorry to hear about your melt down. I say feel free to rant if it helps.

Angie, I didn't register Rio until the very last minute, it is so hard to find the time! It was stressing me out thinking I may miss the deadline...

Thanks all for your comments about Rio, DH wanted him to be a baby model but I think it's a tad early for the lad to start working...

Have to go, supposed to be working..

Fee

[meg12]

I'm sitting here not feeling like myself at all. Dh has just taken Lucy to go spend a couple of hours at his parents' house and then is coming back here to get me so we can go "on a date". We're going out for sushi. Which is a big deal in itself as he is a real "meat and potato" kind of guy and this will be a first for him. Plus, I haven't been away from Lucy in a long time. For some reason this summer, we just haven't been leaving her. It's crazy just being here in the house without her. It's amazing how fast you get used to things.

Anyway, I suppose I should go get ready. It's 100 degrees here today---seriously, like 104 with the humidity---so I don't know why I'm even bothering getting all prettied up. I'll just be a sweating pig the moment I walk out the door. Lovely!

Hope you all had a good weekend. Anybody else watching Big Brother that I can' talk to about it without ruining anything?

[hrobinson]

Meg I hear you on leaving your little one. Actually, Shelby is 3 now, and we went out on our first date about 3 months ago. We were gone a total of 3 hours and uickly returned. I have never left her with anyone other than her daycare provider for more than just a few hours. I am sure it's about time she be left with someone. However, the closest relative is 3 hours away. UGh!!!
Anyway, I hope the sushi was good. Your dh is super sweet to be doingn this for you.
As for Big Brother, talk all you want. I am so into this season;)

Hello to everyone else.

Tino- You are almost there. I cannot wait to hear about Noah making his appearance into this world.

Fee- Rio is so adorable. I think it is the eyes. He should definately be modeling.

[nickster]

Everyone have a good weekend?

Meg~ I hope you and dh had a great dinner last night! I guess it would be kind of hard to not have lil Lucy around when your so used to her being there. Funny how quick that happens.
The weather is REALLY hot here too. Today is supposed to be at least 100 with lots of humidity. YUK!
I am really starting to get in to Big Brother. At first I thought I might not but as usual, as things start heating up, I get more and more into it! I really hope Jessie goes this week, he's really starting to annoy me.

Robbo~ How are you? Wow...3 years without a date??? That's a long time. I hope it was a darn good date after all that time!

Fee~ I have to say I agree with your dh...Rio is model material! I guess he is a little young for the runways though!

Not much new here. I've been working a lot. Sometimes I think if I see one more 16 year old or drug addict give birth I'm going to scream but somehow I keep going.
Today I am going for my "financial consultation" with the new re's office. Not exactly the fun part but we are getting excited to get things rolling again.
Talk to everyone soon.

Sassy if your reading I hope your doing well and those babies are hangin in there.

[PMApsy]

Hello ladies!

Sassy,
SO GOOD to have news! You're always somewhere at the back of my mind. You've been through so much, and your pregnancy was an incredible event! I'm sorry to hear that you'll have to stay in the hospital until your delivery. I wish the approximate three weeks could bring you some comfort, but I know at the same time you'd wish that your babies stayed inside a little longer. Either way, my dear, I'm thinking about you and wishing you the best: lots of love and pampering from the people around you, and three healthy little buggers! Hang in there, we're all behind you!

Nickster,
Thanks for your kind comments about my FET. I really hope the situation with your unsensitive neighbor will improve very soon.

A big hello to the other sistas! Have a great day ladies!

Sophie

[Melissa112]

Hey there everyone!

Do you even remember who I am?

Ridiculous, but I stared at my screen for like 5 minutes and still can't remember how to post a reply! That means it's been way to long!

Congratulations to Vicky! And Fee and Angie, and Jenn and Tina, and everyone I missed - I feel like me going away gave the sista's a whole new goog ju ju vibe! All of these babies and BFP's! It's fantastic!

I miss you guys, and I've tried to poke in here and there to say hi... but then work gets in the way!

I hope you know I love and miss you all!

I'm keeping track of Sassy and it looks like she might just pop any day now...keep her in your prayers!

As for us... well, we've decided that it's just too complicated for us to keep trying, it's been 3 years and 6 months cancer free! Hooray! But the dr's think that the reaction to the medications is too harsh for us to give IVF another go... so it's just DH and I, and we are Okay with that. Really good with that actually.

I've decided if we can't have kids, we'll help them. So we are planning a fundraiser for St. Jude's Children's Hopsital for next February It involves Wedding Cakes!!! YUM!

But really, I wanted you guys to know that I miss you!!! And I think about you all so often! You are all in my hearts and prayers!!!

XXOO!

Mel

[nickster]

Mel~
Wow it has been a while! I was actually thinking about you not long ago and wondering how things were for going. I'm glad to hear all has been well and you have been cancer free for so long. I guess it has to be tough to hear you're out of the baby game but I would imagine it's probably a little bit easier in your position to first hear the official "you can't" and to know if you did, it might do bad things to you. Well either way, I'm so glad to hear things are going ok for you.

[Angie65]

Mel - how nice to hear from you - I am happy you are in a good place right now and good luck with the fund raiser - what a lovely idea.

Have been meaning to write to the sistas but have no time to scratch right now! In particular wanted to let SAssy know I am thinking about you girlfriend. Someone earlier mentioned about mother's sacrifice (can't recall who ) but It was a lovely post and I am beginning to understand what that means now. FOr me it is trivial like have to go to crying Amelie when I want my lunch, wanting to go outside for a walk but she is still sleeping, not having been shopping for me, haircut, yoga for what seems like an eternity - all those things but you are making a much bigger sacrifice which will make you all the more stronger when the precious trips arrive.

Amelie is doing well- she has finally put on a bit of weight - she is a very long baby already 57cm but a skinny little thing. She's also got spots - bless her - apparently a milk rash from hormones in my milk. She's like a spotty teenager and refuses to look in the mirror - she also want let me take her photo until they clear up - vain just like her mum!

Better go - have a zillion things to do - have great weekends sistas.

[tinaO]

Hello sistas! Been thinking of you all! Noah and I are still hanging in here. I had a feeling he was going to drag this show out and I am ok with it. My husband finishes school this Wed, my mom got her cast off, and I am still crazy busy with work. So, Noah taking his time os working out ok with us so far. BUT the bags are packed, classes are completed, room is ready, car seat is installed...so when Noah is ready, we are ready. The pool is still making life crazy, so hopefully they can get done soon...would be great if they do it before he arrives. That is what the superintendent on the job is aiming for anyway! But I don't know...I think Noah is getting anxious. He has been very, very active lately and at my last doc appt last week, I was 1 cm dilated and 80% effaced. Guess it could be any day now....will keep you posted!

Angie - poor little Amelie....such the diva already, huh? Sounds like she is already a member of the sisterhood. Did I mention I got the bright idea to get a bikini wax last weekend to make sure all was tidy down there? BAD IDEA!!!!! OMG - I thought I was going to die. I almost screamed and started sweating profusely. Will not do that again any time soon. And why didn't you girls tell me not to get a damn pelvic exam this late in pregnancy???? That sh-t jacked me up so bad last week. My doc was in a hurry as he got a page to go deliver a baby (AS IF I was not the most important patient - HUH!!!) and he did it in a hurry. Geez - it sucked and I had terrible cramping and bled for 2 days afterwards. No more of that crap until Noah arrives. Uggghhh.

Mel - You are a strong woman and I admire your strength - good job on setting up the fundraiser - that is incredible!

Nickster - How are you holding up these days? I am SO into Big Brother again - loving it. I thought it was going to suck this time, but it is getting better. They definitely have some interesting freaks for us to watch this summer, huh?

Fee - Rio is so damn cute. I think you are going to have to watch him closely when he hits his teenage years. I am still concerned about Noah's mullet. Have stocked up on hats just in case!!

Meg - how is Lucy? Jenn - how is Anna? Vicky - how is Benjamin??

Sassy - We are all thinking of you. Please let us know how you are doing.

Ok ladies, I am off. Take care all!!!!

Tina