Here I am doing something I thought I could never do, talk about my infertility to others than my family.
My husband and I have decided to try down the road of IVF. Four years ago we only went as far as CLOMID then tamoxifen 40 (which I ovulated on). I was diagonised with hypothyroidism and then PCOS, quite a blow for a 22 year old. I bottled out of going for IUI because I was scared, plus my husband is in the forces and we had to move. We stopped for a while, emotionally not ready. I started working in a fertility clinic (spooky hey!?!) and found out that there is alot of couples out there alot worse than. I did get free advice and made wonderful friends, stayed there for two years and have now moved once again. Now seems right, I am overweight and trying very hard to loose it. But deep down I am still scared to take the next step to IVF, why? I really don't know. I'm off to see my GP on Monday for advice and encouragment to go for it.
I would really appreciate any advice you can offer me?
Thanks
RR
LOL Rhonda
Me 27yrs DH 29yrs
ttc 6yrs
WISH ALL GOODLUCK and HUGS (they do help sometimes!)
Welcome to this amazing site. You have made the first step and you will get so much support from everyone on this board. If there is anything you need to know just ask there will always be someone to help.
like you said, you are still young so don't dispair too much. Just try to be positive and don't be scared about IVF it's not that bad. There are so many of us on this site who have been through it lots of times and we are all still here to tell the tale.
I am 35 and had been ttc for 4 years. Then 3 attempts of UVF/ICSI later I am now 20 weeks PG and it's been a rough ride. But I wasn't going to give up and with the support and help from the girls on this site it made the whole thing easier to cope with.
Wishing you lots of luck and look forward to seeing how you get on.
Hi Rhonda
Just wanted to say Hi and wish you luck with your tmt which I am sure you will start soon!!
You will get loads of support on this site and you can ask anything no matter how daft or trivial.........someone on here always has the answer and its nice to know you are not alone
Hi Rhonda, welcome to the board. You will get the most invaluable support from all the girls here to help you get through the bad times and celebrate the good.
Don't be scared of IVF - it really isn't as bad as you think. Good luck with your appointment on Monday - let us know how you get and what he suggests.
Love
Dolly
Me 38 / DH 40. TTC 8 yrs
3 natural pg - 2 ectopics and 1 miscarriage
2nd IVF +ve but miscarried
1st, 3rd, 4th, 5th, 6th IVF all -ve
Moved to the ARGC.
Just started for the 7th time (!) Feb/March 2006.
Hi Rhonda
Welcome to the site
I have been told I have mild PCOS although I don't have symptoms my ovaries respond as if I have PCO's. I have had clomid for 10 months (M/C 5 weeks) then 1 IVF which showed poor embryo quality, then I have had 2 IUI's currently on 3rd. IUI is very simple and nothing to be frightened of. One thing you might find is that you over respond to the drugs I only need 75 units of Gonal F to produce 5 eggs!!
We are all in the same boat so feel free to ask anything you want I'm sure you will get all the answers you need
All the best
Aly
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Welcome to the board. I found it a lot easier to discuss IVF related things to the girls here than with family or friends, simply because the girls on here have all been through everything and can talk about their experiences (and we do talk about everything!!!) Also family and close friends do not always understand what you are going through and are sometimes too emotionally attached to give you an honest opinion.
I think you've made a great first step by posting. I really wouldn't be too scared by ivf, its really not as bad as you think its going to be - and you'll make so many new friends here, that there will be someone to hold your hand every step of the way.
See what your gp says, but my advice would be to start your tmt and take each step at a time and fingers crossed one day you'll get what you want in the end.
I had been ttc (trying to conceive) for 4 years, had 2 IVF attempts and am now 22 weeks pregnant with twins. It can happen.
Hi Rhonda
Firstly welcome. SEcondly I think it is natural to be scared at first - it is the unkown but also we have many of us been in the same boat - we have tried for years and suddenly you are faced with a very real and concrete chance of doing soemthing about it and that is exciting but scary.
IVF is fine as long as you deal with each thing as it comes - very early on I decided to park the money problems with it???!!!, park the pain side as it is not something that worried me and concentrate on the emotional - that and this site keep you sane - or in Nikola and my case totally mad and off your trolley but well it helps spend a day....
Good luck and fire away with the questions -we are all such know it all's
Love
Tracey
xxx
ttc 9 years. 38 yrs old, dh 8 hrs younger!First IVF in Aug 2002 and had ectopic.2nd IVF neg.3rd FET and negative.4th FET and positive but sadly lost our little boy at 20 weeks.5th FET and Alice Isobel and Emily Charlotte born 5th Aug 2004!
Hi Rhonda,
I agree with what all the girls have said. I can't say however that IVF is not that bad as this is my first IVF go, and I have only been taking the drugs for a week. But so far so good......
The thought of ivf not working is so scarey, but the joy and happiness me and my partner will get if it is positive will just be too good to not give it a go. I am scared that my hormones will make me a grumpy cow and my partner will be thoroughly p***ed off with me, but he promises me he won't. I also get upset that because of me he has to go through the ivf rollercoaster, but again he tells me not to be so stupid. It has brought us closer together because it is such a committment.
I am at the very excited stage because in 6 weeks I might be pregnant ... a bit like a build up to a really good party.
You will know when you are ready, and you've made the first step.
Keep reading the posts on this site. Everyone is so positive, and the one's who are pregnant following ivf make my day, I love reading their posts as I know that ivf can work, people survive and they are still normal (well just!!).
I've waffled. Hope I haven't made things worse, I am always worried that I will say the wrong thing. But this is how its been for me.
All the best and good luck
From Sophie-Jane
Well I went to see my gp, who was very helpful. Thankfully he didn't suggest going away and trying for a year naturally (as I have been on the pill for past nine months for period probs) I would have been very unhappy.
So he suggested another SA for my husband, and for me hormone bloods which I think is LH, FSH? on the 20th of this month as I am on day2 today. So, just bloods for the next couple of months, does this sound about right?
Also I am somewhat worried because of my PCOS I have absent periods, but I think I'm thinking too far ahead and should get this month out the way. I feel somewhat excited but still quite scared, but I'm happy I made the first step. I will keep you all informed as I'm finding your advice and support very helpful.
Thanks to Tracey especially glad to know you can be 'totally mad' and 'off your trolley' in sircumstances like this because I am ...
P.S. Know most of your e-mailing lingo (e.g. tmt - treatment) but can't get DH - whats this mean?
LOL Rhonda
Me 27yrs DH 29yrs
ttc 6yrs
WISH ALL GOODLUCK and HUGS (they do help sometimes!)
DH stands for 'Darling Husband' or Dear Husband' and as one girl on this site thought (and I forget who it was) 'Dick Head'! Depending on how their DH was behaving on the day apparently
Glad your appointment went well today. Keep us informed and best of luck for the next lot of tests.
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