hi girls,
you have been so lovely inviting me over i am more than happy to join you, never mind the immature ones (except nikola who isn't of course). I've been longing to post here and join the 'pregnant ones' but i've been aslo afraid to jinx things, if you see what i mean. the truth is, i am so happy but also at the same time dead scared after the miscarriage last time and i am not quite sure how to face the wait. i just don't dare to say to myself that i am pregnant in case it just is another m/c. how do you girls who have had them cope with this?
and one more question: what do you think about flying? i have to go somewhere for my work next week (3 hours flight) and i am not sure what to do? i lie awake and agonize over it . please advise me.
love and thanks to everyone, especially the ones saying "I TOLD YOU SO" ,
juliana
here am I at the other side
Hi there Juliana 
Welcome to this side of the board. I know what you mean about feeling strange saying the words out loud 'I'm pregnant' I remember when I got my positive and just could not believe it. Well you have made it and now the 2nd 2ww is here. It seems like a life time waiting for that first scan but we will be there for you all the way.
Have you got a date for your scan?
Keep up the fluids and look after yourself.
Love Dagny x
20wks 5d pg
Welcome to this side of the board. I know what you mean about feeling strange saying the words out loud 'I'm pregnant' I remember when I got my positive and just could not believe it. Well you have made it and now the 2nd 2ww is here. It seems like a life time waiting for that first scan but we will be there for you all the way.
Have you got a date for your scan?
Keep up the fluids and look after yourself.
Love Dagny x
20wks 5d pg
Juliana
just wanted to say hi and congratulations and welcome to the other side. I remember being scared stiff about my first post thinking that I would be jinxed but needed to come over here to share a different set of fears with people who understood.
The worry will never stop and to be honest I don't really think there is anything we can do about it because its only natural.
Regarding flying, I personally won't fly, but I don't like it anyway. A lot of the girls have flown and are fine and I don't think that there is any link between flying and m/c. Others may be able to advise better than me though.
Congrats again, when is your first scan?
Love Lisa
16 weeks, twins xx
just wanted to say hi and congratulations and welcome to the other side. I remember being scared stiff about my first post thinking that I would be jinxed but needed to come over here to share a different set of fears with people who understood.
The worry will never stop and to be honest I don't really think there is anything we can do about it because its only natural.
Regarding flying, I personally won't fly, but I don't like it anyway. A lot of the girls have flown and are fine and I don't think that there is any link between flying and m/c. Others may be able to advise better than me though.
Congrats again, when is your first scan?
Love Lisa
16 weeks, twins xx
Hi Juliana!
Congratulations on the pregnancy. I flew to Switzerland at 5 weeks pregnant with no ill-effects. To be honest it never occurred to me not to fly until I started reading stuff on the internet about it, but my two had already been born then so it was slightly too late to change my mind!
Good luck.
Jules
Congratulations on the pregnancy. I flew to Switzerland at 5 weeks pregnant with no ill-effects. To be honest it never occurred to me not to fly until I started reading stuff on the internet about it, but my two had already been born then so it was slightly too late to change my mind!
Good luck.
Jules
TTC 5 years. Daniel & Charlotte born 22.03.02, 1st ICSI treatment. TTC for 4 further years. 2nd ICSI cycle abandoned, 3rd cycle BFN. Looking forward to being a happy family of 4.
hihi juliana, cant believe it, like me, on the other side, u have to
keep pinching yourself dont you.
regarding flying, its such a difficult question, first i suggest u talk
it over with your consultant see what he advises, especially
with your history.
We want to go on holiday in 3wks time, and spoke with our
consultant and he said there is no medical link to flying/pregnancy
so we have decided if 9wk scan is ok trmw then by the time
we fly i will be passed 12 wks so i will feel quite happy.
But i must admit i dont think i would have flown before 12wks.
look after yourself
alisonn
keep pinching yourself dont you.
regarding flying, its such a difficult question, first i suggest u talk
it over with your consultant see what he advises, especially
with your history.
We want to go on holiday in 3wks time, and spoke with our
consultant and he said there is no medical link to flying/pregnancy
so we have decided if 9wk scan is ok trmw then by the time
we fly i will be passed 12 wks so i will feel quite happy.
But i must admit i dont think i would have flown before 12wks.
look after yourself
alisonn
what do you do, work wise? 
Hi Juliana,
A big welcome to this side - it's a big step to take I know.
Regarding flying - do what you feel is right for you, if something was to happen (and it won't), you'd never forgive yourself. If you have any doubts at all, I wouldn't do it - work is so unimportant in the grand scheme of things - I've learnt that the hard way.
As for m/c, I don't know about the others, but my fear never went away - I just tried to push it to the back of my mind and stay positive. Each day you go further on, will bring you more confidence, but the nature of what you've been through will bound to make you worry. I'm almost 33 weeks gone, and still refusing to 'tempt' fate by buying anything!!! LOL
Whatever you decide, look after yourself.
Zoex
A big welcome to this side - it's a big step to take I know.
Regarding flying - do what you feel is right for you, if something was to happen (and it won't), you'd never forgive yourself. If you have any doubts at all, I wouldn't do it - work is so unimportant in the grand scheme of things - I've learnt that the hard way.
As for m/c, I don't know about the others, but my fear never went away - I just tried to push it to the back of my mind and stay positive. Each day you go further on, will bring you more confidence, but the nature of what you've been through will bound to make you worry. I'm almost 33 weeks gone, and still refusing to 'tempt' fate by buying anything!!! LOL
Whatever you decide, look after yourself.
Zoex
hi juliana,
welcome to this side. it is really scary making the first step over and so lovely when you're here.
worries about m/c are hard to overcome when you've experienced it. i know i analysed every twinge comparing it to previous times. i must say though with every scan my confidence has grown and i'm starting to relax more into pregnancy (15wks). i'm sure the next 3 wks until your scan must seem ages away and i hope time flies past for you.
talking about flying... i'm sure you must have decided by now whether to fly or not and will do whatever you feel it right for you. do try and take it easy though for the next few wks/mths. you're body will go through big changes and many women feel extreme tiredness.
phil x
welcome to this side. it is really scary making the first step over and so lovely when you're here.
worries about m/c are hard to overcome when you've experienced it. i know i analysed every twinge comparing it to previous times. i must say though with every scan my confidence has grown and i'm starting to relax more into pregnancy (15wks). i'm sure the next 3 wks until your scan must seem ages away and i hope time flies past for you.
talking about flying... i'm sure you must have decided by now whether to fly or not and will do whatever you feel it right for you. do try and take it easy though for the next few wks/mths. you're body will go through big changes and many women feel extreme tiredness.
phil x
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Dear Juliana,
I don't know you, and haven't followed your messages..but have gathered that you are positive, following a m/c. and worried about flying.
I too had a positive (the first ever - 38 unexplained fertility). My hormonal blood reading wasn't great though, 78, although 6 week scan was good. We had booked a trip to the Canaries. We flew and enjoyed our fortnight - BUT - miscarried at 8 weeks.
Now, I was advised repeatedly, that it was OK to fly, but perhaps in retrospect, time running out etc.. I won't bother next time. I reckon that perhaps the pregnancy wasn't 'secure' - but it is all guess work.
Personally in spite of all this 'should I, shouldn't I' - next time I won't bother.
I know that you must be very capable, intelligent and sensible - but sometimes in life you have to put your foot down. You get more chances to succeed in other aspects - but 'succeeding' in having a baby, just simply isn't an issue.
Good luck, whatever you choose,
Nicky
I don't know you, and haven't followed your messages..but have gathered that you are positive, following a m/c. and worried about flying.
I too had a positive (the first ever - 38 unexplained fertility). My hormonal blood reading wasn't great though, 78, although 6 week scan was good. We had booked a trip to the Canaries. We flew and enjoyed our fortnight - BUT - miscarried at 8 weeks.
Now, I was advised repeatedly, that it was OK to fly, but perhaps in retrospect, time running out etc.. I won't bother next time. I reckon that perhaps the pregnancy wasn't 'secure' - but it is all guess work.
Personally in spite of all this 'should I, shouldn't I' - next time I won't bother.
I know that you must be very capable, intelligent and sensible - but sometimes in life you have to put your foot down. You get more chances to succeed in other aspects - but 'succeeding' in having a baby, just simply isn't an issue.
Good luck, whatever you choose,
Nicky
Hi Juliana
Glad you made the leap - it is still hard to think we are pg and we have to keep pinching ourselves maybe until we are huge (NIK) or maybe it is still hard then.
AS for flying we are off to north Cyprus at Easter - I think it is fine but the worst thing is if you worry about it too much - mabye worse than the flying.
See how you feel - there is no medical reason so comes down to you
Take care now
Love
Tracey
xxx
Glad you made the leap - it is still hard to think we are pg and we have to keep pinching ourselves maybe until we are huge (NIK) or maybe it is still hard then.
AS for flying we are off to north Cyprus at Easter - I think it is fine but the worst thing is if you worry about it too much - mabye worse than the flying.
See how you feel - there is no medical reason so comes down to you
Take care now
Love
Tracey
xxx
ttc 9 years. 38 yrs old, dh 8 hrs younger!First IVF in Aug 2002 and had ectopic.2nd IVF neg.3rd FET and negative.4th FET and positive but sadly lost our little boy at 20 weeks.5th FET and Alice Isobel and Emily Charlotte born 5th Aug 2004!
Hi Juliana!!!!!
Yipppeee you made it! Posting on this side is great because its all pregnancy related rather than tmt and so its nice to indulge in silly things like measuring yourself with toilet roll (you have all this to come!) and discussing silly babies names (like Freddie Eddie and Willy Billy!)
Re your flying dilema, which I'm sure you've decided by now, I think you should speak to your consultant. My dh and I had to postpone our honeymoon because my consultant wouldn't let me fly. He told me I had to wait until 12weeks and then when he found out it was twins made me wait even longer until 14 weeks. There are lots of issues relating to pg women and flying eg more prone to dvt, cabin pressure can have ill effects, dehydration etc. I'm glad I waited before I flew. You need to prioritise things, and given your previous m/c you need to be extra extra careful!!!!
You'll find you'll feel an awful lot more tired than normal and I'd be surprised if you felt like flying! I was very sick for the first 12 weeks combined with severe fatigue, I couldn't move from the sofa, let alone get on a plane!!
Saying that everyone is different and you should do whatever you feel right doing. Please try not to do too much, its so important you take things easy in the first 12 weeks.
Three whole weeks before your scan - bloody hell girl! This is going to be a nightmare. Remember to keep drinking your fluids and rest whenever you feel tired.
We'll all be here to hold your hand.....
love nikola.xxx
ps I can't tell you how pleased I am. I was really moved by your first ever posting and now look at you............different person altogether!!
ppsTRACEY SHARP - do you have to use the word 'huge' and me in the same sentence!!!! You are so mean.....
Yipppeee you made it! Posting on this side is great because its all pregnancy related rather than tmt and so its nice to indulge in silly things like measuring yourself with toilet roll (you have all this to come!) and discussing silly babies names (like Freddie Eddie and Willy Billy!)
Re your flying dilema, which I'm sure you've decided by now, I think you should speak to your consultant. My dh and I had to postpone our honeymoon because my consultant wouldn't let me fly. He told me I had to wait until 12weeks and then when he found out it was twins made me wait even longer until 14 weeks. There are lots of issues relating to pg women and flying eg more prone to dvt, cabin pressure can have ill effects, dehydration etc. I'm glad I waited before I flew. You need to prioritise things, and given your previous m/c you need to be extra extra careful!!!!
You'll find you'll feel an awful lot more tired than normal and I'd be surprised if you felt like flying! I was very sick for the first 12 weeks combined with severe fatigue, I couldn't move from the sofa, let alone get on a plane!!
Saying that everyone is different and you should do whatever you feel right doing. Please try not to do too much, its so important you take things easy in the first 12 weeks.
Three whole weeks before your scan - bloody hell girl! This is going to be a nightmare. Remember to keep drinking your fluids and rest whenever you feel tired.
We'll all be here to hold your hand.....
love nikola.xxx
ps I can't tell you how pleased I am. I was really moved by your first ever posting and now look at you............different person altogether!!
ppsTRACEY SHARP - do you have to use the word 'huge' and me in the same sentence!!!! You are so mean.....