January Cycle budies (JCB's)

Discussion group for all topics related to infertility including preparation for pregnancy, causes, investigation and treatment of infertility.
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alypraying
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Post by alypraying »

Hi All
Dawn I am officially giving you a slap, come on girls it's not over until it's over and you still have a few days to go so try and be positive. I know it's not easy the last few days but remember lots of people have no symptoms and are pregnant so hang in there!!
I will be crossing everything for you over the next couple of days and people are not trying to avoid you thery are probably trying to give you some space.
Thinking of you lots, why don't you get a good DVD out and take your mind of things, I play computer games when I feel down it completely takes your mind of everything and for an hour I am Lara Croft!

Kiran good luck for your test date tomorrow I hope you get a big positive don't test too soon and let us know how you get on.
Big hugs to everyone else going through this torture!
Aly
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Post by Guest »

Hi Guys

I know everyone is looking for some happy news as this has turned out to be the panic thread but.......

I am so depressed, for the last two days I have had a banging headache (classic AF for me), this morning I woke with a small pain in my right side and a bubbly tummy (again classic af) then later on this morning i went to the loo and there was a red stread (sorry for being over informative!!). I am now on the verge of a nervous breakdown, I am not due to test til Sunday but it feels like it is all over!!

I am so sad, after all we have been through with DHs op, no sperm and then having to go for donor sperm (which we are very greatful for) I just wanted to have something turn out right for a change.

Sorry for sounding so self pitious but this has been going on so long I feel i just can't take any more.

JenFxx
july ann
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Post by july ann »

hi jenny f

try and stay positive it's not over yet lots of girls on here have had bleeding and still been pg. I know how you feel the two week wait can drive you mad. Please try and relax easy said than done I know. I can not remember who it was but a couple of months ago one lady had bleeding a few days before her test date and she stopped her pessaries and then found out she was pg after all.

well sending you positive vibes

from july ann
SQUEW
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Post by SQUEW »

Right thats enough girls!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
:shock: What is going on with us????????? EVERYONE is SOOOOO negative :roll:
Repeat after me
WE WILL GET PREGNANT :D .
No I dont feel any less like af is coming, and am still sure she will visit before Fri, BUT I have to hope. I am sure that at 38 and doing a natural FET i am least likely to get a +ve, so if I can be positive so can you!
I know that by fearing the worst we sometimes find it easier to deal with a negative result, but it makes you feel shitty, and if you do get a -ve you will feel bad anyway, so why make it worse. Just enjoy the fact that until that day we are technically pg!
I am a naturally pessamistic person so this doesnt come easy to me! :?
Jen, please read Jules story, she bleed early and got a +ve, it could be implantation.
Dawn, yes I agree the 2ww is the hardest bit, at least when we are having all the scans/drugs etc we are occupied, 2 weeks just waiting is mental torture!
Kiran, good luck for tomorrow, really hope you get a +ve, no af as yet is a brill sign. I am on knicker alert, even wearing white ones, my af is really due tomorrow going by ovulation.
Aly, good luck for Thurs.
Michelle, how are you?
And Kat....Welcome home!! Glad you had a great holiday and are feeling relaxed. Have you any thoughts on when you are going to do another cycle.
Traci, you got a lot of candles to light hun, best you buy a fire extinguisher just in case!!!! Hope you are feeling ok after your bad news yesterday.
Now I will get off my soap box before it breaks! :lol:
Take care everyone
Luv and hugs
SUE xxxxxxx
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Post by Guest »

Sue, July ann, guys

You are right and thank you for your kind words of encouragement!

I will be positve.............I will be positive.......I will be positive!!!!

As they say....'it aint over til the fat lady sings!!'

Lets turn this negative JCBs into a positive one!!

Sorry for the earlier wobbly

JenFxx
MichelleA
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Post by MichelleA »

Hi Girls

I can only post in the evenings as I'm nervous to log on at work as I think they track our internet usage, and they don't know about the tmt...anyway I am shocked to see so many negative posts.

I called the hospital yesterday (I think I drive them mad) to say that I haven't got any symptons whatsoever (as I did the first time round before m/c) and they said that each cycle and pregnancy is different, so not to read into it at all - easy for them to say!!!!

Sue, you clever, clever girl, you are so right and we must listen to you. After my depressing w/e I now feel much better and have pulled myselft together. Last night I saw the acupuncturist and I told her how down I had been, and her response was that you can't be up all the time and that to have balance you have to weigh the highs with the lows....anyway I thought that was quite nice.

I'm doing my best to keep smiling, and stop knicker checking every 20 minutes and I suggest we all do the same (easy to say I know!)

Love, Miche xxx
Our darling son Jake was born in October 2004 on our 3rd IVF attempt. I have PCOS. We're now trying again naturally, before embarking on our next FET IVF possibly late 2005... so watch this space!!!
kiran
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Post by kiran »

hi girls, i really wish i had joined this special club from the beginning, i feel a bit like JenF, but lets see what tomorrow brings, you're right Sue will feel crap if it doesn't work so no point getting to that point before testing day, and also i was thinking, we still have hope going forward
thanks for the kind words, it really does help you through

the more i have been reading these sites, the more people i see doing acupuncture - how does that work - it seems to make everyone feel alot better, someone wrote it works miracles - can someone tell me a little bit about it - maybe i will try it too

anyway my d day is tomorrow so will give you an update before i go to work as i too am scared of logging on at work just in case they do track stuff sent and my work do not know

fingers crossed for everyone, keep positive and stay cool 8)
Kat
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Post by Kat »

Hi all, Sue's right you know, all this negativity is not going to do you any good! There are SO many stories on here of girls who have bled and not bled, had symptoms and not had symptoms, and still been pregnant - it really is not over till it's over. I know that probably doesn't help much at the moment but it's true. For those of you who are definitely -ve, believe me you WILL bounce back even though sometimes it really doesn't feel like it. Anyway it looks like I'll have a few cycle buddies in March/April but would really rather you were all +ve...
Take care & keep up that PMA
Kat xx
Dawn V
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Post by Dawn V »

Hi everyone

Aly & Sue thanks for the slap and telling off!!! I'm feeling better tonight (was the same last night so must be a morning thing)!!
Jen, please try not to worry like the others have said it could be implantation. Was reading through my notes and it said most women that bleed go on to have a positive result and a normal pregnancy.
Me and dh have taken a couple of days off to test on monday and I've decided that if it's a -ve we are off to the pub where I will get absolutely hammered and smoke 20 cigs one after the other (haven't had one for about a month)! Oh and have lots of s*x as haven't done that for a while either!!!
Kiran, lots and lots of luck for tomorrow, heres to a big fat +++++ve for you!
Kat
Glad you had a lovely holiday. Are you nice and chilled out now?
Michelle. not long now for you, I really hope its a ++ve for you too.
Come on girls PMA PMA.....
Love to you all
Dawn
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kiran
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Post by kiran »

:(
i was a -ve but still no period
i feel cheated, i have waited 2 weeks, no period and no pregnancy kinda feel a bit numb but trying to stay positive, as my hubby said, maybe its not our time yet but we have our beloved 0% on purchases credit card so we are off to try again come april,
best of luck to the rest of you
MichelleA
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Post by MichelleA »

Hi Kiran
I am so sorry to read your post....I know what a horrible sinking feeling it is - after such high expectations. Your time will come and you have to believe it and not ever give up.
You and dh need to take some serious time to really spoil yourselves, perhaps go away for the w/e, a huge shopping spree or eat loads of chocolate - anything which will make you feel better.
I'm sending you loads of love and April will be here sooner than you know (can't believe it is already February).
Take care
Love, Michelle x
Our darling son Jake was born in October 2004 on our 3rd IVF attempt. I have PCOS. We're now trying again naturally, before embarking on our next FET IVF possibly late 2005... so watch this space!!!
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Post by Guest »

Hi Kiran

You poor thing..........

I think the best therapy is to go and do all the things you were not allowed to.........then get a date in the diary for the next one.

Your time WILL come!!

Sending you lots of love and a big hug!!

JenF
Helen S
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Post by Helen S »

Hi All

Here I am, back on the JCB's thread!

Kiran - I am so sorry to hear about your -ive and Gem as well - haven'y caught up on all the threads as yet, so don't know all the details, but I really do feel for all of you.

Now, I go away and watch Fern and Philip and chill out at home with strict instructions from Nik, TS and Fiona LK (My pg buddies) to not do any work at all and I come back to you all feeing -ive. COME ON. :lol:

:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: 8) :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :wink: :wink: :wink:

We have to stay as +ive as we can. I know this is really hard and I know that we all analyse our symptons, but it could mean something, it could be the tablets, who knows. After 3 failed attempts, I know that it's best just to try and ignore the pains etc. I know I sound as if I am a bit of a know it all and I don't mean to be, really I don't, but we'll all send ourselves crazy if we worry about every pain all the time.

So, slaps all round with lots of hugs too and kisses and licks and barks from Bliss (my chocolate labrqador if anyone doesn't know!)

Nik, TS and Fi - hope you are proud of me for that one!

So, I have 2 embies in there - an 8 cell and a 7 cell. Had accu before and after ET, whihc was good and still going for sessions.

Now girls, can you believe that I walked into and out of the EC room! I was awake - OMG! Was away with the fairies a bit though and had tamazepam (x2) and some sedative and pain relief via my vein in my hand and some gas and air. About 30 mins after it all finished I was promptly sick, infact so sick that it spilled over the sick bowl and landed on the lovely biscuit coloued carpet - oops, is that too much information? Anyway, I live to tell the tale!

I had a 3 day transfer this time, which is a first, so we'll wait and see what happens.

I test on 9 Feb - same day as my buddy Dawn, so it's only round the corner. Drinking 8 pints of water a day and soending most of the day on the loo, in fact I need to go now, so better scurry off.

There are too many to mention by name, but love you all lots and hope you are all ok, try and keep sane, email a post back and tell me what's happening on Fern and Philip - how is Dr Chris after his test results?

Love and lots of hugs
Helen.
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Dagny
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Post by Dagny »

Hi Kiran :(

I am so sorry it wasn't your time this time. It is such a kick in the teeth after all the effort and waiting. Thinking of you, have a large drink and lots of cuddles with your DH.

Love Dagny x
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Post by Dagny »

Hi Helen

Now, you look after yourself and those embies and good luck for the 9th when you test.

Be positive. I'm keeping everything crossed for you.

Love Dagny x :wink:
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