I've found out today that my first IVF cycle has failed. I've got to wait until 2nd Sept for a consultation at the clinic so I guess I have to wait for bleed? I feel so terribly lost about what to do and dreading facing the world.
I am certain that I want to go ahead with another cycle and keeping thinking that I'm really lucky to have 13 embroys in the freezer but equally so nervous.
Is there any alternative therapies that people have tried to help them conceive alongside IVF, which they thought helped them?
Help after failed cycle
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Geordie_chick
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so sorry....its awful i know..
i have been there 3 times.. with no embryos in the freezer. and i am 40...
first of all statistically it working the first time isnt very likely.. not that that makes you feel better... but you reallly have to keep your chin up and stay positive... 13 in the freezer thats AMAZING!! i had 3 extras this time and they didnt make it to freeze. So you have ALOT of hope.
after 3 failed attempts i tried acupuncture this time gave up caffeine and tried o moderate my activity levels.. i am 5 days after t # 4 so we will see. But i definately recomend acupuncture. there is a lot of evidence that it helps
also i have read on this blog that FETs often work better (not sure why) so that should make you feel good
waiting til sept 2 to talk to your doc is the worst .. in the meantime stay positive!!!
i have been there 3 times.. with no embryos in the freezer. and i am 40...
first of all statistically it working the first time isnt very likely.. not that that makes you feel better... but you reallly have to keep your chin up and stay positive... 13 in the freezer thats AMAZING!! i had 3 extras this time and they didnt make it to freeze. So you have ALOT of hope.
after 3 failed attempts i tried acupuncture this time gave up caffeine and tried o moderate my activity levels.. i am 5 days after t # 4 so we will see. But i definately recomend acupuncture. there is a lot of evidence that it helps
also i have read on this blog that FETs often work better (not sure why) so that should make you feel good
waiting til sept 2 to talk to your doc is the worst .. in the meantime stay positive!!!
Me 43 dh 65
6 cycles 3 chemicals
13+ banking cycles. 2 failed transfers to Surro
12/9 transfer 2 hatching blasts to surro beta 12/ 15
6 cycles 3 chemicals
13+ banking cycles. 2 failed transfers to Surro
12/9 transfer 2 hatching blasts to surro beta 12/ 15
Dear,
I am so sorry. I can totally understand you. I am sure you feel better by time. We all have to. Try to keep positive you are so lucky you have 13 more here so you can try them first before do another fresh cycle and for some reason it seems FET success rate is higher. Please don't give up and I have you in my prayers.
I am so sorry. I can totally understand you. I am sure you feel better by time. We all have to. Try to keep positive you are so lucky you have 13 more here so you can try them first before do another fresh cycle and for some reason it seems FET success rate is higher. Please don't give up and I have you in my prayers.
Me-36
DH-34(LOW MORPHOLOGY)
1st IUI -12/07 BFN
2nd IUI-4/08 BFN
1st IVF-July 2008 BFN So hard :0
2nd IVF-Nov 2008 BFP Beta 167 (Twins!!!!!!!!! )Thank you God
DH-34(LOW MORPHOLOGY)
1st IUI -12/07 BFN
2nd IUI-4/08 BFN
1st IVF-July 2008 BFN So hard :0
2nd IVF-Nov 2008 BFP Beta 167 (Twins!!!!!!!!! )Thank you God
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Geordie_chick
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I was so convinced, y'know? Absolutely sure I'd make it, done all the stuff I should (I had OHH in Sept last year so waited till June this year for ET).
I know 13 embees is great and I'm not taking that lightly esp since we can't afford another cycle from scratch. But today it feels like someone has died.
Ahh well, back to work tomorrow and put on a brave face. Actually I might just skip it and hide a bit longer, I'm so worried I'm going to be upset when I see my pregnant colleague
Wishing you both every success and thank you for being there
xx
I know 13 embees is great and I'm not taking that lightly esp since we can't afford another cycle from scratch. But today it feels like someone has died.
Ahh well, back to work tomorrow and put on a brave face. Actually I might just skip it and hide a bit longer, I'm so worried I'm going to be upset when I see my pregnant colleague
Wishing you both every success and thank you for being there
xx
I'm so sorry that you have to go through this. I had a failed cycle last month and I know how desperate and horrible the feeling is. I wish no one would ever have to feel that way...but, I've found a lot of comfort knowing that others have been through it on this board. I have no one in my personal life who has been here and it does feel very lonely at times.
You will heal from this...just take time right now to cry and be sad and angry and whatever else you need to feel. When you're feeling a little better, start doing things to make yourself healthy. You have to prepare your body for next time...take a walk, make a healthy dinner, get a massage, a manicure, maybe a yoga class. Put yourself first during this time...I know it sounds selfish, but you have to.
I've started acupuncture more for stress and anxiety than anything else. It has really been helping me to see things a little more clearly. And it's nice to get an Eastern perspective on this whole mess...you know how doctors here are...they know what they're doing in terms of science, but they take very little time to nurture the soul.
Going back to work that first day for me was very difficult. I definitely cried in my office a bit...but, then it was time to get on with the day. I think it was better for me to be there than to stay at home and cry. But, I know how difficult it is to deal with a pregnant co-worker...it's the worst.
Just know that others have been where you are...experienced that sense of loss, that extremely low feeling that you never though was possible...but, somehow...you start to hope again...even if it's only for a few minutes a day...and that is what will get you through (I think!!!!).
Hang in there...and I know we're not supposed to...but, I found that those first few days...lots and lots of wine helped!!!! You can be sober next week!
You will heal from this...just take time right now to cry and be sad and angry and whatever else you need to feel. When you're feeling a little better, start doing things to make yourself healthy. You have to prepare your body for next time...take a walk, make a healthy dinner, get a massage, a manicure, maybe a yoga class. Put yourself first during this time...I know it sounds selfish, but you have to.
I've started acupuncture more for stress and anxiety than anything else. It has really been helping me to see things a little more clearly. And it's nice to get an Eastern perspective on this whole mess...you know how doctors here are...they know what they're doing in terms of science, but they take very little time to nurture the soul.
Going back to work that first day for me was very difficult. I definitely cried in my office a bit...but, then it was time to get on with the day. I think it was better for me to be there than to stay at home and cry. But, I know how difficult it is to deal with a pregnant co-worker...it's the worst.
Just know that others have been where you are...experienced that sense of loss, that extremely low feeling that you never though was possible...but, somehow...you start to hope again...even if it's only for a few minutes a day...and that is what will get you through (I think!!!!).
Hang in there...and I know we're not supposed to...but, I found that those first few days...lots and lots of wine helped!!!! You can be sober next week!