Do I need to seek help?

[ndgo82]

I've been married for 2 years 2 months and this is our first IVF pregnancy.
We had an ectopic in 2006. My sil [sister in-law] and her husband is staying with us and she has never been pregnant and married for 4 years.
She suffered from bullimia and has periods every 3 sometimes 4 months.
As soon as I anounced I was pregnant she anounced she was also She didn't seem happy or emotional so I took her to the clinic and low and behold she is. She is a real attention seeker and I still don't believe her in a way because she never talks about babies or being sick or even pregnant..at all...am I just jealous? Why would I be if I'm pregnant to?
I was kinda hopeing to be the only one because she copies everything I do with my dh [which is her brother] like our open affection..she heard me call him baby now her husband is baby all of a sudden

Sorry for the long rant but I'm loseing my mind in a miserable situation..plus I'm hormonal.

[ndgo82]

O.K. so I'll awnser my own question then

response-Girl..your just being silly. Just enjoy YOUR time being pregnant.

me-yeah your right, but I did want to have that speacial moment to myself!!!! That's why I'm upset..I guess that's being selfish but onthe same day as my anouncement though?..darn!

response- calm down crazy before you have an anyourism

me-ok..ok..thanks...hee hee

I know sick right

[Ghost]

Yes, you are both pregnant, but there's something fundamentally different.

You went to great trouble and expense to become pregnant. She did not.

Consider when Columbus's sailors stepped off the ships and met the natives. Yes, they were both at the same place, but one had come a long way through great risk and uncertainty to get there, and the other just happened to live there.

[beachbaby]

Hi, I know exactly how you feel, My DH and I were trying to conceive for 5 years before we fell pregnant. And low and behold my SIL who was not trying anounced she was pregnant when i was only 6 weeks and had not told anyone due to previous miscarraiges. When they left Myself and DH cried, as like you due to what i had been through i wanted to go through this alone, selfish i know but my SIL is also very self obsessed. The good news is this passes very quickly and we are very lucky that the babies are only 6 weeks apart in age, yes i was second but i had twins!! but between us we have 3 gorgeous boys, and my in laws have 3 grandsons.
Enjoy your pregnancy it's priceless.
good luck

[ndgo82]

.... !!!

[ndgo82]

Thanks Beachbaby

[alimoyni]

I like ghosts analogy I am like Columbus!

its hard not to be a bit annoyed when someone gets pregnant so easily or gets pregnant in a bad situation.

[dancingirl76]

I don't think you are wrong to feel something about the whole situation. I do sympathize with you.

I am 32 and my husband 29. About 3 1/2 yrs ago his half-sister announces to us she is pregnant... at 17. Talk about being upset (me not her). Upset that a spoiled brat could get pregnant while on birth control pills of all things (although she was on steroids at the time and didn't have ANY idea that would make the pill ineffective) to a guy she really didn't even want to be going out with. It was a baby having a baby.
She ended up graduating HS, moved in with the daddy who was 21 at the time, and had plans to marry. After the baby was born she didn't really want anything to do with the baby... she said it was "baby blues" and they gave her meds for it but she wouldn't take them. She just pluncked the baby on the floor still in its car seat and didn't even look at her. I don't really think in her case it was depression... more like spoiled ass brat syndrome and the reality set in of what life was going to be like. I offered my help to her... any time she needed someone to come help or watch the baby anything. What was her response... rolling her eyes at me. What more could I expect out of an 18 yr old.
Then to add insult to injury, when the baby was 3 mo old they announced they were expecting again (see they wanted to make sure to have the kids while they were still young and title 19 would pay for it... in other words abusing the welfare system). I don't know what else help they have been on, other than I do know she gave her address as her dad's so she could get help.

They do now plan to get married, next month... 1 day before our 6yr anniversary. I can't even have my anniversary to myself!

I should say that I don't want to give the wrong impression... there is nothing wrong with getting help (i.e. food stamps, welfare) but I HATE it when people abuse it like she has. She did mess up her life some by getting pregnant so young. She had big aspirations for college and career, and was a really hard worker in HS not just at school but after school jobs. She always worked hard. She did get her 2yr degree but now all the job she can get is a part time waitress, and not even a good one at that.

The other thing that makes me mad, is she has about bled my father-in-law dry. His own fault I guess (paying some of her bills, insurance for a while, a car). But, when we went to buy our first house years ago we asked him if we could borrow some down payment money at which time he said no. but when baby girl needed it he gave it to her. So when we had to go through a secondary lender to get the house he threw it in our faces for years about how we had to do it. My husband finally stood up to him one day and told him off and since then... he hasn't ever brought it up.
It about made me barf sitting with her one day while 6 mo preg with the 1st one griping about how her dad was going to make her start paying for 1/2 her cell phone bill. Cry me a river!!! Oh, and then there was one point they were going to move back in with him because they were having problems with finances. My husband so badly wanted to tell her... oh well why don't you pop out another kid then (referencing have the 2nd one so soon).

Still to this day from my perspective, she doesn't have much to do with them. The daddy's parents take care of the kids a lot of the time, or the dad does most of the work. It about makes me sick.

Anyway... that's my story. Am I terrible for not being able to stand the ground she walks on????

[ndgo82]

I totally hate itches like her
I feel for you girl, she's lucky you don't just grab her and beat her
down..lol. You know what though?, she won't have good luck at all.
Karma comes back around and she's gonna get shit from her kids,
you just sit back and watch, and laugh to yourself. The devil is a lie