No heartbeat detected at 9 weeks

brit1612 · Post by **brit1612** » Wed Oct 08, 2008 6:28 pm

I am a little over 9 weeks and the baby has been measuring behind, but has had a healthy heartbeat. (146 last week) I went in yesterday and the nurse could not detect the heartbeat. I know that this is not good, but was wondering if anyone has had the heartbeat be visible, not visible, and then found it again later? Or is this for sure over?? Thanks for any advice.

esperanza · Post by **esperanza** » Thu Oct 09, 2008 4:26 am

Hi brit,

I'm sorry you're going through this. Unfortunately I don't have an answer for you, but I want to show some support in this nerve racking moment. I'm wondering, the nurse wasn't able to detect the heartbeat with the doppler? why didn't they do an ultrasound? When I went for my 10 weeks check up the midwife couldn't find the heartbeat with the doppler, so they immediately sent me to do an ultrasound and we were able to see/hear the heartbeat. What next steps did they suggest?

Thinking of you and sending lots of positive thoughts.

Vickyp · Post by **Vickyp** » Thu Oct 09, 2008 9:09 am

Hi Brit

I agree with esperanza - if this was with a doppler then it is easily concievable that they might not find the heartbeat. In the UK they don't even try to find the heartbeat with a doppler until you are over 12 wks and even then I was categorically told not to worry if they couldn't find it as it was quite likely they wouldn't be able to hear it.

They had real problems finding mine the first time - around 13wks but then when I went for a scan a while later they said my placenta was at the front which may make the baby difficult to feel and hear initially. I am keeping my fingers crossed for you. Love Vicky.

brit1612 · Post by **brit1612** » Thu Oct 09, 2008 1:38 pm

Thanks for the kind words. It was an ultrasound not a doppler, we could not see the heartbeat like we have in the past. I go back today to find out for sure, but I think it is probably over. Thank ya'll very much for the support.

esperanza · Post by **esperanza** » Fri Oct 10, 2008 12:37 am

Brit, I'm thinking about you. Let us know how everything goes.
Hugs.

valerie68 · Post by **valerie68** » Fri Oct 10, 2008 2:59 am

I don't have any advice for you but wanted to let you know I've been following your story and I hope you got to see a hb today. You've been through so much these past few weeks and have been really strong.
I'm thinking about you!!

I'm in a somewhat similar situation with a baby measuring 9 days behind and had a faint hb at 7w4d. I'm going back next Tues when I'll be 9w2d and I hope to see good results then.

I really wish you the best and give you great big hugs!!!

Valerie

brit1612 · Post by **brit1612** » Fri Oct 10, 2008 2:17 pm

Thanks for all the support. It is nice to know that there are other people out there who understand. I went back and there was still no heartbeat, so it is over.

Valerie - I wish the best for you, and I have heard of many babies starting out behind and then catching up. I hope that you are one of those stories.

My husband and I are thinking about the possibility of embryo adoption. Does anyone know anything about this or anyone who has gone through it? After two miscarrages and 4 ivf's we just feel like it might be time to move to something else.

sciteacher77 · Post by **sciteacher77** » Fri Oct 10, 2008 3:04 pm

I am so sorry for your loss. I was following your story and really pulling for you! I don't have any real experience with embryo adoption but I did look into it. I am a poor responder who did get pregnant on my first real IVF cycle (actual first was canceled) only to lose my baby at 23 weeks due to an Incompetent Cervix. After burying our daughter, we wanted to start back right away. It took me many months to get pregnant again and in between we looked into embryo adoption. I believe the main organization is called snowflake. It is not free because you have to pay the freezing and transportation costs which can add up to $10,000. The wait is also quite long - at least 9 moths. However, if you were willing to adopt embryos of a different race or multi-racial the wait was less time. I hope this helps!

Good luck!
Michelle
17 weeks with a boy

kerpupples · Post by **kerpupples** » Fri Oct 10, 2008 4:07 pm

Brit, my best friend's sister in law used a donated embryo after 2 unsuccessful IVF cycles and she's now due in November. If you'd like I can ask how she went about obtaining the embryo.

Hoekey · Post by **Hoekey** » Fri Oct 10, 2008 8:00 pm

Brit, I am so sorry for your loss. I know first hand how devastating it is to see the heartbeat only to go back and find out that your precious one has died. I have no words that can express to you how bad I know that you and your DH are feeling. Even so early on in the pregnancy you have so many hopes and dreams for your baby and it comes to such a brutal end. Hang in there! Keep DH close and take time to grieve. I wish you the best in the future. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Hoekey

brit1612 · Post by **brit1612** » Fri Oct 10, 2008 9:11 pm

Thanks everyone. This board is so supportive, and I am glad to have all of ya'll to talk to. It is hard but we are doing ok. It helps to start thinking about more options.

Kerpupples- any info you could find out would be great.

esperanza · Post by **esperanza** » Fri Oct 10, 2008 9:14 pm

brit,

So sorry honey, I was hoping you would bring a different story. I understand what you're going through, and I have no words to make it better. I'm glad that you're thinking about the future, that helps. Please take good care of yourself, and as hoekey said, take time to grieve.

Hugs.

No heartbeat detected at 9 weeks

No heartbeat detected at 9 weeks

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