We went to a couple of other centers (did a cycle at one) before we ended up at CCRM. We were in our early 30's and things weren't working as expected. We did all the testing and a myomectomy (removed a fibroid). All three centers suggested we move to IVF. Of course, this is a change in thinking, but it helped us to really focus on what we wanted (which was to have a family). It took us a while to get past the 'maybe its this' 'maybe its that' phase. The desire to have the lack of fertility clear 'explained' is strong, but really doesn't change anything. Even if you knew exactly why you weren't getting pregnant, IVF at age 31 would very well be the best option. In our case, it was IVF with donor egg. Again, it took us considerable time to get past the change in mindset using donor requires, but in the end, we decided that having kids was the goal and that we were less interested in them looking like us. In fact, at one point, we were ready to to adopt. Then, we thought, if we were convinced to adopt, (a child with no genetic connection to either of us, and a somewhat unknown medical and natal history), why on earth wouldn't we want to do IVF? With IVF you maintain a great deal of control, and with donor, at least at CCRM, they screen carefully and you can specify why is important to you.
We decided if we were going to do all of this, we'd use one of the labs in the country with the best results. So, CCRM it was (and now we live nearby). I wouldn't stress about which Dr. at CCRM you use. As the other poster mentioned, its about the protocol, honed over years of practice and study. We were very pleased with Dr. Schoolcraft, though his 'in office' conversation can be very matter of fact. His bedside manner is fine and his talent at embryo transfer is AMAZING. He is a humble and quiet guy, shy, really. The other doctors you mentioned are good too.
For what its worth, my wife's hormones have always been the question. She has regular periods, but over the years, with various testing, we are pretty sure that the 'unexplained' part of our infertility is just a wacko hormone schedule.
We started trying to figure it all out in our early 30's and wasted, in our opinion, many years, trying to 'figure it all out.' We eventually went to 2 successful IVF's and wish we had done so earlier. Once your babies are born, you quickly forget the angst of getting there (you have the excitement and trauma of trying to deal with a baby/toddler/child). We finally had our first when my wife was 42 and second at 46. Both of our kids are wonderful, smart and amazingly good looking. We frequently have people suggest our youngest be on TV/advertising, due to her bright red hair. My wife's family has a history of 'anxiety' and 'strong temperments.' She has admitted that its good that our kids are less likely to inherit those tendencies, which usually are passed down. So far, it has proved to be true and a blessing.
So, my thoughts at age 31 with unexplained infertility. If you really want kids and can find the money, do the IVF. You'll get where you want to be and will forget some of the angst you are currently going through.
The nurses and doctors at CCRM were and have continued to be great. We still have frozen embryos there, not sure how we'll handle that, as we are now 49 and very satisfied with our two lovely girls.
Email on this system if you want more info or want to talk with me or my wife about our journey. Focus on your goal, whatever that is, and be patient with the process. If they goal is to have kids, don't be afraid of the iVF. CCRM knows IVF as well as any clinic. If you don't want to do IVF, Clomid or just giving it some time, might be the ticket. But, set a deadline for yourself. Doing IVF's in your 40's is hard work and raising kids in your late 40's or 50's takes a strong back
