Well, for those of you who dont know I have been trying to start a FET since before xmas-we have a new clinic which has been delayed somewhat by builders..........
AF has arrived so have just phoned clinic (they are now open) to book day 19 appt only to be told they cant fit me in this month.(have been trying since before xmas to get booked in)
I AM SO CROSS........its now over 6 mths since last tmt.....
I will be even crosser next month if they tell me I have to have blood tests re done(I think most blood tests only last a year) because its just more money to pay.
The clinic say they are only allowed to do x amount of tmts each week which I understand but what happens if AF arrives the wrong time every month!!! They cant guarantee I will get booked in next month either...
I feel really _ve now. I am starting to think that it will never happen for us......I mean, how the hell can it when I cant even get bloody booked in for treatment.........
We cant really change clinics ever because that will mean more money for consultancy etc and then will have to arrange to movefrozen embryos..........
Anyway, enough moaning from me.........dont want to pass on my _ve vibes..........
Take care all
Sarah
xx
Totally hacked off with everything........
Oh Sarah...poor you. Can the clinic tell you how to ensure that next month you CAN get an apt. ? It's a reasonable question, as you say the dates are the dates, you can't do much about when AF rears her ugly head.
Feeling like crap myself so am off into the snow for a walk to the clinic for my jab - sounds like a great morning!!
Take care and know that good things will come to those who wait.
love and hugs
Debra.
Feeling like crap myself so am off into the snow for a walk to the clinic for my jab - sounds like a great morning!!
Take care and know that good things will come to those who wait.
love and hugs
Debra.
oh Sarah
that is so bad of the clinic i can totally understand you feeling really cross all this time waiting i have been reading your posts about this
clinics can be a real pain in the arse all the stress and worry you all ready have and they just add to it even more.
i will be thinking of you and wish you all the luck in the world for next month your time will come hun im sure good luck and im sending you a big ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((cyber hug ))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
and loads of ++++++++++++++++++++++ive vibes
Love Ang
that is so bad of the clinic i can totally understand you feeling really cross all this time waiting i have been reading your posts about this
clinics can be a real pain in the arse all the stress and worry you all ready have and they just add to it even more.
i will be thinking of you and wish you all the luck in the world for next month your time will come hun im sure good luck and im sending you a big ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((cyber hug ))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
and loads of ++++++++++++++++++++++ive vibes
Love Ang
Sarah, this is totally outrageous. Your clinic definitely wins the prize for the most incompetent (closely followed by the LGI in Leeds!!!)
I would ring them back and ask them why they can't put your name down in advance for next month, so you don't miss your slot. They can work out roughly when your af will turn up because you have had six clear months and therefore an af pattern will have developed eg every 28,29 days etc .....whatever!
How else do they propose you start your next tmt? Why don't you ask them about blood tests that might be needed so you could get your gp to do them in between, save time and money and they can forward the results so everything is ready for next month.
Once they give you a date to start (even if its in a months time) at least you have somethign to aim for, this waiting is a total nightmare! I know how you feel because LGI closed for refurbishment and our last tmt was delayed and we had to wait six months (thats why we got married - it was something to do, to pass the time!)
If I can leave you with any positive thoughts - the break in between tmt worked for me, and I truly hope it will work for you too and therefore this waiting will have all been worthwhile.
Try not to get too down - get back on the phone to them and demand some answers!!!! Tell them from me, if they are not nice to you and sort things out I'll get on the phone to them and then they'll be bloody sorry!!!!!
lots and lots of love and hugs
nikola.xxxxxxxxx
I would ring them back and ask them why they can't put your name down in advance for next month, so you don't miss your slot. They can work out roughly when your af will turn up because you have had six clear months and therefore an af pattern will have developed eg every 28,29 days etc .....whatever!
How else do they propose you start your next tmt? Why don't you ask them about blood tests that might be needed so you could get your gp to do them in between, save time and money and they can forward the results so everything is ready for next month.
Once they give you a date to start (even if its in a months time) at least you have somethign to aim for, this waiting is a total nightmare! I know how you feel because LGI closed for refurbishment and our last tmt was delayed and we had to wait six months (thats why we got married - it was something to do, to pass the time!)
If I can leave you with any positive thoughts - the break in between tmt worked for me, and I truly hope it will work for you too and therefore this waiting will have all been worthwhile.
Try not to get too down - get back on the phone to them and demand some answers!!!! Tell them from me, if they are not nice to you and sort things out I'll get on the phone to them and then they'll be bloody sorry!!!!!
lots and lots of love and hugs
nikola.xxxxxxxxx
Hi Sarah,
You must be so gutted and angry. Especially as it just doesn't seem to make sense. You must be able to book a place next month. What about asking if you can be on a waiting list for this month incase someone has to drop out.
It might be worth phoning Bournemouth and just seeing how much extra it would cost to move to another clinic. Mind you, B'mth has pissed me off at the moment.
What about writing to the top bod of the clinic. They would hate negative press. Write a letter of formal complaint (an independent complaints officer would then have to investigate the complaint. It might make the clinic sort out this ineffective service). Its worth a go if you have the energy and the time.
I know this wont take away the pain and anger for you. Big hug, and kick some ass.
From Sophie-Jane
You must be so gutted and angry. Especially as it just doesn't seem to make sense. You must be able to book a place next month. What about asking if you can be on a waiting list for this month incase someone has to drop out.
It might be worth phoning Bournemouth and just seeing how much extra it would cost to move to another clinic. Mind you, B'mth has pissed me off at the moment.
What about writing to the top bod of the clinic. They would hate negative press. Write a letter of formal complaint (an independent complaints officer would then have to investigate the complaint. It might make the clinic sort out this ineffective service). Its worth a go if you have the energy and the time.
I know this wont take away the pain and anger for you. Big hug, and kick some ass.
From Sophie-Jane
Hi guys and thanks for your words of wisdom.....
Well, as they say PERSISTENCE does pay.......
I phoned the clinic up again to try and discuss pencilling in an appt for next month as the last 6 mths my AF has been 100% regular to the day....
Well, I spoke to receptionist who knows I have been trying to get booked in for a while(think she is fed up with me calling-not really)
I miscalculated my days and told her day 19 would be sun 14/03, she said, Oh, thats the start of a new week we can book you in........
I then realised I had miscalculated and day 19 was the sat.........she said that it had to be day 19 or the tmt would not work.. and what a shame I did not start a day later.......AF can be a ***** when she wants.......
I then shameleslly begged and said that AF did not start until 09.30am so could we say day 1was the the next day????? she went away and spoke to someone and I cant believe my luck......they decided cos I did not actually wake up bleeding then they would count the next day as day 1 which means day 19 would be the sunday and I AM NOW STARTING TMT.....yippee!!!!!
Whoops, have waffled a bit...........
The only other worry I have now is they have changed the way they do things....previously a FET cost approx £1100 and this was paid to clinic who provided all drugs etc.......Now they say they cannot keep drugs at clinic so charge is £653 to clinic and drug company will contact us direct....DOes this happen at other clinics???? Will it cost more this way??
Anyway, have probably bored you all so am signing off........
Kat, if you read this, we will be able to have an SCB reunion now.....July Ann-are you going to start the old SCBs off with a big fat +ve!!!
Maybe I should start a MCB thread..........HAve my appt 10/03....
Bye for now
A very happy
Sarah
xx
Well, as they say PERSISTENCE does pay.......
I phoned the clinic up again to try and discuss pencilling in an appt for next month as the last 6 mths my AF has been 100% regular to the day....
Well, I spoke to receptionist who knows I have been trying to get booked in for a while(think she is fed up with me calling-not really)
I miscalculated my days and told her day 19 would be sun 14/03, she said, Oh, thats the start of a new week we can book you in........
I then realised I had miscalculated and day 19 was the sat.........she said that it had to be day 19 or the tmt would not work.. and what a shame I did not start a day later.......AF can be a ***** when she wants.......
I then shameleslly begged and said that AF did not start until 09.30am so could we say day 1was the the next day????? she went away and spoke to someone and I cant believe my luck......they decided cos I did not actually wake up bleeding then they would count the next day as day 1 which means day 19 would be the sunday and I AM NOW STARTING TMT.....yippee!!!!!
Whoops, have waffled a bit...........
The only other worry I have now is they have changed the way they do things....previously a FET cost approx £1100 and this was paid to clinic who provided all drugs etc.......Now they say they cannot keep drugs at clinic so charge is £653 to clinic and drug company will contact us direct....DOes this happen at other clinics???? Will it cost more this way??
Anyway, have probably bored you all so am signing off........
Kat, if you read this, we will be able to have an SCB reunion now.....July Ann-are you going to start the old SCBs off with a big fat +ve!!!
Maybe I should start a MCB thread..........HAve my appt 10/03....
Bye for now
A very happy
Sarah
xx
Sarah
What a rollercoaster, its worse than mine , gosh we are going to be strong people after this I can tell you
I am so pleased you have had good news , It is so overwelming when something actually goes right ! I will be watching you all the way bless you ,
Take care
Trace x
What a rollercoaster, its worse than mine , gosh we are going to be strong people after this I can tell you
I am so pleased you have had good news , It is so overwelming when something actually goes right ! I will be watching you all the way bless you ,Take care
Trace x
1st cycle own eggs Neg
2nd cycle own eggs Neg
3rd cycle cousins eggs Neg
4th cycle unknown donor eggs Neg
Going to have sisters eggs Feb 06
NEVER GIVE UP!
2nd cycle own eggs Neg
3rd cycle cousins eggs Neg
4th cycle unknown donor eggs Neg
Going to have sisters eggs Feb 06
NEVER GIVE UP!
srah what great new's. I'm afraid i found with the clinics I used it was who shouted the loudest got heard. On one of my tmt the drugs where sent to my home it was great they arrange a two hour slot for you to be in as you have to sign for them it was no problem at all. If you needed extra drugs they were really quick at getting them to you.
what a great start for the weekend and the gang will be back together again. Think I might even have a glass of red wine to congratulate you.
take care
july ann
what a great start for the weekend and the gang will be back together again. Think I might even have a glass of red wine to congratulate you.
take care
july ann
been in tmt for 4 years.Male factor. Have had 3 icsi, one ivf with donor sperm.Went for fet with 7 eggs but none made it to blastocyst. just had 5 DI. test date 27 july
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Sarah,
You don't have to be sorry for waffling on because at the end of the day you haven't gone on at all. Even if you had it doesn't matter we are all here for each other.
I am glad that you was persistent and phoned the clinic and glad to hear that you will be starting tmt. The thing is its frustrating enough without having to be held up all the time.
GOOD LUCK.
Love
Shell.
xx
You don't have to be sorry for waffling on because at the end of the day you haven't gone on at all. Even if you had it doesn't matter we are all here for each other.
I am glad that you was persistent and phoned the clinic and glad to hear that you will be starting tmt. The thing is its frustrating enough without having to be held up all the time.
GOOD LUCK.
Love
Shell.
xx
Well done for persisting
Hi Sarah
What a stressful time you've had sorting out your tmt. All the best for you and keeping everything crossed for you.
I can't believe how the clinic has treated you especially when you are paying for a service and need to be pampered and kept stress free! Well done for being persistent.
Regards
Jane
What a stressful time you've had sorting out your tmt. All the best for you and keeping everything crossed for you.
I can't believe how the clinic has treated you especially when you are paying for a service and need to be pampered and kept stress free! Well done for being persistent.
Regards
Jane