Dec/Jan Cycle buddies!!!!

[chris4446]

Hi, I just joined today and am really excited to start my first (and hopefully last) IVF treatment.
I was diagnosed with POF (Premature Ovairian Failure) wahen I was 18 so this is pretty much my only hope, I will be doing IVF with a donor egg, the transfer is suppose to happen the fist week of Dec 2008. I stared on my medications today, 2 Estogen Patches, and 2 Pills a day, don't have to start any injections yet. I'm 35 and just got married a few years ago, guess I can't wait too much longer, but the doctor's say my chances are good, as it goes by the donor's age and she is 29.

Praying for the Best, and I will be praying for you all as well.

Christine

[ann d.]

It's great to see this thread get more participants. Good luck to everyone!

I was just thinking about everything and wondering who I should tell about my 2nd IVF attempt. My family and very close friends know, but the last time I told my close friends at work and this time I haven't told them anything. I guess I've been more guarded because it was hard to tell them the first time that it didn't work. They have all been supportive in the past, but it gets awkward for me to tell them when it's bad news. I don't know if that makes sense. Anyway, what is everyone else doing?

Just wondering...

[BarbD]

Hello Ann D,

I have only told about 5 people at work that I can really trust and since I don't have family in my home state, I figured we can wait to get a BFP and once it is all said and done we can tell them.

As far as the diet goes I am just eating healthy. It is so comforting to see that I have someone to relate to in times of emotional needs that not all other can understand. I don't know what it is but everytime I am suppose to get AF I get very depressed knowing that I have to wait till Jan to the the FET

[wishing4baby]

I am always conflicted about who to tell. In the past we only told my family (DH's family still has no idea we have been doing IVF or that we are even having fertility issues) and about 3 of my closest girlfriends. I don't know what is harder, having to tell people it didn't work, or having to pretend to be fine and normal with people who have no idea what you are going through.

I have decided to not tell my girlfriends about this next FET. I just feel bad having to keep telling them bad news. It's a downer, and I don't want to keep putting them through it with me. I am sticking with just family this time.

All the issues that come with this fertility stuff are really annoying.

[london]

Yes I agree the lastime me and DH did IVF we did not tell anyone and i am not going to tell anyone this time. I did inform them of my laposcopy surgery where they removed my tube so once i told them that we were pregnant they were so happy and theni had miscarriage they were more devestated than me. So this time when I do become pregnant I am not going to tell anyone for awhile. It just so sad sometimes but as long as I have my husband by my side I am fine.

[Annie973]

I told my family and friends when I was going through the IUIs. I found it to be more stressful. Everytime I had a dr appt, even if it was just for blood work, everyone would call to see how it went! I know they mean well but it was just too much. Especially when I got the BFNs it made it so much worse to have to call everyone and tell them. So for the first IVF we didnt tell anyone and it was so much less stressful. I told a few people that we have tried IVF or I tell my BF everything but it is after the fact when i've dealt with the results already.

[tburks]

I told everyone at work because I was leaving and they all thought I had cancer or something life threatening! I haven't told anyone in my family yet. I figure those at work i don't have to see on a daily bases if they call and I don't have good news I just won't answer the phone.

I don't think our parents will be real happy about us having children. On both sides they have told us not to. On one end I hear "The world is to bad" on the other "You will never have a life of your own if you have children". So to keep from hearing all that I will just keep it to myself until I'm ol'.........bout 5 months or so!

I think it would be much more difficult if it doesn't work to have to tell everyone than to not tell anyone now while going thru the process. What they don't know won't hurt them. Besides we have each other to talk to on here which I am grateful for.

Hope all of you are doing well. I have contracted a terrible cold. Trying not to take anything worried that it might affect my meds. last night was the last of the BCP. Thank God! Next Tues. is my US and I will update everyone on my meds and dates then.

[BarbD]

I understand what you mean, I didn't take my prenatal before work and during lunch i took it in front of a co-worker that doesn't know. Well she has kids and knew what the pill was(sucks to work in a hospital surrounded by Nurses ) She made a comment like"you are crazy to be trying to have a kid at your age" I am 37 didn't know or feel like I was old but whatever. I guess she confirmed my feelings about not telling everyone.

As far as the cold goes, when I was stimming I got a very bad cold my the doctor gave me a list of meds to take as if I was pregnant. I was also afraid to take them thinking that they would hurt something or something would come out wrong, so I pushed through it with no meds. I hope you feel better soon.

[ann d.]

Barb D.... That sucks that your co-worker said such an insensitive thing. I don't think people understand when they're saying something that may sound hurtful or may make you feel sad. My girlfriend who is pregnant (and not married) was telling me all the other girls she knows that are pregnant and due around the same time as her. She knows about my issues, but she just kept talking about it what seemed like again and again. I'm sure she didn't realize how it made me feel, but I still felt really sad afterwards. That was the same day I found out SHE was pregnant. It was a lot of information to take. Horrible evening!

tburks... That's a big part of the reason I told my co-workers the last time, too. I didn't want them to think I had something serious. I will have to say having their support was great. They gave me a gift card to Island's to order take-out and sent me a card. It was really thoughtful. However, like I said before, when I got my BFP and then m/c at week 7, it was terrible enough going through it with DH, but then having to tell my co-workers was horrible. I couldn't even tell them face-to-face. I had to email them about it because I would keep breaking down in tears when telling people like my family.

wishing4baby... I completely know what you mean when you said, "I don't know what is harder, having to tell people it didn't work, or having to pretend to be fine and normal with people who have no idea what you are going through. " For me, I think the latter is easier to deal with. I'm telling the people that are MOST important to me like my parents, sister, and DH. My other girlfriends are those that I've known for years and I only see them 3-4 times a year so I don't have to call them if it's bad news. They'll know when I see them next.

Anyway, I'm going to go get acupuncture this morning. AND then, DH and I are getting a massage. He's been having such a hard time with this IVF thing recently. I think he blames himself for our fertility issues. I feel horrible about it and try to keep reminding him it's "our" issue and we will get through it, but nothing seems to work. He's stressed. Thus, the massage appointment. Have a great Saturday everyone!!

[DeeStar]

I started off not telling to many people about our problems, just my parents. Then my mom told her sisters..and they told their kids..and so on, so now my whole family pretty much knows are every move. Which is really hard when you have to keep saying it didn't work again while trying to keep a fake smile on. I didn't tell anyone at work either, but it became harder to explain coming in late and leaving for "appts", plus I work with a majority of guys so telling them was weird in itself but they all have been so understanding and respectful. I've had the hardest time with my sister in law..she just had baby #2 last week and had been ttc, when we were of course, and has just shown no concern for me or has even asked one question about anything I'm going thru, and even had a sob story when it took them 3 months to get pg..I was inragged! Anyways...good luck to everyone!! I'm hoping this our FET cycle is the one and I can give everyone some good news

[VerityandPeter]

Hiya everyone,
I am a complete newbie to IVF -or ICSI in our case and will probably be starting my monitoring cycle in Dec. I went on the introduction webpage and someone suggested that I look to join the Dec/Jan cycle thread for support -hope this is ok?
My hubbie has morphology probs and I have polycystic ovaries and we were told that we needed help to conceive. Lots of my friends are either pregnant or just about to give birth and I don't know anyone else with fertility issues and I find that this makes me feel very isolated at times.
I'm 28 and hubbie is 44 -bit of background. Can anyone help me to find out where to decipher all the abbreviations?
Thanks,

[natashamom]

Thanks so much wishing4baby,this is so sweet telling me my embies are strong,you just don`t know how freaked out I am!

Although it seems they`ll be strong since a couple gave birth to twin boys from the same egg donor so I`m guessing it`ll be ok but you never know.

One thing we all have to do is try and stay positive and I know easier said than done!But I did hear from surveys that if you keep positive thoughts, you`re more likely to conceive.

So I`ll be starting Lupron in December and fet is in January,I can`t believe it`s coming up so soon!

I so want a girl!

How about you girls?Do you have a preference?


I just wish baby dust to us all!


Natasha.

[london]

Hello when I was pregnant last time I so badly wanted a boy and my DH wanted a girl but at this point me and my Dh will perfer whatever God give us

[wishing4baby]

Welcome to everyone that has joined our thread!!!

Natashamom, glad to hear that your are trying to stay positive. I think we all ride that roller coaster daily. One day feeling like this is the time and the next feeling totally hopeless. Keep up the positive thoughts.

As for if we would rather have a boy or girl, I am with your London. We will take whatever we are blessed with.

I start my estrogen shots tonight for the FET.

Anyone stimming yet? How is it going?

[DeeStar]

Good Luck to everyone that has started their cycle!! I'll be starting Lupron Dec. 3rd & Estrace Dec. 20th for a Jan. 9th FET I am so ready to get this cycle started and get some good news. We will be transfering a Dblast and a Cblast (RE grades A-D, D being the best) I am also having a lap done next Wed. to see if I do or don't have endo...

On another note...has anyone ever read The Secret. Someone had suggested it to me and I am just now getting around to reading it. It's pretty inspiring...basically teaching the power of possitive thinking and the laws of attraction, if you have possitive thoughts you will have possitive outcomes and so forth. So possitive thoughts to everyone!!