This is only my 2nd post, only discovered this site today, I am feeling better that there are so many ppl in the same way that we are......
Anyway, it seems that my hubby has no sperm. He's been told he needs a biopsy on the testis to remove sperm and analyse it. Then I think the next move will be depending on the biopsy will be donor or ivf.
We dont know why this has happened, all we know is that we are so sad that it has happened!
Please if any one else is in the same way, reply. We want to know how the biopsy is, and how you cope, coz this sure it the most difficult thing life has ever thrown at us.
Help!!
No Sperm!
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nicolamark
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hi nicolamark...,
I read about ur sad story.Well,to be honest on this site,many of them,including me sail in the same boat.My husband is 27 and has no sperm at all.Not even in the testes.He had his biospy in july 2003.The biospy is like a regular surgery where they will give him anesthesia and probably it will last for an hour or so.He will have some stiches and there will be some bleeding too after the surgery....It will be painful my friend...but honestly,just remember...it's not bad as u think it will be.He will have to probably bed rest for a day or two.Those stiches will melt on their own.It does not pain unbearably.Most people have babies through pleasure...We will have to have them through pain.But it is something that is very neccessary to do and trust me....u both will survive.I have to rely on donor sperm as dh has no sperm at all.Nicolamark,pls be with ur husband as he is going thru a very tough time...more than u can imagine.Make him talk about how he feels and this is a big kick to his manhood and every man will take it hard.Dont ever blame him if u have to go through ivf or any treatments.This is ur battle...Just not him but u too....I hope this helps.
Pls let me know if u need any more information.And remember one thing..though it is difficult...but u r the one who has to be brave at this point!!
Luv,
Miracle
I read about ur sad story.Well,to be honest on this site,many of them,including me sail in the same boat.My husband is 27 and has no sperm at all.Not even in the testes.He had his biospy in july 2003.The biospy is like a regular surgery where they will give him anesthesia and probably it will last for an hour or so.He will have some stiches and there will be some bleeding too after the surgery....It will be painful my friend...but honestly,just remember...it's not bad as u think it will be.He will have to probably bed rest for a day or two.Those stiches will melt on their own.It does not pain unbearably.Most people have babies through pleasure...We will have to have them through pain.But it is something that is very neccessary to do and trust me....u both will survive.I have to rely on donor sperm as dh has no sperm at all.Nicolamark,pls be with ur husband as he is going thru a very tough time...more than u can imagine.Make him talk about how he feels and this is a big kick to his manhood and every man will take it hard.Dont ever blame him if u have to go through ivf or any treatments.This is ur battle...Just not him but u too....I hope this helps.
Pls let me know if u need any more information.And remember one thing..though it is difficult...but u r the one who has to be brave at this point!!
Luv,
Miracle
It's going to be ok in the end.Even if it's not ok....IT"S NOT THE END!!!
My hubby produces sperm but it dies as soon as it is produced so they can't do anything with it. His is due to getting mumps when he was a teenager though!
We are just starting the process of DI and I have my first appointment with my Doctor on Wednesday to get a referral to the DI Clinic in Southampton, who have informed me that it will be done on the NHS so no costs.
Good luck with everything
We are just starting the process of DI and I have my first appointment with my Doctor on Wednesday to get a referral to the DI Clinic in Southampton, who have informed me that it will be done on the NHS so no costs.
Good luck with everything
Julia
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nicolamark
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Thanks for ur reply miracle!
This has helped us, just wanted to know what this biopsy involves really, we seem to be so in the dark about it. Do you know why your dh has no sperm? As this is whats confussing us, dh has never had mumps, illness, damage or anything, and apart from being a smoker is totally healthy. He's 29. I am 28
dh looked at the reply too, he's the one it affects directly although we are in it together. Like you say it's OUR battle. We will win!!!
Juliat72,
I hope ur DI goes ok. thats great that nhs are paying and its at no cost to you. I didnt realise that this was a treatment available on nhs!!!
Or is it a case of if your postcode is the right one its free!!
I think thats what we might end up doing, but at this stage its hard to know, we are on a waiting list for the biopsy to be done, this will be approx 4 months. Do you how long after that things get moving??
Good luck with ur 1st aptm, on weds!
x x x x
This has helped us, just wanted to know what this biopsy involves really, we seem to be so in the dark about it. Do you know why your dh has no sperm? As this is whats confussing us, dh has never had mumps, illness, damage or anything, and apart from being a smoker is totally healthy. He's 29. I am 28
dh looked at the reply too, he's the one it affects directly although we are in it together. Like you say it's OUR battle. We will win!!!
Juliat72,
I hope ur DI goes ok. thats great that nhs are paying and its at no cost to you. I didnt realise that this was a treatment available on nhs!!!
Or is it a case of if your postcode is the right one its free!!
I think thats what we might end up doing, but at this stage its hard to know, we are on a waiting list for the biopsy to be done, this will be approx 4 months. Do you how long after that things get moving??
Good luck with ur 1st aptm, on weds!
x x x x
NIcola - hi
Poor you - I really feel for you. I wont lie you are in for a bit of a "ride" - I have put a long reply on the other chat you posted on - just remember that you are SO SO not alone - altho I am guilty of forgetting this from time to time as ALL my friends seem to be getting PG with no problems at alL!.. Try to keep you perspective and your humour altho at times its tough.
If your DH is healthy and has never had mumps it really might be he just has a block - TESE plus ICSI works really well for peopel in your situation esp if you are fine!
Keep +ve and welcome!
Cazx
Poor you - I really feel for you. I wont lie you are in for a bit of a "ride" - I have put a long reply on the other chat you posted on - just remember that you are SO SO not alone - altho I am guilty of forgetting this from time to time as ALL my friends seem to be getting PG with no problems at alL!.. Try to keep you perspective and your humour altho at times its tough.
If your DH is healthy and has never had mumps it really might be he just has a block - TESE plus ICSI works really well for peopel in your situation esp if you are fine!
Keep +ve and welcome!
Cazx
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nicolamark
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hi nicolamark,
I hope my previous email have helped.Well,my husband had a joint attack of jaundice and typhoid and probably that's the reason.He was also given a low dosage of steroids in those days.I hope they find sperm in ur case thru biopsy.If they don't then probably it can be a genetic defect.hey nicolamark and hubby....you are entering a journey which is a rollercoaster of emotions...be prepared for any results...positive or negative.Whenever u get an unfavourable result....just talk and cry if u want to and think..."What next?".Right now,Just take it one step at a time.Keep posting on this website as u will have more knowledge than the clinics will provide u with.Let's all be together in this....
Luv,
Miracle
I hope my previous email have helped.Well,my husband had a joint attack of jaundice and typhoid and probably that's the reason.He was also given a low dosage of steroids in those days.I hope they find sperm in ur case thru biopsy.If they don't then probably it can be a genetic defect.hey nicolamark and hubby....you are entering a journey which is a rollercoaster of emotions...be prepared for any results...positive or negative.Whenever u get an unfavourable result....just talk and cry if u want to and think..."What next?".Right now,Just take it one step at a time.Keep posting on this website as u will have more knowledge than the clinics will provide u with.Let's all be together in this....
Luv,
Miracle
It's going to be ok in the end.Even if it's not ok....IT"S NOT THE END!!!
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nicolamark
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hi miracle!!
Yes I know about hte roller coaster!! I have allready started the journey. It began when I first came off the pill!! If I knew then what I know now, I wouldnt of gone on the pill!! As I wouldnt of ever got pg either, I even remember taking the morning after pill once, makes ya laugh dont it!!!!
Lol!!
Oh yeah, You learn so much off the internet!!
Thanks miracle. Se ya soon! x x
Yes I know about hte roller coaster!! I have allready started the journey. It began when I first came off the pill!! If I knew then what I know now, I wouldnt of gone on the pill!! As I wouldnt of ever got pg either, I even remember taking the morning after pill once, makes ya laugh dont it!!!!
Lol!!
Oh yeah, You learn so much off the internet!!
Thanks miracle. Se ya soon! x x
hi nicolamark
I thought that I would talk to you on this post as you seem to be everywhere girl!
We have to pay for all our treatment because I already have a daughter from a previous relationship. My dh has raised her since she was 6 as his own, but we really need to do the baby thing together from birth if you know what I mean.
There were many reasons that we decided to use a donor. It had a lot to do with financial reasons, when you already have a child its difficult to find the sort of money that ivf requires. I also feel somewhat concerned about the amount of drugs that I will be pumping into myself with ivf. You put so much of yourself into fertility treatment and when it fails you feel as though your core has been ripped out and at the time I wasn't sure if I had the strength to handle ivf not working.
After our iui failed our consultant recomended ivf, so we thought that seeing as this was the route that we had to now follow we needed to find out once and for all if there was any sperm in there anywhere! The urologist says there's about a 50% chance and reading other peoples stories on this bb has made me feel quite encouraged.
We probably won't have the biopsy until may/june as we were a bit surprised to find out that it cost 1,450 at our clinic. We don't quite have that amount saved at the moment and I am reluctant to take on more debt.
I hope that everything goes alright for you at your app. Oooh by the way dh has no sperm because of mumps, we think.
All the best, tracy xxxx
I thought that I would talk to you on this post as you seem to be everywhere girl!
We have to pay for all our treatment because I already have a daughter from a previous relationship. My dh has raised her since she was 6 as his own, but we really need to do the baby thing together from birth if you know what I mean.
There were many reasons that we decided to use a donor. It had a lot to do with financial reasons, when you already have a child its difficult to find the sort of money that ivf requires. I also feel somewhat concerned about the amount of drugs that I will be pumping into myself with ivf. You put so much of yourself into fertility treatment and when it fails you feel as though your core has been ripped out and at the time I wasn't sure if I had the strength to handle ivf not working.
After our iui failed our consultant recomended ivf, so we thought that seeing as this was the route that we had to now follow we needed to find out once and for all if there was any sperm in there anywhere! The urologist says there's about a 50% chance and reading other peoples stories on this bb has made me feel quite encouraged.
We probably won't have the biopsy until may/june as we were a bit surprised to find out that it cost 1,450 at our clinic. We don't quite have that amount saved at the moment and I am reluctant to take on more debt.
I hope that everything goes alright for you at your app. Oooh by the way dh has no sperm because of mumps, we think.
All the best, tracy xxxx
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Hi Nicolamark
Just read your posts and just wanted to wish you adn your DH the very best. I know of this procedure he requires as I used to work at an IVF clinic (not as a nurse only admin!) It isn't as bad as it seems, the doctos know what they are doing and just remember why you and your DH are doing it.
I wish you all the best and hope to hear of the outcome very soon.
Keep your chin up!!!
Just read your posts and just wanted to wish you adn your DH the very best. I know of this procedure he requires as I used to work at an IVF clinic (not as a nurse only admin!) It isn't as bad as it seems, the doctos know what they are doing and just remember why you and your DH are doing it.
I wish you all the best and hope to hear of the outcome very soon.
Keep your chin up!!!
LOL Rhonda
Me 27yrs DH 29yrs
ttc 6yrs
WISH ALL GOODLUCK and HUGS (they do help sometimes!)
Me 27yrs DH 29yrs
ttc 6yrs
WISH ALL GOODLUCK and HUGS (they do help sometimes!)
HI there
Tracey - just to say - that my sis has one child with her DH and cant seem to have the secong (8 years on), for a combo of reasons. She has exactly the same view as you re filling yourself with loads of strange drugs and financing them, when you already have one child to think about.....so just to say . I can totally see where you are coming from on that one.
Anyway - just thought I'd chip in!
Cazxx
Tracey - just to say - that my sis has one child with her DH and cant seem to have the secong (8 years on), for a combo of reasons. She has exactly the same view as you re filling yourself with loads of strange drugs and financing them, when you already have one child to think about.....so just to say . I can totally see where you are coming from on that one.
Anyway - just thought I'd chip in!
Cazxx
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nicolamark
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Hi trace!
Didnt realise I was quite every where!! But there you go, I must be!! Only found this site last week, so fairly new, but it's the best site I have found by far and so many ppl are helping!
I think that when my dh has his biopsy, its gonna be june/july time, so near enough the the same time as ur dh. Is doesnt seem fair you have to pay for it, I dont get it??????
How old is you daughter?
Good Luck!! x x x
Thanks caz, I will look at "D I PALS" in a minute!!
Didnt realise I was quite every where!! But there you go, I must be!! Only found this site last week, so fairly new, but it's the best site I have found by far and so many ppl are helping!
I think that when my dh has his biopsy, its gonna be june/july time, so near enough the the same time as ur dh. Is doesnt seem fair you have to pay for it, I dont get it??????
How old is you daughter?
Good Luck!! x x x
Thanks caz, I will look at "D I PALS" in a minute!!