It's over.

Dagny · Post by **Dagny** » Mon Mar 01, 2004 8:27 pm

Hello Girls

This is the hardest post I have ever had to write and the worst time of my life.

On Thursday at 9.40 am after a totally unexpected 6 hour labour our beautiful, precious angel 'Katelyn' was born and lived for approx 5 minutes. She was so perfectly formed and so, so pretty. She had tiny fingers and toes and looked so peaceful. She took 3 to 4 breaths and slipped quietly away.

The shock we are in at the moment is indescribable and we are all trying to come to terms with it all. To add to all the hurt, today my milk kicked in and that pain is a constant reminder of what we have been through. The hospital were fantastic and took some lovely photos of Katelyn and made a memory book with her hand prints and foot prints. We had her blessed that day and spent the whole day with her in our arms. David and I have spent so long just hanging onto eachother for support.

It feels very odd not being pregnant anymore and I can still feel her little kicks inside me. We really can't believe this is happening to us and feel very angry that after all we have been through and what Katelyn has been through that we have this to deal with too. It's just not fair.

We got the preliminary results of the amnio today too which was bitter sweet as it looks like Katelyn didn't have a chromosone problem after all so the test was for nothing.

Each day proves another hurdle for us and looking forward is our only way. We miss our precious little girl so much and we hope that in time it will get easier for us. Katelyn's funeral will be next week and she will be buried at the the church where David and I married 4 years ago.

I am sorry for such terrible news as I know how fragile we all feel during these IVF pregnancies. Just remember everybody, never take anything for granted.

Look after yourselves and eachother.

Much love Dagny and David xx

Jules R · Post by **Jules R** » Mon Mar 01, 2004 8:49 pm

Dear Dagny and David,

I know it is of no consolation to you but I am in tears reading your post and writing this reply. It's hard to comprehend what you have been through and I am astounded at the strength that comes through in your post. You may not have known Katelyn for very long but she will always be your special little girl and you her very loving and caring parents.

We will be thinking of you next week when you bury your little angel.

Thinking of you both.

Love Juliet and Alan

SBROWN · Post by **SBROWN** » Mon Mar 01, 2004 9:14 pm

Oh Dagny.......

I dont come over this side much but have been popping over to see how you were doing........

I am so absolutely devastated for you and David..........I cannot find the words..............

what a loveley name, Katelyn............she is up with the angels now and I am sure will always be in your hearts..........

You have been so much support to everyone and your humour has kept me going........I wish there was something I could do to make things better......I will be thinking of you next week.........

Sending you areally bg hug
Sarah
xxxxxxxxxx

GB · Post by GB » Tue Mar 02, 2004 7:39 am

Dear Dagny and David
There are no words that I can add that will aptly console you on your shocking loss.....
Just know that I'm thinking of you lots and pray that things will brighten up for you in the near future.
May you just take strength and comfort in each other...and just put one foot forward at a time in coming to terms with it all.
We are all here for you.
Lotsa of luv and thinking of you lots.
Luv
Gila.

Dawn Blake · Post by **Dawn Blake** » Tue Mar 02, 2004 8:03 am

Dagny

I wish I could make it all better for you both at this tragically sad time. Thinking of you and hope, in time, it gets easier.

Lots of Love and a great big hug

D x

JackieT · Post by **JackieT** » Tue Mar 02, 2004 9:28 am

my dear dagny and david
i am so sorry, i too am in tears as i write this, and i cannot find any words except sorry.
you both are so devasted at the moment and there isnt anything anybody can say to help, but just know you are in our prayers as is katelyn.
i will be thinking of you next week and i pray for your strenght to get through this together.
love always
jackie xxx

helenlouise · Post by **helenlouise** » Tue Mar 02, 2004 9:42 am

I can think of no words to express my sorrow for you.
Rest in peace Katelyn.

helen

Dawn V · Post by **Dawn V** » Tue Mar 02, 2004 10:05 am

Dear Dagny & David

I too am in tears writing this. I can't believe life can be so cruel to put you through this.
Your beautiful little girl will always be with you and will be watching over you to help you through this horrendous time.
Thinking of you all
with much love
Dawn
xxxxxx

bertie · Post by **bertie** » Tue Mar 02, 2004 10:18 am

Dagny & David

I'm so sorry. Its a lovely name for a lovely little girl. Even though she was here for such a small space of time she will be in your hearts always.

Be strong for each other. Thinking of you both.

Luv Bertie xx

Dolly · Post by **Dolly** » Tue Mar 02, 2004 10:18 am

Dagny,

I'm struggling to find the words to tell you just how sorry I am to hear of your loss. Life is just so cruel.

I just wanted to let you know that I am thinking of you at this very sad time.

Love and hugs

Dolly

Tracey S · Post by **Tracey S** » Tue Mar 02, 2004 10:34 am

My dearest Dagny and David

Words fail me............... I was worried as I sent you a couple of emails and heard nothing but did not like to fear the worst - you know how I do.
I am here all the time for you - I know this is no consolation and I am crying writing this for you both and what you have lost. Unfortunately I know better than most what it is like to write this and what it is like to have milk kicking in and still feel that they are there but not............
She will always be with you just as Oliver is with me and will always be my most special boy and our most special child.
I wrote in my email to cling on to each other and not pull apart - this is what will get you through. Take the smallest steps at a time - I found just getting up and having a shower was an enormous achievement.
I was talking about you only yesterday to my midwife and am amazed at the courage you show and dignity and hope I did the same.
Drop me a line if you want all my phone numbers - it might be no help but it just might............ I have some idea of what you are going through and if I can help in anyway of course I will do so with all my love and support.
In the meantime I and Ian send you our heartfelt sympathy and empathy and wish but oh wish there had been a different end
Love
Tracey
xxx

SQUEW · Post by **SQUEW** » Tue Mar 02, 2004 11:09 am

My Dearest Dagny

I am crying as I type this, I dont know what to say, I am so so sorry.
I am sending you and David all my and Robs love. Life is so cruel sometimes.

Lots of love

Sue xxx

vickib · Post by **vickib** » Tue Mar 02, 2004 11:44 am

Dear Dagney & David

Words cannot express the sorrow I feel for you both.

Your beautiful Katelyn will always be with you.

With deepest sympathy.

Vicki

Juliana · Post by **Juliana** » Tue Mar 02, 2004 12:31 pm

Dearest Dagny,
my own words seem meangingless to me in the face of what you've been through. I am writing with tears in my eyes and all i can say is that your wonderful girl will live in my memories too. and you and David are in my thoughts...there is so much greif but also you have each other's love and your love for Katelyn. Being with each other and close to each other must be the only meaningful thing right now. i admire your strength so much and send you my deepest sympathy and love!
juliana
XXXXX

DebraP · Post by **DebraP** » Tue Mar 02, 2004 12:41 pm

Dagny & David,

I am so, so sorry at your loss. Katelyn will never be forgotten and will always be a very special part of your lives.

Thank you for sharing your news, there are many of us who have been worrying about you and praying for the best.

I'm so sorry this has happened. Take special care of yourselves.

love
Debra.

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