The Over 40 Crowd

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Hi all,

OK, I am back from the chiropractor’s place and it was very gentle procedure. The chiropractor said she performed this on numerous women and only one whose baby did not turn quick enough and she delivered two days after her treatment. After that, I put a pack of ice on the top of my belly to try to cool the baby’s head to go down. In the night, I think I felt his head was down but only know more tomorrow after I will see an ob again at 38 weeks check up. Will go back to see the chiropractor again on Friday.

Thanks Catharine,

For your positive vibes. I heard external cephalic version is a very painful procedure and I am certainly not looking forward to it...

My cervix was still very long and I was only 1.5 cm dilated last time they checked so it is unlikely that our DS will be born anytime soon.

Hi to everyone else here, back to work now, have to get something done before the baby shows up!

Yasmina

[mrscutter]

Hi everyone,
Sorry I haven't been on. I am so nauseated. Its horrible. I finally got some meds approved after 3 calls from the doctor. However the Zophran is not helping. I am so sick i dont know what to do. I am still bleeding. The doctor is guessing at whatever that thing is in my tube. She honestly is not sure. She said I cannot go back to work. been out almost two weeks now. Not good. at this rate i wont have any time left after the baby is born. family medical leave act guarantees my job for only 12 weeks and unfortunately my employers dont care. I am worried about it. I need my insurance. I called my doc today and told her to go ahead and send me to the high risk doc and she said they wont take me til i am 11 weeks. Thursday i will be 8 weeks. The ultrasound show the baby is growing and doing fine but where is the bleeding coming from. my doc is waiting to see what happens. well i dont want to wait til the tube burst and i end up in the surgery. she said it the thing in the tube doens't go away on its on or gets bigger then i will go to surgery and the chance of this healthy baby making it through that is slim. What a mess. I dont like just waiting on a disaster to happen.

I have got to do something about the nausea. I can't even brush my teeth, i hate to smell toast cooking i hate to smell anything. im dyiing. have any of you tried the sea bands? or accupuncture bands? did they work. I have tried everything else please dont tell me to drink ginger tea, im about to throw up just typing that.

I hope you all are doing well. sorry im not on top of everything you all are going through, its all i can do right now to type this.

Take care.
Rhonda

[Catharine]

Rhonda-
My imagination falls short of what you must be going through. Pretend that I have a soft, soothing voice as you read this. I know that things appear dire. Try to divert your attentions to the positive, like your precious cargo. Are you getting plenty of liquids [esp vomiting]? we need mama to stay hydrated. I'm glad the insurance company finally came through w/r/t the meds. Have you tried ginger altoids or ginger candies for the nausea? I see ginger tea is not worth it. A girl friend of mine swore by the sea sickness bracelets you speak of. I'm afraid I did not suffer as you. Yasmina may have better insight on these matters. I believe she had ms pretty much through both her pgs.

Good news your little peanut sounds like she is thriving. I know it is hard but push the thought of the possible gowth in your tube out of your mind. I want you to know that there have been women who have had vaginal bleeding in their first trimester and have gone on to have healthy babies. If you believe in the power of the mind focus on the healthy development of your precious son or daughter. Visualize their heart devolping, beating, the elongation of their spine, the limbs prepping to bud forth from their body. Listen to some relaxing, calming music.

Don't worry about work at this point, take care of yourself and that precious cargo. Everything will work out in the long run.

I pray that the bleeding resolves itself and so too the possible growth within your tube. I hear the anxiety within your written words, know that I am here thinking of and praying for you, your DH and your precious cargo.

Take Care
Catharine

[teachertam]

Rhonda,

I'm so sorry to hear that you are going through such a rough time.
I never had an morning sickness with my pregnancy, so I have no advice to offer. I totally agree with Catharine. Do not worry about your job right now.
You need to just take care of yourself and your baby right now. I will be keeping you in my prayers as well.

Take care,
Tammy

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Rhonda,

I had constant and persistent "morning" sickness in both pgs, starting from 6 weeks to 32 weeks or so. I had constant food aversion and occasional vomiting. I had to take Vitamins right after meal to avoid vomiting. I ate minimal amount of food to avoid dehydration and starvation. At very early stages, I sometimes had to eat crackers before getting out of the bed...However, I did not use medication, I suffered through the whole time hating all kinds of food!

According to your description, I think your morning sickness is less manageable than mine. This means that your baby is healthy - many scientists believe morning sickness is good for pg women because it keeps you from eating bad food to poison your unborn child. Your previous two pgs were also quite difficult, and you know already you can get through this...wish I could be more helpful, but in my case, the only thing help was time...

I am actually more concerned about the growing mass in your tube. What is that, is that another fetus? Could your dr inject something to stop its growing locally to help it resolves so that you won't have to worry about the potential surgery? I really wish you don't have to go through all these. My thoughts are with you...


Here is my update,

I had a surprise quick u/s scan to have a make sure that our DS is head down! The ob who examed me felt he was but he just wanted to confirm with u/s which I don't complain!! Now, VBAC birth plan is back on and I won't need to go to L&D at 39 weeks for that dreadful external cephalic version anymore! BTW, I prefer this new ob much more than mine, he is open minded, pleasant, young and handsome...my own ob is also handsome and talented, but just not very communicative with me, he seemed much too calm and too cold.

I don't know what helped the baby to turn though, just like I did not know why he turned from head down to transverse between 36 weeks to 37 weeks. Now, maybe he just decided to turn back. Or maybe the chiropractor did a good job, or the ice pack cooled his head down, or visualization, or some other crazy stretches that I did at home...now I just hope that he won't turn back to transverse and stay head down from now on...

We also hired a doula to help me through this process. Our DD came to the world 4 days prior to her due day, I wish our DS does not decide to stay that long, we will see...

Take care, everyone!

[Catharine]

Yasmina-wonderful news that DS appears to be couperating with your VBAC plan. Any day now ya'll will get to meet him. I'm so happy for you. Oddly I find myself reminescing over my first few weeks with DD. Wishing you your DH and DD all the best these last few days waiting DS arrival.

Rhonda-how are you? I'm still sending out positive calming vibes your way.

All is well here. DD had a rough night last night in that she was awake, not cranky just awake. So we watched the Australian Open. I think she enjoyed the repetitive noise of the matches. She sleeps now, but will wake her to get her on a schedule more suitable to my sleep habits.

TGIF everyone. Have a great weekend.
Catharine

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Thanks, Catharine,

It's getting closer and closer... I had very nice swim this morning and felt great after that. Now I am waiting the signals of birthing...

Take care, everyone here!

Yasmina

[garfieldtracy]

Hey everyone,

Yasmina - just counting the days with you. Hope you have an easy delivery.
Rhonda - I can't even imagine what you are going through. I just hope it gets better and turns out all good in the end. Try and keep you spirits up.

Hi to Catherine, Tammy, and everyone else out there.


Sorry for not posting in awhile - just feel like I am on a roller coaster these past couple of weeks. Vacation was great - warm weather was the best part. I brought along the good ol' OV kit and it never went +. Actually it never went + for the entire month. I tried to space out DH and our "fun" since I was waiting for it go + and then get more of DH's swimmers. So needless to say I am extremely disappointed that we will not be PG this month. I am suppose to get AF in the next couple of days and the cramps are already here. Also, since I've been back I have gone to 2 funnerals. Thought I would be OK, but I just kept thinking about Scott. We also just got the autopsy result back. The conclusion was that it was the placenta (it was small and had some small blood clots) - there was nothing wrong with Scott. There is no way to "measure" the placenta, but they can do tests to check the flow between mom and baby. It is good to know what is the cause, but sad to know that if we could have done a C-section at 35 weeks and we would have our baby with us.
So, I go from thinking about being PG and having a baby end of this year to the fact that I have to get PG again. I am back to being scared it won't work again. Anyway, I have been reading the posts and figure there were more pressing issues from others then this one. I have gone from extremely happy to really depressed multiple times this past week. UGH!!

Thanks for listening.
Tracy

[teachertam]

Yasmina: I bet you can't wait to deliver your bundle of joy. I remember when I was in the last two weeks of my pregnancy I could not get any sleep, as I kept having to pee every 20 minutes or so.

Tracy: I'm so sorry to hear that your ovulation kit did not work during your vacation and that you have been depressed. You went through a lot and will have times when you are not feeling top notch. I can't imagine going through what you did.

Hello to Catharine, Rhonda, Natasha and anyone that I may have missed.

Tammy

[garfieldtracy]

Well - make that 3 funerals - another friend just called and his mom just passed away this morning. She has been really sick for the last week and it was expected, buuuuut still - my best friend's uncle, my other friend's mom, and a co-worker. I need good news.

Yasmina - When can we hear about the wonderful arrival. Keep us posted so we can get some "happy" news.

Tracy

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Hi Tracy,

Welcome back from your vacation. I am guessing that you will soon need another one to a cold and snowy place to ski, I found skiing is quite effective to get rid of depression. Of course, I don't mean that you are seriously depressed. I believe you can pick yourself up pretty well. I have to say again that I truly admire your strength! I was just thinking about your situation the other day and was wondering how you are doing now. I think that you understand how anxious that I am about my own pregnancy. No one can predict she can make it all the way to the end and each day is a milestone for us preggos. My friend who has exactly the same due day as mine had already her DD in the arms a week ago! Boy, I had enough of waiting! I started some accupressure to encourage the labor, but no signs yet. Still waiting...

Can you skip some funerals? Just send your card with the condolences if you could, but sometimes I found the fact going to a funeral is more comforting than not attending the funeral. We had few funerals to attend last year also, one of them was our Dept. Chief's which was very difficult one. But I felt better after that, although I suffered from mild depression for almost two months by his sudden death!

Tammy,

Yes, I needed to go to use the toilet quite often (every hour) and I had almost entire month now without much of sleep. I need some strength to try VBAC which requires sleep! DD decides to wake up in the middle of the night at least once per night now. But fortunately, her father is the one that she wants. The problem is she is becoming so lovely and I feel so sorry that my big belly is in the way, I would love to be able to hold her in my chest to sleep again...

Catharine,

Hope will be joining you soon to discuss the first few weeks of infant attending. It will be a new experience to me again since I did not have a boy before and he might be very different from DD. Has your DD started to sleep long stretch at nights now? DD started to do that at her 7th week and then regressed a little. I think she in general was a good sleeper at nights. I don't remember attending her that much after we moved her out of our room, which was 5 month or so. Hope you get your beauty sleep soon.

Rhonda,

How are you doing? Thinking of your and your little one.

Natasha,

How are you holding up with your 2 ww? When will be the big day to know? Good luck!

Everyone else here,

Take care.

Yasmina

[Catharine]

Hey all-
I've been busy trying to get out and about to avoid the cabin fever blues.

Yasmina looking forward hearing the news of DS's arrival. Have you tried lots of walking to encourage his entrance into his new world. I've been thinking about your DD and awakenings at night. I suspect it's having the 'strangers' in her house. Perhaps she can hear the 'new' sounds at night and needs comfort that no harm will come to her. If this is the case, time is the answer for her to get used to the new sounds and to feel secure. Of course this from a mom of a 12 week old right

Our DD is doing well; growing with each day mentally and physically. She is sleeping better at night. Okay call me crazy, I really miss her early weeks as a true new born. I mean I miss it to the point of thinking of that second child.

Rhonda-thinking of you and your precious cargo. Positive mental images of your babies growth.

Hello to everyone else.

Catharine

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Catharine,

Thanks for the advice in DD's wakes in the nights. I suspected the same thing. On the top of everything, my father is a big snorer and a frequent visitor to the toilet in the nights. This may wakes DD up. She had few nights peace in the past month and I do hope she will get used to the noise from the other room quickly.

Still no signs of contraction. I don't even know what HB feels like, call me stupid...the baby does not have much room to move anymore. Will update tomorrow after seeing another ob.

Take care, everyone!

Yasmina

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Well, just got back from ob's office and no progress since last time, the baby's head stays down, but dilation becomes 0.5 cm instead of 1.5 cm as I was told. Will need to see ob again 1 week later, which will be 1 day after the due day. I guess I will need to have some serious walks to do...

[Catharine]

Greetings!

Checking in to see how you lovely ladies are doing?

Yasmina- any news? DS is he here?

Rhonda-still thinking positive thoughts for you.

Hello to everyone else.

All is well here. DD is going through one of the 'wonder' weeks, aka fussy weeks. I'll be happy once it's through.

Thinking of ya'll.

Cheers!
Catharine