Please read, my DH and I are considering suing my OB

[angelaezra]

I have a question for everyone:

I recently lost my daughter at 20 weeks (stillbirth). I went to my follow-up appoinment today and they believe that I suffered from a Placenta Aburption. Ok, so this is my problem and question. The week before they realized she had no heart beat, I went in the office for my 19 week follow-up and I told the OB that I had severe pain the night before and I mean pain to the point that I couldn't move or walk and they had a really hard time finding her heartbeat. My husband had to help me to the bed and when I told my OB he brushed me off and said that it was normal uterine growth. But, I told him that it wasn't because I couldn't even walk, which was so abnormal from my normal strecthing symptoms. But, he chose to ignore me and send me on my merry way. Also, my sister had severe complications because he blew my sister off and he son has suffered the consequences. Ok so when I brought this up to his parnter she got PIS*** and said I am not responsible for your babies death nor is my partner. I couldn't believe my ears. My baby is dead and YOU ARE PIS***!!!!! Then I said I am not going in this pregnancy blindly I have had 1 miscarriage, 1 ectopic pregnancy, and now vanishing twins ending with a stillbirth and to top it off I am a Registered Nurse so I know the complications and the risks but he should have known my history and my symptoms and have done a ultrasound and then put me on bedrest. She said, well there is nothing that could have been done since she was not viable at 20 weeks. But, I know plenty of women who the same situtation ocurred and bedrest did the trick in 90% of the time but my daughter was still worth the effort.

Please tell me your thoughts. My husband and I are considering legal action!! If I can prevent this from happening to other women, it is worth it. I wouldn't wish this on my worse enemy!!!!!

[BIGREDIOWAN]

I have no advice on what you should do just thought I would comment real quick. My wife and I had to almost twist our doctors arm to give us an ultrasound at her 14 week checkup. Then he basically forced us to have genetic testing done, even though we didn't want to. Fortunately, everything is fine with the twins right now and thankfully he's not our regular doctor as he was out of town. The thing that pisses me off about these doctors is they won't listen at times. By god if I want you to do an ultrasound you're going to do an ultrasound come hell or high water. If this type of behavior happens again, they are going to have one pissed off daddy on their hands!

Your doctors inability to recognize the signs that were very apparent is inexcusible! Also, the other doctor that replied so rudely to you needs to be taught some manner and tact with a touchy situation. I'd be very upset if I was in your shoes and you may want to actually talk with a lawyer first and tell him/her your story and they can decide if you have a case or not.

[angelaezra]

Thank you so much for your post and your support. My DH and I are thinking everything over very carefully. I just want to prevent his from happening to someone else if possible. Now that I am looking into the situation, we are discovering other signs and symptoms that were missed and ignored.

[momtobetobe]

I am so sorry this happened to you. You might want to contact a lawyer and see if they will take it on as a contingency case. But the problem will be that it will take your focus off of trying again. Lawsuits take over your life. Clearly no one will argue that you shouldn't be with a doc that specializes in high risk pregnancies if you try again. I'm so sorry that Ashley is not with you.