Discussion forum for those who had completed their IVF treatments without a successful outcome and are seeking other options such as adoption, surrogacy etc.
OK, I thought I'd get into bossy mode again(!), and make some suggestions for the 25th. I think Grace, Rachael, Lou and Luce can all make it, and Jen should be able to join us by 3pm. How about meeting at about 2pm for a late lunch, where Jen can join us? If we didn't fancy going to the Pitcer and Piano again we could go to Browns restuarant, which is about 2 mins from where we went before on, I think, St Martins Lane. It does pastas and salads and more substantial stuff as well as snackier things, and does food all day, so if we're there a while we can always move from lunch to afternoon tea! These were just a couple of thoughts though - if you have other ideas do say so!
Really looking forward to seeing you all, and if there are any other "life afters" reading this do come along.
Alison you are not being bossy....just practical, which is a very good thing indeed!!
I think your idea of meeting at Browns sounds great. I am not sure what time I will be able to get there though. Will be at work in the morning and then have to get home and walk Oscar etc so it will be more like 2.30 before I could be there.
Really looking forward to seeing everyone. Hope you are all doing okay.
I know you are not sure where we are talking about Rachel but it is only a few minutes from Leicester Square tube station. Will work out better directions for you later in the week. Are you coming to London by train?
Hope everyone can still make and will chat again soon.
Love
Gracex
It looks like I won't be able to get away as early as I would like next Thursday so it will be about 3ish for me.
I checked Browns address out Alison, you are right it is on St Martin's lane nos 82-84. I stuck "Browns Restaurant" into Google and it came up with their web site. There is also a little map which shows exactly where it is.
The address is www.browns-retaurants.com
It looks like a great meeting place.
Hope everyone can still make it.
How is everyone doing? I have been okay. Due to my mother-in law dying and eveything that we are dealing with I have n't had alot of time to foucs on IVF and every thing else that goes with it. I have had a bit of a down couple of days though over the past week or so. Felt really tearful in work today for no reason really. I know AF is due in a day or two and do suffer from pmt but just feel pretty horrible. I am having those sort of "where is my life heading" thoughts, I am sure most of you will know what I mean. Anyway, just wanted to get it off my chest so to speak!
I will chat to you again soon, in the mean time will try and pull myself together!!!( only joking but I felt one of my colleagues was more or less saying that to me today as mascara was running down my face and was sniffing into my hanky)
Love to all
Gracexx
Hi Everyone,
Browns sounds like a good choice Alison. I have had a look at train times and I should be with you between 2 & 2.30 pm.
Grace, I did try your map thanks but it didn't work?! I think I kind of know where St Martins lane is so I will just get my A-Z out! Sorry that you have been having a few "down" days. I hate that "where is my life going if I can't have a baby" question!! At the moment I am not even going there!! Your colleague sounds as though they don't have a clue! Well why would they I suppose, as we have said before the only people who really get it are the girls on here!
I have been feeling slightly better mainly I think because spring is in the air, it's amazing what a bit of sun can do! I have also started to have reflexology, only had 1 session so far but will be able to tell you more next week as I have another on Monday.
Looking forward to seeing you all,
Take Care, Love Rach
Am looking forward to next week but thought I'd put my 2 pennies in for you Grace.
Don't worry about having a few down days, you're entitled to them, and I think your colleague who implied you should just pull yourself together is frankly clueless (sorry, bit harsh I know, but it's said with a big smile on my face!) We all have our good and bad days - I too try to fill my time so that there isn't really any focus on all this stuff, but now and again something comes along to trigger the wobbles, tears, anger etc...and sometimes those things happen without an apparent trigger too. I think it's perfectly natural to have the 'where is my life heading' thoughts - you wouldn't be human if you didn't! Hang in there, it's only a week till our get together where we can have a laugh/cry/moan etc and know that we all understand each other.
Don't know about the rest of you girlies, but can't say I'm looking forward to Sunday much - although the prospect of next Thurs helps to cheer me up.
Enough of my meaningless drivel. Am off to clean the bathroom - Pete is away and I can't think of anything else to do with my evening (sad or what) so I might as well do something useful!
Hi gang - well done Grace for finding the details! I know Jen said she couldn't get there before 3pm either, so why don't we reckon on meeting from 2.30pm, and eat once we're all together (in the meantime we can get going on the wine!)
Anyway, main reason for writing now was to agree absolutely with Luce about Sunday. Last mother's day I was on the 2ww and AF arrived that day - after what had been my best ever cycle and when I was so sure it would work. This year though I am being brave and inviting Mum and Dad round for lunch - I really don't think Mum has any idea though that mothers day is no longer about me being her daughter but about me not being a mum. Anyway, nuff ranting - I am so looking forward to next week. Jen, Lou, hope you're around too and looking forward to seeing you again. Also Becky, Lorraine and everyone else who "lurks" here - do come and join us!
Hi! Girls,
great idea to meet at Brown's. Am sure I will find it. Hectic at the mo, move to Devon 2 weeks on Tuesday. I cannot believe it. Quite nervous and excited too. Still not got a job down there. Really looking forward to catching up. Will hope to join you sometime in the afternoon between 2.30 - 3.30pm.
Lou
I had a good cry in the morning thinking of what might have been and then pulled myself together and took my mum & dad out to lunch which was actually very nice. Anyway we can all give a sigh of relief that it is over for another year!!
Have just been out to walk Ruby and down came the rain, early April showers I guess, it had been so nice & sunny. She is 14 weeks now & has developed an unfortunate habit of doing a poo right at the start of her walk so that I have to carry a smelly bag round with me for the duration! This morning she did it right in the entrance of someones drive which was a bit embarassing!!
Before we met on Thursday I should come clean and tell you that when I first posted on this site 2+ yrs ago I really didn't want anyone to know that I was doing IVF and so I used my sisters name instead of mine. My name is actually Amanda! I hope this is not too confusing but as we are all meeting up it seemed right to say!
This afternoon I am off to be measured up for a bridesmaid dress for my sisters wedding. Her wedding is on 24th July, which was my due date and also the date of my first miscarriage, isn't that just typical! Still it will be her big day and I won't let myself be down, she is one of my biggest supports with all of this.
Looking forward to Thursday, it can be our special day for women who strive to be mums (a much more difficult job!!).