November 2009 babies?

[excited-in-la]

Hi everyone.

Aims327 Welcome and congrats!

Nicole Good luck tomorrow - we will be sending good thoughts.

Nancy So glad everything is healthy! We had a moment like that a few weeks ago and it sucked!

We unfortunately had a tough night. We went to the perinatologist and learned that the heartbeat on our second just stopped. We knew it was behind and that the chances were not great, but it is still hard. It was a little fighter and made it all the way to 10 weeks (the doctor said that normally pregnancies like this would stop by 8 weeks, so he had some hope). This is the pregnancy that they had told me died at 5 weeks, but then they found a heartbeat at 6 weeks. It has been a rollercoaster. The other baby is looking great - a really strong heartbeat that we got to hear and seemingly in great shape!

I do actually have some calm and feel like we now know where we stand and can get to the business of being excited about this pregnancy rather than the constant roller coaster of the last month!

The doctor said the second pregnancy will just dissolve and will not in any way affect baby A. I am also glad that the heart stopped on its own rather than having to reduce, which could cause infection and risk the good pregnancy.

We cannot do the first trimester testing now because it would show problems because of the chromosomal problems they suspect with the second pregnancy. We are not going to do CVS either, as it would likely show false problems and could put the good pregnancy in some jeopardy. So we go in next week for the 11 week ultrasound and neck measurement to test for Down's (did I get the test right?) Then we will do our next big testing with an amnio at 16 weeks.

I have had two previous miscarriages, so this is the third baby we have lost in the last year. It is pretty devastating. I do feel very blessed that I still have a viable prenancy.

Thank you all for listening and for being such great support. I think my husband thinks I am crazy to have these "on-line" friends, but you all are lifesavers!

Be well, get good news this week and avoid vomitting (no more for me, just constant nausea)!

[nursegator]

excited: I am so so sorry for your loss. You sound like you're in a really good place right now, but I know that it still has to hurt to have so much loss. Do whatever you need to do to pamper yourself. I am so glad that the other baby is so strong and is doing well!

Nicole: GL on your ultrasound tomorrow! We will all think positive for you, to counteract any negativity you may be feeling.

Nancy: OMG, how horrible and wonderful at the same time! How wonderful that you heard wrong. I think sometimes pregnancy brain plays tricks on us. I know I'm having the weirdest dreams lately!

aims327: Welcome, fellow multiples mommy!

wondercat: thanks for the carseat info. You're right, at least it would put off buying a bigger vehicle for a little while.

aspot: congrats on the twins! Are they each in their own sacs or are they sharing?

Had another ultrasound today. All three of them looked like they were dancing away, or in the case of the identical twins- that they were punching and kicking each other. We're calling them Rock'em, Sock'em and Busta. One of the pictures clearly shows facial features, fingers and everything. Very, very exciting. The identical twins measure a little smaller than the fraternal twin, since they share a placenta and are competing for nutrients. RE was not concerned, however, that they are a little behind since they are both the same size. All had good strong heartbeats too!

Felt almost normal today-- maybe I'm done with the nausea at 10 weeks? Or maybe just wishful thinking.

Hi to anyone I missed!!

[ianmichael3]

excited in la: I'm so sorry to hear your news. A loss is a loss and devastating at any given time. I'm thankful you still have a viable pregnancy and hope, God willing, I will find out I have one today too.

Thanks to everyone for all the positive thoughts, I need 'em!

XOXO,
will post as soon as I can after my u/s..... hopefully I'll get an official due date!

[aspotofTea]

oh Excited, I'm so sorry for your loss. I am very glad that your other little one is doing well and looking healthy.

Nancy, wow. I probably might have fallen off the stupid table they make us sit up on! I'm SOOOO glad you heard that wrong!

aims, welcome and congrats on the twins!

nursegator, glad that everyone is doing well

so nicole has her appt today, and Charr, you have one Friday right? Anxious to see your posts ladies. Hope all is well.

my beans are in their own sacs. I'm feeling surprisingly well. I bought my first pairs of maternity pants this week, and man, what a relief! I'm only 9 weeks, and it isn't too visible, but none of my jeans were fitting anymore!

[SueQiwi]

Excited in LA~I am so sorry to hear about Baby B. What horrible news after a long month of worrying and hoping. Thank goodness Baby A is thriving--I am so happy to hear that! Big hug for you. Hang in there and be strong for Baby A (it sounds like you already are a very strong person.)

nancy~I think my mind plays tricks on me too--I can totally relate to the mistaken translation of your Dr! Thank goodness all is well with the baby. I think us IVF Mums are just an understandably paranoid bunch as we have all gone through so much and made such sacrifices to get to this point! But rest assured we are all creeping slowly and surely further along in our pregnancies and closer to holding our babies!

I have my Nuchal scan tomorrow--for Down's Syndrome. I am scared to death! I just hope all is well with my baby. I am so scared of having the missed miscariage where the heart stops beating. And I am so scared of Down's s I am an older Mum and chances are higher! I will be so relieved (hopefully) once this scan is over. I just hope everything is ok.

[ianmichael3]

'qiwi': All my thoughts and prayers will be with you tomorrow! How far along are you?

Ok, I guess I'll be officially dropping from this thread and hopping over to the December '09 babies thread, b/c my bebe's got a strong heartbeat and is measuring RIGHT ON the nose! 7 weeks 6 days! YAY! Official due date is December 3, 2009.

I'll keep an eye on you all though, in the event I end up going into labor in the later part of November!

XOXO to all!

[nancy1]

Good luck to allyou ladies who have u/s /s this week!

Exchited: I am sorry for your loss. I too lost one of the twins at week 6 and don't worry, it did not affect the other twin a bit.

SueQIWI: Good luck on your test. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.

Take care ladies.
Nancy

[Wondercat]

SueQiwi - I'm glad you said it first that you are worried about a missed miscarriage. It has been three weeks since my last u/s and I still have exactly 2 more to go before the next one, and that is exactly what I am worried about! I'm still trying to decide how much testing I want done for things like Downs. I have heard too many stories about false positives. My boss told me that her sister had two pregnancies that showed a high(er) risk of the baby having Downs. The first one she decided to terminate. The second one she didn't... and her daughter is fine. So she has had doubts and regrets ever since about that first one.

[charr]

Excited - So sorry for your loss. We, too, lost one of our twins and I still find myself thinking about it at times.

Aims - Welcome and congratulations!

SueQiwi - Good luck with the Nuchal scan. Let us know how it goes. I have mine next Thursday and am nervous as well. I do look forward to the ultrasound though and being able to see how our baby has developed.

I will be 12 weeks this coming Sunday. I can't believe it's already been 3 months! My pants are also getting too tight. I work from home so luckily I've been able to just be wearing my sweatpants during the day. Can't live in them forever though I guess! Has anybody had any strange cravings yet? I really haven't although I have been wanting to eat a lot more fruit.

[excited-in-la]

Thanks for everyone's good wishes.

Nicole So glad the U/S went well! And congrats on the due date!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Something tells me you might still be a Nov. Mom, so don't be a stranger.

SueQiwi Good luck with the Nuchal scan. Mine is next week and I am really nervous.

Charr Good luck tomorrow!

I know the wait for the next u/s can be really hard, but I am feeling in the other boat. Since we found out we were pregnant, I have had two scans almost every week and that will likely continue for weeks more. They are no longer fun - I dread going and hearing what news is next. Don't get me wrong, it is always thrilling to see and hear the heartbeat, but it is almost like modern medicine gives us too much. When he was telling me the second heartbeat stopped on Tuesday, my doctor said "If this were your mom delivering, she would have known she was pregnanct, popped out a healthy baby in November and been ecstatic. She would have never known there was a twin or been through the roller coaster you have been through. I don't know if we are helping or hurting." So back we go next week...

[nancy1]

Hi ladies,

are you guys experiencing very mild spotting once in a while too? I know it's quite common, especially with IVF, but every time, its a reminder of my miscarriage of myh twin! ughhhhhhhhh!!!!
I was due to stop my progesterone capsules this past Sunday, then I asked my regular OB to whom I am now transferred if I should continue them since I had spotting. He said that I could if I wanted to, but not more than week 12. He said, it's not going to prevent a miscarriage anyhow, but when women stop them then miscarry the next day, that's what they attribute it to. Well, of course that's not logical because it can just be pure coincidence.
Anyhow, just needed to vent, and who else can I do it to than you guys, right? :-)

Take care guys.
Nancy

[Wondercat]

excited-in-la - I know going in for that many ultrasounds can be rough. My sister had two high-risk pregnancies and by the end of 9 months she was ready to scream if she ever saw one of those screens again. What an insensitive comment for your doctor to make - if you were your mother you most likely wouldn't be pregnant. Try to focus on that positive part of it, and I'll try to focus on the positive side of not having too many ultrasounds!

Nancy - I had some spotting too, though not for a while now. I stopped my progesterone over a week ago and haven't noticed anything different since then. Except that my butt is slowly recovering from all the trauma...

[charr]

Today was my appt. with our OB. He tried first to see if he could hear the heartbeat. After some time of not being able to locate a heartbeat, he said he'd be back with the ultrasound machine. I, of course, was feeling pretty worried by then. But right away when the image of the baby came on screen, we could see the baby moving its arms and legs. What an incredible thrill that was!! He then tried again to listen for the heartbeat and found it. It was beating at 164 bpm. So I'm feeling pretty happy having gotten an unexpected ultrasound and hearing the heartbeat. Now I won't go back to the OB again for 4 weeks. But next week is my appt. with the specialist for the NT scan.

SueQiwi - How did your NT scan go? Hope all is well.

[SueQiwi]

Thank you all for the good wishes. Thank goodness my nuchal scan went well! It was so amazing to see the baby this time as it has arms, legs, feet, head, hands and even fingers now! It looks like a little person and not just a jelly bean with a hearthbeat. He/she was bopping around in there waving arms and legs!

They measure the nuchal fold and she told me it looked nice and thin (Down's babies have a thick space in the fold) and the baby also has already started growing a brow bone--so that is also a good sign that it doesn't have Down's also. But they can't guarentee for sure from this test and my age is a risk--but I feel soooooooooo relieved! And so happy the baby was thriving in there.

I finally told my Mum I am pregnant! I have been so paranoid of something bad happening I haven't told anybody. But now I feel more confidant.

[charr]

SueQiwi - That is really great news on the nuchal scan! Isn't that so neat to see the baby moving around!