Hello Girls - Some of you will know me and some of you wont.
I lost my baby daughter Katelyn 3 weeks ago at 24 weeks PG and I am still reeling in shock and grief. I hope to be coming back over to this side at some stage when I can face going through it all again for the 4th time. Doing IVF is like being on a rollercoaster and unfortunately mine crashed!
The reason for my post is this. I have written to Dr Marcus about having a new forum for us girls who have lost their babies either from miscarriage to Neonatal or Stillbirth. He is happy to add a new forum and had asked me to find out what we would like to name it. It has to be in the same format as the other forum names like 'Life after IVF' etc. I personally feel that a separate forum would be better than discussing it on this forum when everyone is either just starting treatment or thinking about it. IVF is a stressful time for us all and I for one feel that discussing these sad times on the General Forum it should be positive, supportive and happy. I am sure you will agree.
The support I got from some of you when Katelyn died was wonderful. But, I know it upset a lot of people too and that's what made me think of starting this new forum. Our babies will never be forgotten and we can remember them on their own forum when their special dates come round each year.
I have put this idea past Tracey S and she agrees with me that having a separate board to keep our precious babies memories alive (Katelyn and Oliver) and a place to get help and support is a very good idea. I think FF has got one but not sure.
Possible names are:
Babies - Loved and Lost
Treasured Memories
In Memorium
Any other ideas will be much appreciated. I will let Marcus know as soon as we have come up with a name. I have posted on the PG after treatment board and will post on the Life after IVF board too.
Thanks for listening and hope to hear some suggestions soon.
Love Dagny xx
Ideas please?
Ideas please?
Me 38 DH 40
1st 2nd & 4th IVF/ICSI -ve
3rd +ve DD Katelyn born @ 24wks & sadly died
5th +ve m/c 9wks
6th +ve Twins Sadly DD Leah stillborn @20wks and DS Kieran born @22wks but sadly died too
7th +ve - DD Chloë Mae born @38wks our precious miracle
1st 2nd & 4th IVF/ICSI -ve
3rd +ve DD Katelyn born @ 24wks & sadly died
5th +ve m/c 9wks
6th +ve Twins Sadly DD Leah stillborn @20wks and DS Kieran born @22wks but sadly died too
7th +ve - DD Chloë Mae born @38wks our precious miracle
What a fab Idea , not actually gone through this trauma thank god, but it is a great idea to have a new forum I like :
Treasured Memories
How are you holding up ? I have been thinking of you every day .
Trace x
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Treasured Memories
How are you holding up ? I have been thinking of you every day .
Trace x
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1st cycle own eggs Neg
2nd cycle own eggs Neg
3rd cycle cousins eggs Neg
4th cycle unknown donor eggs Neg
Going to have sisters eggs Feb 06
NEVER GIVE UP!
2nd cycle own eggs Neg
3rd cycle cousins eggs Neg
4th cycle unknown donor eggs Neg
Going to have sisters eggs Feb 06
NEVER GIVE UP!
Hi Dagny.....
You are such an amazing person, to be thinking of others at a time like this....
You have been such an inspiration to everyone and I think its a brilliant idea...........I am sure what ever title you choose everyone on the boards will back you up............
Its good to hear you are not going to give up and I really hope with all my heart you get your dream and I know when you do you will still keep Katelyns memory alive.........I am sure she is with the angels and when you are feeling strong enough to cycle again, dont forget she will be by your side, holding your hand..........
take care Dagny
Sarah
xxxxx
You are such an amazing person, to be thinking of others at a time like this....
You have been such an inspiration to everyone and I think its a brilliant idea...........I am sure what ever title you choose everyone on the boards will back you up............
Its good to hear you are not going to give up and I really hope with all my heart you get your dream and I know when you do you will still keep Katelyns memory alive.........I am sure she is with the angels and when you are feeling strong enough to cycle again, dont forget she will be by your side, holding your hand..........
take care Dagny
Sarah
xxxxx
Oh Sarah and Traci
You are both so sweet. Sarah your last sentence had me in tears. What a beautiful thing to say. I never looked at it that way that in times of worry, sadness and happiness Katelyn will be there at my side holding my hand. That thought will be with me forever - thank you.
I am doing this for not only me but others too as I have to keep my mind busy. I don't think I can go back to work yet if at all. It could be Katelyn's legacy to help me help others. I am going to look into supplying very, very tiny clothes for prem babies as we couldn't find anything small enough to bury Katelyn in. All clothes start from 3lb and she was 1lb 6oz. Who knows? Watch this space.
I am crossing my fingers for both of you that your treatments are successful this time. You both so deserve it. I has to work this time!
Traci - wonderful news on your donor eggs, I am so happy for you.
Take care you both
Love Dagny xx
You are both so sweet. Sarah your last sentence had me in tears. What a beautiful thing to say. I never looked at it that way that in times of worry, sadness and happiness Katelyn will be there at my side holding my hand. That thought will be with me forever - thank you.
I am doing this for not only me but others too as I have to keep my mind busy. I don't think I can go back to work yet if at all. It could be Katelyn's legacy to help me help others. I am going to look into supplying very, very tiny clothes for prem babies as we couldn't find anything small enough to bury Katelyn in. All clothes start from 3lb and she was 1lb 6oz. Who knows? Watch this space.
I am crossing my fingers for both of you that your treatments are successful this time. You both so deserve it. I has to work this time!
Traci - wonderful news on your donor eggs, I am so happy for you.
Take care you both
Love Dagny xx
Me 38 DH 40
1st 2nd & 4th IVF/ICSI -ve
3rd +ve DD Katelyn born @ 24wks & sadly died
5th +ve m/c 9wks
6th +ve Twins Sadly DD Leah stillborn @20wks and DS Kieran born @22wks but sadly died too
7th +ve - DD Chloë Mae born @38wks our precious miracle
1st 2nd & 4th IVF/ICSI -ve
3rd +ve DD Katelyn born @ 24wks & sadly died
5th +ve m/c 9wks
6th +ve Twins Sadly DD Leah stillborn @20wks and DS Kieran born @22wks but sadly died too
7th +ve - DD Chloë Mae born @38wks our precious miracle
Dagny
Left you a message on the other side - ooooooo sounds a bit weird!
Wanted to say I hope all 3 of you are going to get lucky - goodness knows you all deserve it.
Tmt is such a struggle and some of us have to go through more hopes than others - who knows why - certainly not me!
Katelyn will always be there to guide you Dagny - I always felt Oliver was there to guide me through the next tmt - he is just there at all sorts of times. I have got back from another walk with the dog - twice today and I thought how much he would have loved being there with me and Gabbie and then thought that he was there with us..........
I never went back to work and decided to shut one door and open another - I hope you do the same - fab idea
Love to you all
Tracey
xxx
Left you a message on the other side - ooooooo sounds a bit weird!
Wanted to say I hope all 3 of you are going to get lucky - goodness knows you all deserve it.
Tmt is such a struggle and some of us have to go through more hopes than others - who knows why - certainly not me!
Katelyn will always be there to guide you Dagny - I always felt Oliver was there to guide me through the next tmt - he is just there at all sorts of times. I have got back from another walk with the dog - twice today and I thought how much he would have loved being there with me and Gabbie and then thought that he was there with us..........
I never went back to work and decided to shut one door and open another - I hope you do the same - fab idea
Love to you all
Tracey
xxx
ttc 9 years. 38 yrs old, dh 8 hrs younger!First IVF in Aug 2002 and had ectopic.2nd IVF neg.3rd FET and negative.4th FET and positive but sadly lost our little boy at 20 weeks.5th FET and Alice Isobel and Emily Charlotte born 5th Aug 2004!
Dagny, we have not "spoken" before, but I was gutted to hear your very sad news and very moved by your posting.
I think it is an absolutely wonderful idea to have a dedicated site on the BB and your idea for the extra small clothes is a really good one. I know someone who sadly lost her baby last weekend at 25 weeks - he lived one day and only weighed just over 1 lb - and she said the same thing about the baby clothes.
I think you have amazing strength to plough your energies into something so positive at this time, I am filled with admiration for you.
With lots of love and positive vibes for the future,
Trix
I think it is an absolutely wonderful idea to have a dedicated site on the BB and your idea for the extra small clothes is a really good one. I know someone who sadly lost her baby last weekend at 25 weeks - he lived one day and only weighed just over 1 lb - and she said the same thing about the baby clothes.
I think you have amazing strength to plough your energies into something so positive at this time, I am filled with admiration for you.
With lots of love and positive vibes for the future,
Trix
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Hi Dagny
I am so sorry about hear about Katelyn......your story made me cry...I don't know what to say really, I think Sarah's words put it best.....you will get your dream with your own little angel to guide you there.
I think that Treasured Memories is a wonderful name for the forum.
Wishing you all the luck in the world for the future
Love
JenFx
I am so sorry about hear about Katelyn......your story made me cry...I don't know what to say really, I think Sarah's words put it best.....you will get your dream with your own little angel to guide you there.
I think that Treasured Memories is a wonderful name for the forum.
Wishing you all the luck in the world for the future
Love
JenFx
Thank you Trixi for your kind words.
It's the people on here who give me strength to keep on going.
I too was very saddened to read your news. You were so excited and happy that your FET had worked only for it all to be taken away just like that. It can be so cruel this whole IVF business and I will never understand why some of us have such a bad deal. At least we can help each other through the dark days and bad times and then on brighter moments be happy and positive.
My heart goes out to the family who lost their little boy last weekend. I am sorry to hear this has happened. Was she IVF too?
Wishing you lots of luck and a sprinkle of baby dust. Are you going to try again?
Love Dagny xx
It's the people on here who give me strength to keep on going.
I too was very saddened to read your news. You were so excited and happy that your FET had worked only for it all to be taken away just like that. It can be so cruel this whole IVF business and I will never understand why some of us have such a bad deal. At least we can help each other through the dark days and bad times and then on brighter moments be happy and positive.
My heart goes out to the family who lost their little boy last weekend. I am sorry to hear this has happened. Was she IVF too?
Wishing you lots of luck and a sprinkle of baby dust. Are you going to try again?
Love Dagny xx
Me 38 DH 40
1st 2nd & 4th IVF/ICSI -ve
3rd +ve DD Katelyn born @ 24wks & sadly died
5th +ve m/c 9wks
6th +ve Twins Sadly DD Leah stillborn @20wks and DS Kieran born @22wks but sadly died too
7th +ve - DD Chloë Mae born @38wks our precious miracle
1st 2nd & 4th IVF/ICSI -ve
3rd +ve DD Katelyn born @ 24wks & sadly died
5th +ve m/c 9wks
6th +ve Twins Sadly DD Leah stillborn @20wks and DS Kieran born @22wks but sadly died too
7th +ve - DD Chloë Mae born @38wks our precious miracle
Dagny, thanks for the message.
No, the baby was not IVF. The family does have a little boy already, but sadly he was born with a heart defect and he has had to go through a lot of operations already in his short life. He and they are coping brilliantly though and he is a lovely little chap, but it really makes you feel that some people really do get the sh*tty end of the stick.
Yes, I am going to launch myself back in as soon as I can, hopefully in a month. The consultant suggested a go at the short protocol if the FET was unsuccessful, as I didn't respond very well on the long protocol. So we will see what that brings.
You're right though, this board is a real help, strange it is sometimes easier to talk to people who you have never met! Thanks again for your message,
love Trixie
No, the baby was not IVF. The family does have a little boy already, but sadly he was born with a heart defect and he has had to go through a lot of operations already in his short life. He and they are coping brilliantly though and he is a lovely little chap, but it really makes you feel that some people really do get the sh*tty end of the stick.
Yes, I am going to launch myself back in as soon as I can, hopefully in a month. The consultant suggested a go at the short protocol if the FET was unsuccessful, as I didn't respond very well on the long protocol. So we will see what that brings.
You're right though, this board is a real help, strange it is sometimes easier to talk to people who you have never met! Thanks again for your message,
love Trixie
Dagny
What a wonderful idea that is just wanted to let you know how sorry i was to hear of your sad loss the girls are right tho katelyn will be with you all the way holding you up at times of struggle and holding tightly to your hand all the way thro your next cycle
thankyou for the offer of a auto pen it was so so kind of you i have left a post on my other thread.
sending you all my love
Love Ang
xxx
What a wonderful idea that is just wanted to let you know how sorry i was to hear of your sad loss the girls are right tho katelyn will be with you all the way holding you up at times of struggle and holding tightly to your hand all the way thro your next cycle
thankyou for the offer of a auto pen it was so so kind of you i have left a post on my other thread.
sending you all my love
Love Ang
xxx
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Hi Dagny,
Its a wonderful idea, I do think about you every day and how it must be so sad to lose someone so precious, I feel for you and for Tracey when she lost her little one but you have to try and stay strong. I think your idea is great and whatever you choose I think it will be good.
Love
Shell.
xx
Its a wonderful idea, I do think about you every day and how it must be so sad to lose someone so precious, I feel for you and for Tracey when she lost her little one but you have to try and stay strong. I think your idea is great and whatever you choose I think it will be good.
Love
Shell.
xx