HEARTBROKEN!!!

[ruthiej74]

Well, I got my test results back..a big fat NEGATIVE!!! I am so heartbroken. I don't understand why so many people that shouldn't have children can and why some people who would make wonderful parents can't get pregnant. I don't understand what happened...they put in 3 awesome embryos and none of them took...what is wrong with me???

[Ghost]

Well, I got my test results back..a big fat NEGATIVE!!! I am so heartbroken. I don't understand why so many people that shouldn't have children can and why some people who would make wonderful parents can't get pregnant. I don't understand what happened...they put in 3 awesome embryos and none of them took...what is wrong with me???

Sorry to hear that.

It's not your fault. Most IVF cycles fail. Even the ones with so-called "perfect embryos" often fail.

It's not just the embryos. If it was just the embryo, then there would be no need to ever transfer three perfect embryos in hopes to get at least one to implant. There are other factors at work.

Did you have any frozen?

[sammycat]

I'm so very sorry Most of us have been there and it hurts bad. Maybe it's too soon to ask, but will you be trying again?

[ruthiej74]

I have a consult with the Dr. on July 14th to talk about everything. I have one more egg retrieval left on my insurance so we will probably try one more time. I didn't have any left to freeze because the rest didn't make it. We were hoping to have some to freeze but it never happened.

[Julie nurse]

Ruthie,

I'm so sad for you honey and know it feels hopeless right now. Please don't give up on your mommy dreams. One day your angel will arrive!!!!

[baylorbear33]

I completely understand your sadness and anger. While we have been very lucky to get pregnant each time via IVF and two FET's, we have lost those pregnancies, one at 19 weeks. I am currently pregnant, but in a state of constant worry that something is going to happen. I'm glad to hear that your insurance will cover one more cycle. I can also tell you that my DH and I will absolutely go through the adoption process if we are unsuccessful with this pregnancy. We refuse to give up on being parents, and if adoption will bring us our miracle, then we are going to do it. I hope you are able to get your questions answered by the Dr. on 7/14 and feel good about your next cycle.

[becboo]

Am sorry to hear about your experience...Am sure you will be successful in the future...

I have just had a course of IVF stopped as there are over 50 Follicles as a result of being given too much Menopur..the nurse told me the follicles looked really healthy, which is well and good but for fear of hyperstimulation they will have to stop

I have already miscarried in the past and have had 2 unsucessful IUI's I am 39 nearly and know that dont have much time left...Like you I wonder why some parents get to have children so easily, when they are not bothered, it doesn't seem right...

On the plus side, I am sure it will work for you in the future. You are not on your own

[ruthiej74]

Thank you so much for your words of support. I am very sorry to hear about your canceled IVF. That has to be really frustrating but just think next time they will know better. I am trying to keep positive by thinking the more cycles they go through they more they learn so hopefully this next one will be it for me. Thanks again for your support and good luck!!!

[mally]

Ruthie you are in our thoughts, it is a difficult journey, but keep up the strong will and determination that you have high, our prayers will be answered soon.

[ZL]

Don't give up please. I feel your pain. I believe that everyone will have her or his miracle at some time in life. Yours will come soon.