trying to keep the faith

Discussion forum for those who had completed their IVF treatments without a successful outcome and are seeking other options such as adoption, surrogacy etc.
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kimberli
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trying to keep the faith

Post by kimberli »

I just got my results from my second ivf treatment today and they were negative. I feel so sad, angry, and frustrated. After the first time I thought ok some things were not perfect and there were explanations for it, so we'll try again. This time around everything seemed to be better. I was home during the whole duration so I rested and barely did anything. I ate well and stayed away from foods I shouldn't eat. After all the precautions and meds I'm still not pregnant. I have a friend who took 4 tries to get preganant with twins, so I know there is hope. I'm 32 and healthy so why can't I do the one thing women are suppose to do? I just wish there was something that could make everything easier and take away the sadness I'm feeling. How does anyone cope?
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Post by ls4 »

Don't give up. At least you were brave enough to go through two. I only went through one and one FET. I misscarried with the FET and I think I am still grieving from the process. Its hard to deal with and unfair. I guess We all have no choice but to go on hoping one day to achieve that dream of being a mom. Some how some way it will happen. Good Luck! I'll keep you in my prayers
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Thanks Lisa for the support. I completely understanding the grieving. It feels as if a part of you is just breaking. All I and most of us want is a family which as women we should be able to do . Thankfully science allows us options but isn't perfect. I just have a hard time accepting the failure and dissapointment. I meet with dr tomorrow for our follow up so hopefully he'll have some answers for us. You're in my prayers too.
Kimberli
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Post by Grace35 »

Hi Kimberli,

Hang in there. I failed my first IVF and my second is coming up, so I may soon know how you feel. It is very frustrating and it makes me angry also. I work with pregnant teenage girls, and it's so hard to hear their terrible stories of fathers who deny the child, multiple abortions, etc. and think of how much it would mean to me to just get pregnant once!! It doesn't seem like we're asking too much, does it.

What did your dr say is next for you? I hope your future plans are bringing you comfort.

Grace
Me:36 DH:37
1st IVF: BFN
2nd IVF: BFP, had a m/c
3rd IVF: FET, BFP. Baby Girl born 10/13/09!!!
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Hi Grace,
Thanks for the support. I am getting ready to go through trial 3. My retrieval is wed. My dr said that if it doesn't work this time he is going to reccommend a laporoscopy ( removal of my one tube that was closed and they opened)/ He said that there have been studies that have shown that if fluids are not being flushed out of the tubesand going back into the uterus it can cause problems with the implantation process. So there is still hope. My dr said that there is no reason I should not get preganant it's just a matter of finding what will work best for me. Hopefully the third time is the charm. My fingers are crossed and I'm staying positive and doing yoga for meditation and relaxation.
HOw are things with you?
Kimberli
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don't lose hope

Post by elles »

hi kimberly
just browsing the board i see your post dated 2007. i just hope by now you have had your dream come true but if not i beg you to not to lose hope. there s light at the end of the tunnel. i battle with infertility for almost 8 years and not forgetting the miscarriage in between including an ectopic too. to make matters worse IVF is not availabe in my country so i depended on nature and prayer and let me tell you that it did work out fine as on the 13th April 2008 i gave birth to a preciouse gift of all called kerryl-maria.
so my dear freind you are in my prayer and i wish you all the best.

elles
I am very happy to find a place where one can read and exchange views.I want to create freindship through email because I want other to help me in my pain to achieve my deam of getting pregnant.
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Post by misssuzabella »

Oh ogsh I am so right there with you..how to cope. I just found out my first IVF round failed yesterday and was crushed basically the rest of the day. I have to tell you it took everything in me to get up and do something today but once I did I just started thinking about what I really wanted, which is to be a mom and the idea of givnig up kind of just went right out the window. Luckily I also have a great hubby who was telling me the exact same thing yesterday. I guess the only way to cope is to give yourself a day or two to kick and scream and cry your heart out but then when its over refocus and go for it again :) There is always hope !
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you are in my prayer.

Post by elles »

hi to you

every time i read about what you are feeling i feel sad for you however i will always tell you that there is light at the end of the tunnel. Everyday i pray for people who want to have their dream of becoming a mum to come true.
May be you should try and focus on other things in life instead of thinking of getting pregnant. I did this and concentrated on enjoying my marriage and not fucusing on getting pregnant but not neglectting my prayers and it paid off.
Baby kerryl-maria is 15 month old and some times i think that if i kept on thinking of getting ptegnant she will never have come. when i discoverd i was pregnant it came as a shock as i was not thinking about it.

god will surely make your dream come true, and when it come dont forget to let me know so that i can thank the almighty for you.
All the best
elles
I am very happy to find a place where one can read and exchange views.I want to create freindship through email because I want other to help me in my pain to achieve my deam of getting pregnant.
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Re: trying to keep the faith

Post by Shiella »

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Re: trying to keep the faith

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